I am so very sorry to hear about your young son !!!
My daughter was diagnosed at 6.5 with "mood disorder", and I understand how difficult this all is !!!!
I have written a bunch of posts on this community board, and always want to encourage and help other parents who are struggling.
So, is your son on any medication now? What about his current Psychiatrist ? I feel the exact diagnosis isn't important, as much as the fact that the Dr. medicates for the symptoms.......and whether its working or not ? From the sounds of it, things are not working now. What does his Dr. say ??
You need help, support and guidance, because raising a child like ours is exhausting, draining, isolating, and scary. Not to mention what its doing to your little boy.
I always like to mention NAMI - - have you checked with your local chapter for help and support ?
If you write back with your city and state of residence, I can try and find you some local resources to contact.
You're welcome, I really do understand and empathize with your situation. (((((((((HUGS))))))))
That's great you are going to a CHADD meeting, but I still urge you to look into NAMI - they too are a wonderful, supportive organization. It feels so good to find other parents who understand the life we lead and our struggles. Also, you may be able to find some good local resources that can help your son.
Here are some more links for you to explore and call - - maybe one will lead you to find a Dr. for your son. A good Dr. is so very important in helping your son succeed long-term.
Boy, do I understand !!!!!! - and am sorry your son is struggling right now.
First off, what about his Psychiatrist? My daughter's psychiatrist has been our greatest tool in helping my daughter "stay-on-track". As difficult as it is to pay for visits every week - sometimes we did have to go in every week. Typically, my daughter see's her psychiatrist every month now. So, if your son's psychiatrist isn't stepping up, and helping with medication adjustments - or even new med trials if it has gotten to that point, then you need to find a new Dr. !!
Like you mentioned, this move to High School may be the trigger that has set him off - - not to mention his age, puberty and growth.......
Does your son have an IEP - or a 504 ?? That would be my 2nd course of action (first being the Psychiatrist). If not - write back, and I will give you some ideas there.
Lastly, have you looked into your local NAMI for support? I mean, support for you !! You need help, local resources and some other parents behind you who GET IT ! Most parents don't get it - - they think the child is just lazy or bad, and then they blame the parents for not parenting properly - ugh, I know!!!
Yes, there are plenty of us parents out here who deal with exactly what you describe. Its hard, no doubt about it - - very hard! ((((((HUGS))))))
Ok, so first things first........Does your son see a Child Psychiatrist? Was a psychiatrist the first one to diagnose and treat him?
My daughter, who is now 13, was diagnosed at age 6 with mood disorder and adhd symptoms. From all my years of learning (thru her Psychiatrist, and The Balanced Mind Foundation), and medication trials, I do know that a child with "mood issues" can often times (more likely than not), do worse off on adhd meds and antidepressants.... Your son is on both - and that makes me think it could possibly be those meds making him worse - not the risperdal.
A typical protocol for this type of child, is to 1st stabilize their mood, using a mood stabilizer medication and an add atypical antipsychotic medication, like risperdal, or seroquel etc... 2nd - once mood is stable, very cautiously, and slowly add on an adhd med., or antidepressant.
Have you read The Bipolar Child yet?? If not, I highly recommend it. I have read it twice and its an easy, fast, read. http://bipolarchild.com/
I am happy to help with local resources, ideas and my experiences if you'd like. I understand how hard it is to parent a child like this, and you need support for yourself !!
Next, set up an appointment for you and your husband to go talk to him/her about his son (without the step-son there). When you meet with the Dr. have a list of behaviors you want to discuss and see what the Dr. says..... Maybe if your husband hears from someone else (other than you), that there is something wrong, he will be more open to treatment.
This is really tough, and now there is a little person watching her brother act out - and honestly, it could become dangerous for her as the little guy gets older and stronger, because its doubtful his melt-downs and anger will just stop on their own.
Take care, and write back anytime. -KathleenView Thread