It is hard to explain what a flare is to me. I've had these symptoms to some degree all my life, so they are what's normal for me. I don't know life without them.
I can tell a flare from the normal, though, by an increase in severity in one or more symptoms, accompanied by a general feeling of being unwell.
For example, my back could be in more pain than usual, and I'm not sleeping well, but besides that, I feel perfectly fine and dandy, that's not a flare.
But, say, my knees decide to not be cooperative alongside a distinct feeling that I'm not well and something is wrong, that's a flare.
My flares come in all sorts of varieties, and some aren't all that severe at all, but if I don't hunker down and take care of myself extra well, things will definitely continue to get worse until I mend my ways. There is no wiggle room or leeway when flares come calling.
Does that make sense? I hope that makes sense.View Thread
You're definitely not too young. I've had FM symptoms all my life and didn't get diagnosed until about a year and a half ago. I was 19 at the time.
Definitely talk to your doctor. Tell her that your mother had it, and you've been in pain so you're worried. Pain is never normal, If your doctor won't take you seriously, find a new doctor. That's really all there is to it. Heck, ask to be referred to a rheumatologist if you need to.
Gentle hugs! Good luck talking to your doctor and finding out if it's FM or not.View Thread
You're in a city! There should be things like art galleries and museums and symphonies and plays to see! And zoos! And parks! Picnics in a park on a day that's not too hot might be good. Explore interesting cafes and restaurants, or go out for ice cream. Little things that won't require much of you are a good start. Maybe bowling, if you're up to it? Oh! Find out if there are free or low-cost classes on anything you guys are interested in, and do that! Like, um, cooking or crafting of some sort. Anything you can do together is a good idea, in my book.
Something that's good in the winter, I've found, is ice skating. It's fun, low impact, provided you've got the reflexes to grab onto the rail or wall around the ice rink when you start to fall, and you can call it quits when you've used up your energy and sit back and goad your boyfriend into doing silly things, or just go and get hot cocoa. And the exercise helps with fatigue, which is nice.
Sometimes you've just gotta do something you'll pay for later in order to have some fun. As long as it's well-timed, with enough rest days before and after, you can do just about anything you want. Just be sure to listen to your body, know your limits, and take it slow. Don't be afraid of going out and doing stuff. Try new things! The more you do, provided you pace yourself according to your needs, the more you'll be able to do.
I recently started focusing on walking more, and was able to spend an evening running around a carnival with my boyfriend. I wasn't sure I'd ever be able to do that! Yes, I'm still wiped out two days later, but still, I did it!
I hope you find something fun to do together!View Thread
Something that I've found helps to ease spasms in a pinch is a warm chamomile compress. Chamomile has antispasmodic properties, so if you've got chamomile tea lying around, making a bowful of it and soaking a hand towel or bandana in it for a compress might help. I get muscle spasms in my legs sometimes when I'm trying to sleep, and the chamomile tends to ease them enough that I can stretch them out and get back to that sleeping thing.
It won't prevent or completely get rid of muscle spasms, but it can help out if you really need it. It also smells nice, which is a plus.View Thread
I'm working on the exercise thing. I'm walking as much as I can, wearing a pedometer and setting goals and everything. I spontaneously do other things, too, when I'm feeling up to it! Unfortunately, I seem to get more knots the more I exercise, which I think means I need to take things just a little slower. . .View Thread
I think tis book is in my local library. Pretty sure I spotted it when I was snagging The First Year: Fibromyalgia (also a really helpful book, which has been making me feel a lot less crazy). Next time I'm there, I'll grab it and take a look.View Thread
I am very, very prone to getting knots in my shoulders, from just about anything I do, despite my daily stretching and the extra care I take. This is annoying and impedes my functionality. The problem is that I can't seem to get rid of them in a timely manner. My instinct is to try and massage them out, but it always hurts worse and doesn't help much. I've tried applying heat, which is my favored treatment for most of my pains, but that doesn't help much either.
Anyone else get knotted-up shoulders and have advice for dealing with them? I'm about to give an epsom salt bath a try, but other than that, I'm fresh out of ideas.View Thread