Hello, I'll try and shorten my journey that has brought me to this site. I have been married for 13 years to a man whose 29 yr old daughter has been diagnosed as bring bipolar. I'm not sure if this puts a light on all the issues but it makes sense.
My stepdaughter and mines relationship took a turn for the worse in 2004 and it has truly been a living hell every since then. I have moved out of my home in order for her to have a place to live (which her dad was supposed to try and help her out on life,which he did not) that was a disaster and I had to let it get repossessed , mobile home, it was so trashed that ins wouldn't even pay yo repair it. Then she has a child who is 7 now. That has been a huge hold on my husband. She moved in with us again in 2010 for 4 months and can I say that was truly the worst 4 months of my life. This girl has no regards or respect for anyone or anything...is this part of it? And now I am being told she has to move in again! Because she can't hold down a job so therefore can't support herself. She was fired Mon from a $40,000 a year job. So now there is a car payment, ins and cell phone bill that obviously she can't pay. Needless to say there has not been a year go by where he hasn't had to support her in some way...she has been living in a budget suites because she has left too many leases without fulfilling them, and had had 2 that her dad put in his name so get can't either. She owes money to every cell phone and electric co there is here in TX. Am I just plain stupid to still be involved with all this?
Now the real problem....the 7 year old. He is in first because he flunked out kindergarten, he is majorly overweight , wearing a 14 husky,. This poor child has not ever lived in the same place for longer than 6 months , they have even slept in her car, which is why I'm being told she is coming here instead of her car...the father knows nothing of all this, or at least I don't think he does. Do I take responsibility and call him or call CPS? I don't doubt that she loves him, she just isn't giving him the stability he needs. I hate seeing what he goes thru even though he's a pretty happy kid but he always wants food. Comfort maybe? Her dad thinks it will send her over the edge if he's taken away but I don't think there's any choice here.
My husband is so distraught over this again as she has alienated everyone else in her life. Which it could very well send him over the edge or hospital.
So is this how life is always going to be with a bipolar person? If so I'm pretty sure I can't deal with it. I told him maybe he needed to see about having her committed and get her the help he can't provide. She is on meds but of course doesn't always take them like she should. Her and I together is like acid on skin,,very volatile., there are so many stories why that I'll save you from reading them. I just need to know if this is something that can be helped if not I need to bail out.
Any and all advice is greatly appreciated,
Thank you so much....View Thread
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