I am so sorry for what you've had to go through. I'm afraid your husband has done a number on you for making you feel like it's your fault. This is his fault. He clearly didn't take his marriage vows very seriously....in sickness and in health. None of us knows what we're "signing up for" in marriage, but to not be supportive of a spouse who's struggling with an illness is horrible. Plus having you do all the child care!
I had postpartum depression with our second child, and that was a very big stressor on our marriage, too. Fortunately, we made it through that. I didn't have fibro at that time.
I believe that you're going to make a great life for yourself and your daughter. You sound like quite a strong woman. I pray that your life will be blessed!
Fooie, I'm so glad your appointment went well and that you like your doctor. Ambien does great for a lot of people. I don't know about making you feel weird, but I would recommend being in bed when you take it. I think it works pretty quickly.
I have read and heard of people getting up in the night and doing things they don't remember the next day. I just want you to be aware of that possible side effect.
Hi, Mayville....I've found the emotional stress can sometimes be the worst. My son, DIL, and 2 year old granddaughter just moved to Mexico to be missionaries. I've been having quite a time with my pain since then!
I understand. I pray that you'll be feeling better very soon. I'm also glad you saw how resting your body was the right thing to do after the last flare.
I understand, Fooie. I fought taking them for quite a while, but finally I just couldn't take it anymore. So I started reading up on chronic pain and its effects on the body, plus I read about the difference between addiction and dependence.
Many doctors and patients, as well, are afraid to prescribe or take them for fear of addiction. Actually pain patients who take them responsibly for their pain only (and not to get "high") actually have a very low chance of becoming addicted. Addiction is where someone keeps taking more and more to increase the high feeling.
But our bodies can become dependent on them, just like most other meds. We can even be dependent on caffeine. That just means that our bodies are used to the med, and would have to taper off slowly, if we ever decided to stop taking them.
There's such a stigma about taking pain meds, which is a crying shame. Plus the addicts have made things very difficult for us, and doctors are becoming hesitant about prescribing them for legitimate reasons. I hope your doctor is one who will work with you on this. I believe that we shouldn't have to suffer in pain, when there is help available.
I, too, would check with your doctor. I lean towards it being the increase in Cymbalta, especially with the sweating. I know that it's a very powerful drug, and many have problems with it. I couldn't take it, b/c it made me too jittery, hyper, and moody. Glad you went back to 30mg.
I do. I also take celexa (an SSRI antidepressant) for depression/anxiety, sleep, and pain. I take a muscle relaxer at night to help with sleep and pain. I also need additional pain relief, so I take lortab. This combination works pretty well for me.
Of course, I also take supplements that are supposed to help fibro (kind of wonder about that), use pacing, heat, and rest. I have read enough about chronic pain and the negative effects on our bodies to know that I'd rather take pain meds responsibly than suffer.View Thread
Mary, it's just not right that you had a guilt trip heaped on you! I believe that pastor was totally wrong. I've been a Christian all my life (I'm 60), but I have been really walking closely with the Lord for 32 years.
I used to feel guilty when I didn't feel up to going, but not anymore, b/c God knows my heart. And He knows yours, too. He knows what you're capable of doing on a day to day and even minute to minute basis. He doesn't bring the guilt....the enemy brings guilt and condemnation.
I also don't volunteer much, b/c like you said, I never know how I'll be feeling. I feel like God understands that, too. I am a prayer warrior, so I'm always praying for my family and others I hear about. I believe that's a ministry in itself.
I believe if you find the right church for you, you'll feel freedom in worshiping God when and how you're able, without feeling guilty when you can't be there.