I agree with you! I am surprised that no one is going to therapy to work on their strained relationships. I know that some people don't believe in therapy. Sometimes it can be hard to talk to your spouse about the big issues. It can be scary because it makes you vulnerable and some things cannot be unsaid.
I personally see a therapist twice a month to deal with stress and come to terms with my FM. Therapy also gives me a nuetral place to vent instead of dumping all of my worries on my husband and friends. It has helped me but I understand it is not for everyone.
For those in this survey in a strong relationship, be thankful and celebrate your relationship.
For those in a strained relationship please keep working on it and I wish you all the best.
For those working on your relationship, consider counseling with a therapist or through your church.
For those relationships that have ended, I am sorry for your loss and hope your next relationship is better/different.
I take Nortriptylin to help prevent migraines. I used to take Topamax but it interfered with one of my other meds. It seems to help for migraine preventation but I don't know that it is helping my FM. I am going through a tough time with that right now.
I do enjoy my volunteer work. I am not stopping just slowing down. I was the Cub Scout Pack Committee Chairman and my husband was the Cubmaster. This year I will be a Committee member and my husband will be the Webelos leader. Still helping, still fun, but much less responsibility. I am also a girl scout assistant leader, they asked me to be leader but I knew that was too much.
I am just starting to learn what I can do with my new (FM) normal. I also work as a cashier as of last year. I submitted a doctor's note this Spring that I can only work up to 6 hours a day. Eight hours on my feet was just too much.
I think volunteer work is good for your soul. It gets our minds off of life's problems and stresses for a while.
My husband and I are excited to be celebrating our 15 year anniversary this week! I think every couple needs to make their own terms in their relationship. My husband and I generally agree 60% of the time, I get my way 30% of the time and the last 10% of the time he puts his foot down and I respect that. This works for us because of our different personality types, he is definitely more laid-back than me! It also works because we love and respect each other.
That is not to say that we never have difficult days. We have three kids, he works full time and I work part-time. We also volunteer with cub scouts and girl scouts. We have a lot on our plate but we try not to take on more than we can handle. One of the hard things for me has been having to give up some of my volunteer work.