Nancy, here's wishing you the best birthday ever! I know you will spend it with family and friends who will give you love, hugs and happiness today. Am sending the same to you today.. Gentle hugs my friend.. Linda RView Thread
cece, sadly it comes to point where assisted living is the only way left to go. 1.) because you just can't do it alone any longer and 2.) you are frazzled, worn out and stressed to the limit. At this point you're big heart and love can't do it any longer. They need more than you can give. Also, as each day passes they need more and more physical attention. Let alone the things you need to do with paper work, talking to dr's, etc. It's hard to let go of their day to day care, but at this point, for your health and well being, it's time to look around for a place near by that will care for them each day and you can still be a hands on daughter making the very necessary decisions for their care. Believe me it was the hardest thing I have ever done when I handed her care over to someone else.
As for Cali and assisted living it was up there when I went looking. Good assisted living doesn't come cheap but I did find a few nice places near us that I thought would work. My MIL's health took a nose dive before we picked one out and instead we had to find a convalescent home for her. Well the Social Services lady did and let us know where she had been moved. Anyway,they charged 2,000 a month way back in 1985. The state picked up what the SS check didn't. The family bought what few things she needed like extras and clothes.
It's sad that you have both parents that need constant care. This was a point in your life you would have wished never to have. It's Not fair really.
I am sending love and support to you and know that you will find the right assisted living care center for your mom and dad. LindaView Thread
Good Wednesday MiMI and to all those that will follow my post. I hope your day is starting off well. I hope that each of you will have a fibro issue and pain free day.
No sun, again, today. Rainy and gray here. It will be 73, I think, they promised 80 and some sun. Not yet anyway. More like late March or early April.. just gray. Would say it was depressing but everywhere my eyes glance it's green with colors.
DH and I didn't do much yesterday. Didn't go to the movies. Instead we went to DD's to collect the bulk of our tools, ladders and guns. Just as we got there the inspector was leaving. The deck passed with flying colors and now we can finish it by putting in insulation, ceiling panels and a fan. Just in time for a Father's Day cook out.
Went to ROSS's yesterday and got a few nice things on the cheap. Today 5% off at the market so I 'll pick up a few things there. DH and I get our back's adjusted. Tomorrow I go to get my hearing checked... this has me worried. I just can't lose any hearing in the only ear I have left. Just can't. I know the fluid is gone from my ear, that's good, but gosh I hope there's no change in my hearing level. I'll see the ENT afterwards and I sure hope it's good news.
Also I will be asking my ENT about what I can do to make sure I don't have fluid build up in the good ear again. I will also need to keep it clear so if/ when I have to fly out to Los Angeles I can do so without worries that I have fluid in that ear. They may offer me a tube... and you know I may take um up on it. And also DH, I, DD, SIL and GC will be flying to NC to spend the 4th of July with DD and family.. I need clear ears to do that.
DH made our reservations at DisneyWorld for our annual Labor Day visit to the Happiest ( and too expensive ) Place on Earth yesterday. DH and I said after our 11 hour drive to NC in April we wouldn't do a long drive like that again for awhile. So instead of a 10 hour drive to Orlando in September we got tickets to fly. We'll be down in Orlando for 5 days @ Christmas too. Love being there during the holidays.. they do them so beautifully.
MiMi, am so glad that things worked out well and that everything is okay now.
Cory, hope the first day of the new job went smoothly.
Hellos to Nancy B, cece, Lou, Mel, Jeanne and Lisa. Wishing everyone a great day... Gentle hugs my friends, Linda RView Thread
cece, we didn't go to the movies, I caught a break! We went to DD's instead. And anyway I really don't want to see it. The reviews are good but I saw Earthquake back in the 70's. Same film new actors. And you know that lady um her name is Lucy something, she always goes on tv to talk about any earthquakes that happen in Cali, darn I can't think of what gov agency she works for, anyway she was a consultant on the film and said it was 1.1% accurate.
And on that note, and I know she knows my late uncle, our family geophysicist and about his report about what a major quake in LA would do. Damage, ext. Years ago he was contracted by the government to see what a 9.0 quake would do to LA and the surrounding area. You know the Valley, coast line..and he and his team of scientists after a year or two of testing and research concluded LA, being sand based, taking that kind of movement, shaking, upshifting, it would liquefy and the buildings would sink into the ' quicksand ' that kind of movement would create. Bottom line LA would be devastated. And the reason the government wanted to know this was they wanted to know what their financial responsibility would be. My uncle and his team figured it would be 25 years to rebuild and Billions upon billions.
So for those reasons and others I didn't want to go. I love Cali and don't want to think about the SA moving or any of the other faults shifting. Gentle hugs dear friend... Linda
Good Tuesday one and all. As always I hope your today is good. I hope it is fibro issue and pain free and I do hope the sun is shining where you are today.
Wish the sun were shining here. 4 days in a row where it's been overcast and rainy. As for warmth the best we can hope for is 71, again. UGH. It will warm up and dry out tomorrow and we'll be good for a few days running. Yey that!
Not much to post about. DH and I keep making runs out to DD's. Forgotten keys, phone, wallet, etc. Get half way home and notice we've or they have left things and need to get them back to the. UGH. Today the new deck gets inspected and I do so hope it passes with flying colors. It should, we did it to code and it looks amazing.
DH wants to see the movie San Andreas. Me I'd pass on it. I know I will be flying out there soon and UGH don't want to deal with worries that the fault line might sift, badly. Anyway back in the day I owned a 1/4 acre of land that my father bought in the Salton Sea area. Just desert land next to the Salton Sea. It sat right on the rim of the SA fault. I mean if you looked at the back of my property there it was. There was a sign right across from my land that warmed ppl to be aware that gulley was the San Andreas fault. Scary. So I'd rather do something else today, but DH has been doing for other all week so off the movie I go.
Speaking of going, let me get off line here.. MiMi congratulations on your anniversary.. Wishing you many, many more happy married years.
Mel, when school's out life as we know it stops..
Hello's to cece, Lou, Cory, Jeanne, Lisa and Nancy B . Have a great day everyone. Gentle hugs my friends, Linda RView Thread
cece,thanks for the well wishes.. it's been gray here for days. I hate this! It's overcast, rainy and ' winter ' dreary. Checked the little rain catcher yesterday and we've gotten nearly 4" of rain over the past 4 days. We need it like we need a hole in the head.
I'm so sorry that your mom and dad are, again, not doing well. I am sure that it's beyond frustrating and stressful to not see them making any progress towards the good. One always hopes that when those we love are ill there's a corner that they can turn around and that they can have more good days rather than slipping backwards.
I too wish I had made it out to Cali. The water in my ear is gone now and I could fly but I have to go Thursday to Vanderbilt, ( is a " sister" medical/ teaching hospital system and is linked into the UC Medical systems ), to have a hearing test to check if I've lost any hearing because of the fluid build up. Either way, loss or no, I have to see what they are going to do about keeping the allergies from again building water up in my ears. UGH
I am sure Rudy and I will be out there pretty soon to attend a funeral. Now we sadly have to make the choice as to which one it will be. His sister, 87, has Hodgkins again, and says she will not do Cimo. It's in her lower extremities this time and she is in Kaiser Irwindale with pneumonia and very low blood levels. Our ex sister in law, Ruby, is in end stage Lupus and has given UCLA all the paperwork that lets the know ' To just let me die" . She is weak, can't walk, can't hold food down and is blind in one eye. She says she has no quality of life and wishes to hell everyone there would just let nature take it's course.. but so far each time she gets ill they rush her to UCLA. So I'm dealing with 2 very seriously ill people that want to just let it go and when they do, depending on how close or apart their passing is, if we can fly out to attend their funeral. Ugh, This is so a life learning experience I could have passed on learning.
Oh, I see Gov Brown ( I used to call him Moonbeam, heehee ) and the Senate have put in place these over the top fines for ' over water ' use and restrictions on showers, baths and toilet use. Really? And Beverly Hills ppl are still watering their lawns. Always the way with LA. Beverly Hills and the everyone else. UGH. I know my friends and family in the Valley feel the inequity, always have. I really hope it rains and rains a lot and soon.
cece, hoping that things take a good turn for you parents.. Have a good today... sending air hugs to you as always, LindaView Thread
Good 1st day of June y'all. I do hope the first day of this month is going well and that fibro issues or pain are not a part of you day or evening.
June? Really? Not late March or early May? It's overcast, cool at 73 and rainy. Hello Mother Nature it's June I'd like you to get me June's sunshine and warm temps... okay? It has rained off and on for the past 4 days.. been muggy and sticky and not enjoyable at all.
Anyway, we were supposed to be in LA this weekend enjoying sun and surf and Disneyland.. NOT. DH burned up 4 of his 6 days of vacation by building a screened in back porch for our DD. Big job and it was draining. We have come home tired and half dead even with help from DD, SIL, GS and two of SIL's brothers. So yesterday we stepped back and knew we were done and ready for inspection. It looks great and DD is over the moon happy. DH and I had figured to to make up for being here these past days we'd head to the Gulf today, BUT yesterday just as we were doing the finishing work, we both had medical issues. So we went to the Vanderbilt Walk In clinic to find out why he had a rash on both his arms and why the heck my eyes were burning red. Well he has Poison Ivy and I have Pink Eye. UGH. And we'd have had these issues in LA. So here we are just doing stuff around the house.
Okay, let me close here.. nothing much worth posting about in my neck of the woods..
Have a great day everyone.. wishing you warmth, sunshine and soft breezes.. no fibro issues or pain. Gentle hugs my friends, Linda RView Thread
Good Thursday MiMi and to all that will follow. I hope your day is a good one. I hope fibro issues or pain are not a part of your day and that the sun is shining and the weather is warm.
It's overcast here and muggy and it will rain at some point i'm sure. We got about an inch yesterday in a downpour that lasted 20 minutes. The rain comes in spurts from this storms and when it does the clouds just open up. The roads flood before the rain stops so it's slow going if you are out on the roads as we were yesterday. And the warm 80 degrees is making the weather stick one's skin. Again, not how I imagined spring would be back when ice or snow was on the ground. I swore I'd not complain about weather that we got in the spring, but if this keeps up I may have to break my own promise. UGH.
I got an email from my Vanderbilt ENT doctor about the fluid in my good ear. They have scheduled me for a hearing exam on the 4th to make sure this fluid has not damaged the ear or that I haven't lost any of my hearing. I just had a hearing test 6 months ago so I do hope that it shows that I haven't done anything to what hearing I have left. And up until this I wasn't bothered much by the allergy season, now I may be more concerned about it because it causes ear trouble. Nothing is ever easy with those of us with fibro.
DH is at DD's working with our SIL putting the roof up on the back porch. I was going to drive over but DH took my SUV and I don't like driving his SATURN in the rain. So I am home bound until he gets home which should be around noon.
Funny story. DD has this cat.She's 2 now and her name is Moshie. She's a rescue cat and they've had her since she was a few weeks old. She seems to be a gray Burmese. My DD treats it like a child, loves it to death and everything is Moshie driven. Well I was at DD's a few days ago and was minding my own business putting on makeup their kitchen table. I had out my make up and had the loses cheek powder open. I bought it at a Bare Minerals Mall store and paid around 27 dollars for it. Well out of no where Moshi jumps up on the table and her front paw lands smack in the middle of the jar of cheek powder. The jar overturned, powder went everywhere and when it settled the cat was pink. I mean the paws, chest, face. And she was giving me a dirty look. I sent a picture to DD in her classroom and told her someone is replacing the powder. She had a good laugh, I learned never to take loose makeup power to her house and yesterday I replaced it with a pressed case of the same as I used.
Jeanne, I do hope God is listening. I hope her journey from this point on is a peaceful and painless one. She told me yesterday, between sobs, that she just suffers so. She is on so many pain medications many days she just sleeps to get the day done. She made a promise to herself last New Year's. She said if she gets better, holds her own against Lupus she'd fight. Said she'd give it everything she has. If on the other hand she loses more ground, got sicker and they don't help her, she just wants to leave all the pain and medical problems behind. I hate to hear that, we've been friends for over 40 years. Yet I do understand and want only what she does. She has had so much pain, depression and disappointment dealing with this illness. Her husband, who has stayed steady by her side is a the breaking point and I can't do anything but be supportive.#BREAKINGMYHEART.
MiMi, I used to love to go the kindergartner's graduations. They are just so darn cute those little ones dressed in little robes and caps. Seems like just yesterday that I attended my oldest granddaughter's. In two weeks she will be graduating from High School and is heading to the Air Force Academy. I was looking at her picture yesterday and am so amazed as how fast time flies by. It's so true, enjoy them while their young.
Not much to post about today so will close this here by sending well wishes to all. Have a really nice day. Gentle hugs my friends, Linda RView Thread
Happy Hump day everyone. Just me, the energizer bunny, LOL, checking in to say HI and wish each of you a good day.
I say I am the energizer bunny cause the steroids have kicked in and I am up and zooming around doing this and doing that. My goodness it's amazes me that I can do so much and not be tired. Everything seems to easy to me today.. I know that in 5 days I will no longer be the up and mover I am now, but it'll be nice while it lasts.
It's semi overcast here. Rain due later today and rain like we've had all the way into the first week of June. Not how I had envisioned May and June to be. But our light rain is no where near as bad as in Texas. I do hope the states that have gotten more water than they could have ever wanted get some relief soon.
Nothing much to post about. DH and I will be doing quick trip to the Gulf next weekend when we are sure the fluid is gone from my good ear. Until then DH will keep himself busy with building DD's back porch.
My BFF is Cali is hanging in there. They told her she has a blocked artery/ clot/ to her heart. A hernia in her abdomen and a rotator cuff tear and since she is in End Stage Lupus UCLA will not do a thing about any of it. She said she is kinda glad we'll be in a few weeks. Since she said UCLA is running tests and more test on her all week.
I'm expecting another call from my other friend in Cali as she finds out today if her cancer got away from the thyroid. I've been so concerned for them and have been busy praying for my friends I do hope God has been listening.
Will let you go as the DISH guy is due here in a bit.. Have a good day. A fibro issue and pain free day. Gentle hugs my friends, Linda RView Thread
Nancy, I was in shock after the doctor checked both ears and said fluid in the ear. I'm so used to having issues with the left one where I have a permanent tube that I said okay. Then I said where's the fluid.. he said the right. I took a deep breath and asked again.. Which ear?" The right.. OMG NOOOO it's all I have left to hear with.. NOOOO.
The right ear has stayed steady and TG for that If it starts to go I'm doomed. So he said flying was not a good idea.. so we called and texted everyone in Cali and let them know it will be a few more weeks before we go out.. Yeah, not in the cards this time. My GF who works for Vanderbilt at the clinic is bring home a note from the doctor in case I have problems getting refunds for flight, car and hotel cancellations.
And I took the Vietnam era as my area of expertize in college and for two years researched and studied every aspect of it. I had book about some aspect of it under my nose for 2 years. And all because I made the sorry mistake of telling a professor who asked me what I'd like to specialize in and thinking the easiest area in History would be the Vietnam War I said that. OMG really bad mistake.. it's the most recorded War in the History of man. And this professor was using the Oxford still of study. I'd read a book he'd assign one week, the next week I'd go to his office and he'd ask just one question about something in the book. He'd know two things by my answer: that I'd read the book and that I understood the content. UGH. But hey I am a wiz about all things Vietnam.
And you're right there is such a sadness in almost everything about it.