laura, thanks for the compliment. I learned the few shopping tricks over the years because I had to. The reason I shop as I do now is that I dug DH and myself into a 250 thousand dollar whole 10 years ago and when DH retired in 2005 his income dropped from 100 thousand a year to a 34 thousand pension, and we lost most of our medical, dental and vision coverage and OMG there was no way but starve or file bankruptcy to get out of it. We felt we could dig ourselves out of it so we dug in.
DH went, after retiring, and got a job at LOWES to help make ends meet. Always felt so sorry for him as he rolled out of bed at 4 to be at work at 5:30. My t home job was to do everything I could to stretch every dime coming in and get the debt down. I learned to shop with store or manufacturer coupons and shop in stores on their discount days, on market discount days, Goodwill on discount days, I never paid full price for anything. I always changed service providers. I got TV, paper, Dish or cable or satellite on promotions. When they were up I'd call to cancel and they'd give me the latest promotion.
I can tell you there were so many times over the years we hunted for pennies to help put gas or food on the table. I say this truthfully our cupboards were bare a lot of the time. It seemed for awhile that every dollar we made went out before it came in. We sold our possessions to keep up with the bills, which I was always running behind on because checks weren't coming in on the dates the bills were due.
The good news is that we are finally ahead. We paid off the cars, the house. We are paying off a credit card a month now and closing the accounts and paying cash for everything. If we can't pay for it cash we do without it. We also are delighted that we have money in the savings for the first time in 10 years. My bills are paid weeks early. When I shop it's not done while worrying if I can afford what I'm looking for. I buy wisely. Still carry my coupon case with me when I head out the door and am not ashamed one bit to use those coupons or ask for the senior discount. To me it's just part of who I am now.
Good Tuesday one and all. I hope that your day is going along well and the sun is out where you are and that you are able to be out enjoy the day.
It's dreary, raining day here. The rain should should taper off and head east soon. Sorry MiMi and Mary. It's even going to warm up to 81 up in a few hours. I'll be glad of that. We've had strong storms coming through here since yesterday evening, some caused a light and sound show as they rumbled by. I was surprised that even this a.m. there were some that were really noisey. We didn't get hail, a lot of cities around Nashville did. Whew that. Our weather people are saying we should be ready for 4 - 6 days of rain possibilities.
Last night DH and got a few things from WalMart and as I was shopping I heard DH ask me if I wanted another small fish for my fish bowl. I said sure. I have one small male guppy that I call Zippy because he zips around and around the bowl at lightening speed in never ending circles. DH thought he might be lonely and need a friend. So he got a new one and it was weird watching them make friends. I amuse so easily these days. Their friends now and seem to get along.
I watched sports on TV. last night. I'm not in the habit of doing that or switching channels as there was the Lakers game and the Dodgers game all at the same time. UGH. It's so not like me to go from channel to channel but my LA teams were playing and I was interested in seeing how well Koby played in his first game back and the Dodgers were trying to get ahead of St Louis, so it was, for me, interesting and not to miss.
cece, I hear that the SD Chargers might be one of three teams thinking of making the move up to LA. No truth to that I hope. They've always been a perfect fit for SD. I hope they don't make the move. ST Louis Rams are thinking about moving back as are the Raiders.
No plans for my today. It's to wet to go out right now, but may make my usual trip of to ROSS to see if there is anything I'd care to buy on Discount to Seniors Tuesday when it clears up. I'm dragging today and I know it's because of the weather.. hopeful that when it clears up I will cheer up.
No phone calls from Los Angeles yesterday and we didn't call over there. I am guessing the my niece is resting comfortably and being given the medication for pain. My other niece is getting better from his double infusion of cimo last Wednesday. No updates on my SIL's live in help search, so things, right now, aren't to stressful for me.
So I will close this here with my best wishes to all for a very nice day. Gentle hugs, Linda RView Thread
Hi and Welcome hopeful53. LindaR here and I am sorry that you have the fibro DX, but am so glad you found your way to this site.
You said you need to talk, well this is the place to do that. We all have fibro so we all understand what your are dealing and going through. You will find that everyone here is caring, supportive and understanding. So please post here often and let all of us get to know you and you all of us.
Good Monday MiMI and to all that follow. I do hope today is a good one for everyone and that you were able to enjoy the weekend without dealing with fibro issues or pain.
It was really cold here over the weekend. We had a frost warning because it was 35 here one night and we had to bring in or cover our plants. Glad the rain held off until the next day when it warmed up or we'd had snow. It's going up to 72 today and high 70's for the next ten days. But rain chances all but two of them.
DH and I stayed home most of the weekend. We stopped at Goodwill for it's 1st Saturday of the month discount day. I got a pair of jeans and two really nice sweaters that look unused. No TJMAXX tags but am beating both were donated from there and DH got more Christmas stuff. We spent all of 7 dollars.
We spent some time on the yard getting it ready for winter and we watched ball games, baseball and football. Our basically slow weekend. And no happy endings for our teams. The Titans lost, and my Oakland Raiders lost, again, And I couldn't win won with my baseball team either as the Angeles lost and are out of the pennant race. . Not a good sports weekend for me. On the high side, SD won and the Dodgers won.
No plans for my day. Just going to do stuff around the house. Did make a few things for DH to save me from cooking a few nights this week. The bean dish I made came out perfect. Funny that DH's mother never made it for the family. Simple to make, it may have been she didn't want to put beer in her dish. Anyway DH liked it and we'll make it more often now.
I was surprised that we didn't hear a thing, no calls or texts, about my niece in Los Angeles. I was torn between feeling glad that the family had her for a few more days, yet sad that she was in pain or discomfort two more days. I hate cancer. I hate what it does to it's victims. I hate seeing anyone with it. Fighting it. I hate seeing babies and young people with it. I so wish medical science would hurry up and find cures, vaccinations, treatments to rid us of it. Yet I know they are. I know that they do so much now to save the lives of those stricken with cancer. And I know that just when they find a way to get one cancer cured and it can morph, come back, in a meaner version/ more aggressive and it can't be treated as effectively.
That's what happened to my other niece. She is now fighting a meaner version of the breast cancer that she had just weeks before her surgery. It morphed into this aggressive cancer in just weeks. It went from a stage 2 to a 4. She's now taking double cimo infusions every two weeks, she's bald, sick so much and a sadder, weaker version of the strong beautiful lady she was in June. She's doing everything she can to beat the cancer. I worry so that I will lose her too. I hate cancer.
MiMI, isn't t always the way with weather. I went out the door Friday night with a light blouse and capri pants and it turned cold in a few hours. I was so cold when I go home. I ran for the fireplace to warm up.( it's electric ) Thank goodness it's warming up now.
Cory, it really is cold where you are. And I'm complaining about 30's. Glad your weekend was restful.
cece, hope your weekend was a non stressful one. I hope that things are moving along with placing your parents into a care facility. No news on how my SIL is doing. DH didn't want to know, so he didn't call. One recent call had her hanging up on him because she told him " There's no Rudy here.I don't know any Rudy. Stop calling here." #sadness.
Will close this here with my best wishes for all that your day is a good one. Gentle hugs, LindaView Thread
Lou, thank you for the HUG. I needed it. My niece is resting comfortably and is alert and talking right now, but that can change in a blink of an eye.
I thought about calling her today but have held off. The other day our phone conversation was so good. She was talking as she always has. No hint of her being so gravely ill. I treasure that call. I had her laughing and chuckling and I don't want to take that away with one with one that may not be so good.
Let me close this with my heartfelt thanks for your post. LindaView Thread
Good Saturday one and all. Hope the day is going well and that each of you has a good, non stressful day, where fibro issues and pain are not something you are dealing with.
MiMi and Mel, it's fall like here this a.m. as well. I have to go out to the back yard and collect my tropical plants and bring them in and out of the way of tonight's drop in temps. They are saying 37. Right now it's 57, going up to 61, with a lot of sunshine. . It's the first real hint of Fall so I will enjoy it while I'm out running errands later.
I want to thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers for my SIL who has been DX'd with dementia and my niece who is so close to leaving us. Yesterday she was set up with hospice care at her home. ( Blessings for that.) They put in a hospital bed for her and nurses are now doing 8 hour shifts at the home. DH's sister is there with her during the day and then my niece's husband is home and her sons, grandchildren go in the evening. I asked God last night to give her a quiet and painless passing. And from what DH just told me she is resting comfortably today with medication and was still alert. The nurses taking care of her say this can change in a minutes time, being she is so near death. Again I will dread having my phone ring thinking it will bring the news she has passed. Not happy times here this weekend.
DH and I tried to get our minds off of what's happening with our niece being so gravely ill and my SIL. So we went out to KOHLS last night and got DH some new NIkes for work. then we went to the market for some things and then onto the Mexican store. I plan to make, this will sound odd to most, Drunk Beans, English translation. It's Pinto beans with bacon, serrano chilies, onion, salt, pepper and 12 oz's of beer. It's topped with cilantro and Crema Mexicana; it's better than sour cream. So I had to get my ingredients. That took our minds off what's going on for awhile.
Nancy, I am so very, very sorry to hear about your husband's medical issue. I don't understand a lot about how the heart works but you explained it so well I now have a working understanding of what's going on with his and I do hope that stents can be used so he can get home the same day. I am sending you prayers and support. I will keep him, you and the family in my prayers.
cece, my family in Cali are already having problems getting linked on, connected to, good licensed live in care for my SIL. They have the room ready and the bed is in and now, figuring it would be easy once they were done, they hit the brick wall I will call" fooling yourself that you're going to get good, reliable, honest, affordable help for the homebound who have medical needs". I can hear their wheels spinning in place all the way over there in TN as I type this.
But I don't feel like going 3 rounds with any of them as they are at least doing something and they don't need me to jump in to it. My niece told me, " Tia, what difference is it going to make you getting upset about it? You're in TN and you can't do a thing here. Let others have that pleasure. " And speaking to that: cece, I wish so much that your sisters would get involved, take the stress of you, and get, in some way, with your parents and getting them into a facility ( or at least tell them) that will give them 24 hour care, rather than leave it all up to one person, you.
Laura,gosh what a mess that idea of mine was. I have it all but straightened out now. BFF is going to the Sprint store Monday. She's returning the 300 dollar phone, getting the 100 dollar phone with no internet service and on my Family Plan she will have unlimited talk and text and nothing else! There's no cost to me. Things are as they should be now.
Cory, have a wonderful weekend, rest and recoup. Hello to Lou, Mary and everybody.
Let me close here, and let you all get on with your day, with best wishes for wonderful day.
Good Friday MiMi, Lou and to all that will follow. My goodness this week went by quickly. A bit to fast for me as I am now doing catch up things.
It's overcast here today, and cool, after an overnight line of storms that weren't, thank goodness, anywhere near as strong as predicted. I had a slight migraine when I woke up so took a Excedrin Migraine and I feel pretty good right about now.
And it's a good morning to do the catch up things, get back to a normal routine here at my desk, that I have put off due to sad family news the past few days. I have the month's bills lined up to go out today, next week and the week after that. I also got a letter written, printed and in an envelope w/ a stamp on it, for my SIL who has dementia/ Alzheimer's. I have been sending her letters because, I have known for a long time, she confuses easily and it's better to write my thoughts down rather than try to convey them to her in a phone call.
DH took a poll of those in the family who thought getting live in help for his sister was bad idea. All but one did. And while calling his sisters, 4 out of 6, DH got the news that the niece who had been bravely battling breast to bone cancer the past 2 1/2 years, has only a day or so to live. Doctors gave her 2 weeks, two weeks ago today. I was surprised to hear this as she didn't mention it to me 2 weeks ago when I texted her. I'm so very sad to hear this. She is a favorite of mine. She and I are about 2 years apart in age and it's so odd, I always smile, when I hear her call me Aunt Linda or Tia ( means aunt in Spanish ) which she always has and does. I was 20 and she 18 when we met and we just hit it off. Even the years apart and distance hasn't dimmed that.
Because I call her a friend ( as I did with my BIL ), rather than a niece, it took all the strenght I could muster to call her and act as if I didn't know how gravely ill she is. She didn't want me to know either as she didn't let on either. Her voice was so strong you'd never guess how sick she is and like always I had her laughing about this and that in no time and her laughter was genuine, from the heart. She has always been an easy target for my sense of humor ( as was her uncle who passed away in January)n and I am going to miss her so very much. I dread hearing the phone ring. I just don't want to hear the news. I know she has battled her cancer bravely and I admire her so much for that. I know she will be in no pain and at peace, yet, a world without her in it will be sad one for me.
MiMi, so GLAD you slept in today! Sorry you had to rush about though. A swing! How special!! Your DD will be so happy with her specially, made just for her, Birthday gift.
Lou, Yeah, the kitchen is almost done! A soft blue, how nice. Pictures, yes, pictures please. 50's? We heading downhill temperature wise over the next day or so as well. 73 today, 63 tomorrow, a long sleeved blouse, s[it on a sweater day here for sure. But for us, it will rebound back into the 70's Sunday and be back in the 80's Monday and a few days next week.
Nothing much to post about. A slow news day by all standards. So closing this here with wishes that everyone has a wonderful day. Gentle hugs, Linda RView Thread
cece, I hope you will have an easy time of it telling your parents about the move the move to an assisted living facility. I know it will not be easy and I do hope it goes well.
We will be in the same place, as you are now, very soon I think.
Rudy and I took a poll of the family members yesterday about his sister's accepting someone living in with her and everyone agrees it won't fly. So I think Rudy will be talking to the sister who's planning to get a live in to rethink that and look for an assisted living/ care center instead.
Dementia/ Alzheimer's care, as you know, is a slippery slope of emotions and stress and it' best left to people who know how to deal with it. Rudy's sisters are 90, 87 and 84. Yeah they can deal with the 88 year old who's got Dementia /Alzheimer's.
Good Thursday MiMi and to all that will follow. I hope your today is a good one.
It's going to be a warm day here. Way up into the 80's and I'm going to enjoy it as cooler temps are due in soon. They say our weather may even be severe by late tomorrow or Saturday, so am not happy about that.
I learned a lesson the hard way yesterday when I found out how good intentions can go terrible wrong. I offered a really good friend of mine, from my college days, who's down on her luck right now, the use of my Sprint Family plan to have phone service. Her land line phone was being turned off as of yesterday. So with a big heart I called the Sprint store nearest her and told the agent there that I wanted a very inexpensive flip phone for hand have and wanted it connected to my family plan account. He said the phone would be free she'd just have to pay the 5 dollar tax on it. I said fine, I gave her his number, she set up a time to go in and all was well.
DH likes her so he agreed to let me do this. Well, she called last night and told me she had passed on the flip phone and got a smartphone for 300 plus dollars instead! She said the man kept saying take any phone you want, it's free to you. So she did! And with a smart phone she also had use of our internet service. That service was not what she knew we had agreed on. So this a.m. I had to get up early, ugh, call Sprint and have them turn off the internet service to that phone and arrange for her to return the 300 dollar one which was placed on my account and pick up a 100 dollar slider phone that will allow her to talk and text only. I will be glad to pay for the slider phone and let her use the call and text for as long as she is having job troubles, but she said last night she thought she'd stay on it for the length of my 2 contract. I will have to straighten her out on that as well.
DH is home today. We didn't get much sleep as phone calls from California kept coming in all of yesterday and way into the night. The family members taking charge of DH's sister are now looking for live in caregivers. Good luck with that! They have cleared out one bedroom and put in a bed. SIL thinks it's for her if she wants to change bedrooms. Wait until she hears the plans they really have for the bedroom: a live in caregiver. I can tell you she will fight having anyone stay with her tooth and nail and having someone in her home that she does not know will only make matters worse for her mentally. And I doubt, as cece's has found, good caregivers are few and far between. I could hardly sleep for worrying about it. I can see no good coming out of this.
DH and I will be out of doors today taking down summer things, hummingbird feeders and putting up the Halloween things. Later this afternoon I have a lunch date with BFF at 1:30 but think i am going to call it off as I am just drained. I hope we can set it up to do it next week.
No short notes today.. Just me wishing each of you a wonderful day. Gentle hugs, LindaRView Thread