I am familiar with Dr. Sarno's work. The cause of 'Fibromyalgia' ( in quotes because it is a label, a name for a condition of unknown etiology), is not in the head. If Sarno has helped people, those people do not have Fibromyalgia, as it is generally defined here.
I'm sure in some cases, back and neck pain are exacerbated by mental states and can be helped by changing attitudes and ways of relating to your environment.
While FM may be a symptom of a deeper root issue, it is nothing close to being 'all in your head'. This is kind of thinking is not progressive but takes us back to the middle ages. Remember that menopausal women used to be institutionalized because it was thought that hormonal changes was all in their head.
Hi Dollbug. I totally agree with you. I don't think I even came close to making myself clear. I am old enough to remember the old American dream, like from the 50s, lol, when women thought that to be happy one should find a good mate and have 2 1/2 children and maybe someday a house in the suburbs.
Although I was well-educated and sought to break out from that mold, I was somewhat affected by it anyway. What I really wanted to say is that it's so often our own projections on another person that we see, rather than who it is they really are. It's merely human that we do this and men do it as well.
I don't believe we should be putting men in that shining knight position either because they are just humans struggling with the same issues as we do.
WE should be responsible for our own happiness. Once we realize this, it is easier to take responsibility for our choices, setting boundaries, etc. What I was ruing in my first post was not that men have let us down but rather that because of role-playing expectations of our culture, we get trapped into thinking of 'woulds' and 'shoulds' in thinking there might even be such a thing as a knight in shining armor. I was confessing that I have fallen into this pitfall a few times until I finally 'grew up'.
Life is so hard sometimes and it is so tempting to want to lean all over someone or just collapse into their arms and say, "You take care of everything."
I guess I believe one reason that we are here is to help each other. If we would just follow The Golden Rule nobody would need superheroes anyway.
It seems that some level of denial is necessary for husbands to be able to deal with chronic illness. It's scary for them too or, unfortunately, it's terribly inconvenient.
I know mine would let me work until I dropped without intervening. It's up to you to set boundaries and keep them, if explanations are going nowhere. Where oh where are those knights in shining armor? In a lot of cases they are only in fairy tales which have nothing to do with everyday horrible daily pain and exhaustion.View Thread
I'm trying to learn to sleep on my back too because of shoulder and hip pain from lying too long (30 mins.)on one side. Old habits die hard especially when you're asleep and don't know what you're doing, lol.View Thread
Hi everyone. I can relate to each one of these posts. I want to start checking in more often or even once in a while! I've been very sad for a long time and realize the value of being with others with the same condition.
Today I got some sad news about my best buddy, a little dog who Is my constant companion. Seems his has congestive heart failure. Yikes. My heart is breaking already. I don't know but it seems like everything is getting a lot harder with each passing year.
Wishing everyone a comfortable evening with as little pain as possible.View Thread
Nancy, I understand your point and I' happy that you're happy with your doc.
I should have been more specific about why I believe this kind of thinking is such a slippery slope. Fibromyalgia is still somewhat a mysterious disease and as Lou says, is still not recognized as a physical disease by a fair number of people in the medical community. The mere mention of Somatization in relationship to Fibro is going backwards, IMHO.
It seems like normal behavior to me that an intelligent group of people with capabilities to research their own conditions and whose physical activity has been curtailed as well, might spend a lot of time researching their illness, talking with others about symptoms, taking notes and studying furiously on how to improve their lives which (in many cases) have been gravely diminished by Fibro. Also it seems that this is a disease of 'new symptoms' popping up, traveling pain and lots of co-morbidity, as well. What if there is a say, checklist which asks how much time we spend daily reading, talking, researching about our illness? A few points either way of the percentile and we either normal or OCD? If we are OCD, then which came first? Do we then 'have Fibro' because we are OCD?
Do you get why I think this is dangerous territory?View Thread