I think this is a hot topic for us and I wanted to chime in with a new idea. Although I have found a lot of success with the Ahh Bra, I also found this website: https://trueandco.com/quiz . Answer the questions about your body and at the end, they will tell you which style bra is your best bet. I am a firm believer that the bra that fits perfectly is the bra that will feel comfortable. For example, I am full-figured and my "girls" are positioned on the bottom and sides of my chest. It was recommended that I wear a triangle bra, which is pretty much the Ahh Bra but True & Co. has much classier and prettier styles. The best thing about the quiz is that it will help you find your true size (since 80% of women do not wear the correct size). They also have a "Home Try-On" program where they send you up to 5 bras so you can try before you buy and pay for only what you keep - and return the rest for free.View Thread
I believe that my Fibromyalgia symptoms began to surface in infancy. I was at the pediatrician's office at least monthly and consistently on antibiotics. After contracting Mononeucleosis at age 5, my mother took me to an ENT who scheduled surgery to have my tonsils removed and insert tubes in my ears. I've always been hyper-sensitive to light, sound, smell, pain (and even very emotionally sensitive). Sleep became problematic by the age of 10 and I was diagnosed with depression at age 14. Chronic pain and fatigue followed (even though I was a very active teen) and I was finally diagnosed with Fibromyalgia during my senior year in high school. I was highly functioning until my mid-20s but rapidly deteriorated after pregnancy and childbirth at age 29. I'm now 33 and unable to work, even a sedentary part-time job. I can't understand WHY experts say that FMS is non-progressive. Aren't people like us proof enough?!View Thread
So I know that I'm quite late to this conversation but thought that I might be able to add some insight since I am very close to your girlfriend's age. I've had Fibromyalgia for 20 years (diagnosed 15 years ago) but I can tell you that it took me a very long time to accept my illness and to seek out information from the community. I was in denial for one thing, and even though I wanted to feel better I didn't understand what benefits there were to belonging to a community or support group. Some people just take a while to come around and to accept the reality of the illness.
It's great that you are so caring and willing to help around the house. I like the idea of making information available to your gf - she can decide for herself if she wants to read/participate in discussions, but don't push her. Your emotional support is vital to her quality of life and I know she will appreciate it whenever you can help her out with chores.
I'm married (been with my husband for 8 years) and have really deteriorated since I first met my husband. The libido issues have come and gone, but when I feel good (meaning, my symptoms are under control) my libido is normal. Your gf will feel better with the help of anti-depressants as well as more sleep and less pain. My advice is to keep the lines of communication open (listen to her but also tell her how you feel and what you need). Offering a massage is a very nice way to help her feel better and it can sometimes lead to 'romance'. I totally understand the way you feel and you deserve to have your feelings heard. By the way, I have read that women who have unprotected sex with their monogamous male partners do benefit from exposure to semen; that it increases serotonin, endorphins, and oxytocin and therefore decreases depression. I'd go so far to say that women who have healthy, happy sex lives are happier overall even if they don't have Fibromyalgia. The key here is to make her feel well enough to want to have sex (and you can't do that alone).
One important thing to mention is that Fibromyalgia does not have to ruin relationships or make partners unhappy/unfulfilled. It's very important for your gf to keep her depression in check, for the two of you to always communicate, and hopefully she will take as good of care of herself as possible. It's great that she wants to exercise because that can help her feel so much better. Please encourage her to do all those things.
I wish the two of you the very best! Jessie
PS Don't be afraid to continue to reach out to the Fibromyalgia community. We're all in this together, and that includes those who are ill and those who love us!View Thread
I have always had relatively low blood pressure until the last few weeks of my pregnancy back in 2008. Following my delivery, I went into a wicked flare which landed me in my rheumatologist's office and she prescribed Lyrica (I now take 150mg) and Cymbalta (30mg).
I have gained 50lbs and have struggled with high blood pressure in the last 2 1/2 years. My doctor has me on Lisinopril and she is probably going to raise the doasge, as my systolic reading is still a little bit high (132).
High BP is a scary thing. I would venture to guess that many of us eventually end up with it - whether it's due to weight gain or medication or uncontrolled pain. I wish I had some words of advice.View Thread
Are you currently on medication for your depression? If not, please see your doctor right away - these thoughts you are having are very dangerous. I just admitted myself to the ER less than two weeks ago myself. I have a daughter and I worry constantly about my condition spilling over to her - so I absolutely know your concern.
More than anything else - you need support. Your doctor, your friends/family, your neighbors ... someone can help you. I know it's hard, but reach out to someone even if only for the sake of your children.
You can and will feel better than you do right now. The symptoms of FM are so hard but that's why we are here for each other. We show each other how to cope. Please, please get some help and keep us updated.
I hope you are under a doctor's supervision. The "danger zone" seems to be when you go from 30mg to 0. I didn't feel any different when I went from 60mg to 30mg. If you start feeling funny, please call your doctor or message us here. It can be dangerous.
I just wanted to give you all an update. I saw the psychiatrist last night - he wasn't the warmest person but he seems to know what he is doing. He was certain that the emotional/psychiatric symptoms I was having during my withdrawal period were due to my depression and not the withdrawal from the drug itself.
So, for now I will continue taking Cymbalta at the reduced dosage. My doctor is right - it is helping to stabilize my mood and that is very important. He doesn't want me to take the Ativan that was given to me in the ER but if I have anxiety issues in the future I will ask about it again.
Also, he recommended that I start up therapy again, which I know I need. I am seeing a therapist in his office next week - hopefully, she is good.
I think everyone has given you some great thoughts already, but I wanted to put my two cents in. I just recently met with a psychiatrist for the first time in my life to help me with medication management. It sounds like you need to be on an anti-depressant if you are not already on one; if you are, perhaps you need to switch it up. Rheumatologits and family doctors are not always the best resource to prescribe and manage your medication (I found out the hard way).
I have been in and out of psychotherapy all of my life. It can be very helpful IF you have the right therapist. I have seen some that were very good and some that were simply not helpful. You should feel better after a session. And remember, you are using the opportunity to reduce your stress and anxiety - not to make it worse. Please let your therapist know that you do not feel well after sessions and perhaps she can change her approach. Remember that you are in charge here - stand up for your needs.
I do hope you feel better soon and please keep us posted.
I was diagnosed at 17 (though I believe I've had FM since I was 5) and now have a 2 1/2 year old daughter. All of the women in my family have FM, so I expect that my daughter could show symptoms. Sometimes I suspect she has it now.
I have spoken to my rheumatologist (who also specializes in pediatric rheumatology) and she told me that her youngest patient is 5 years old.
My personal belief is that it's difficult to know when a child has a condition when they are very young because they can't communicate exactly what they are feeling. You may not know for sure what's wrong (if anything) until he's a couple of years older.
Mimi gave you some great recommendations about the warm baths and the lavender lotion. Because you have FM yourself, you know to be gentle with him. I think patience and soft hugs go a long way to help a child who is in pain.
See what his pediatrician says - it wouldn't hurt to seek the advice of a pediatric rheumatologist. Watch his sleep patterns and listen to your motherly instincts. I know he's in good hands with you.