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Although I was well-educated and sought to break out from that mold, I was somewhat affected by it anyway.
What I really wanted to say is that it's so often our own projections on another person that we see, rather than who it is they really are. It's merely human that we do this and men do it as well.
I don't believe we should be putting men in that shining knight position either because they are just humans struggling with the same issues as we do.
WE should be responsible for our own happiness. Once we realize this, it is easier to take responsibility for our choices, setting boundaries, etc.
What I was ruing in my first post was not that men have let us down but rather that because of role-playing expectations of our culture, we get trapped into thinking of 'woulds' and 'shoulds' in thinking there might even be such a thing as a knight in shining armor. I was confessing that I have fallen into this pitfall a few times until I finally 'grew up'.
Life is so hard sometimes and it is so tempting to want to lean all over someone or just collapse into their arms and say,
"You take care of everything."
I guess I believe one reason that we are here is to help each other. If we would just follow The Golden Rule nobody would need superheroes anyway.
Hugs,
A.View Thread

I know mine would let me work until I dropped without intervening.
It's up to you to set boundaries and keep them, if explanations are going nowhere.
Where oh where are those knights in shining armor? In a lot of cases they are only in fairy tales which have nothing to do with
everyday horrible daily pain and exhaustion.View Thread


Today I got some sad news about my best buddy, a little dog who Is my constant companion. Seems his has congestive heart failure. Yikes. My heart is breaking already.
I don't know but it seems like everything is getting a lot harder with each passing year.
Wishing everyone a comfortable evening with as little pain as possible.View Thread


I should have been more specific about why I believe this kind of thinking is such a slippery slope. Fibromyalgia is still somewhat a mysterious disease and as Lou says, is still not recognized as a physical disease by a fair number of people in the medical community. The mere mention of Somatization in relationship to Fibro is going backwards, IMHO.
It seems like normal behavior to me that an intelligent group of people with capabilities to research their own conditions and whose physical activity has been curtailed as well, might spend a lot of time researching their illness, talking with others about symptoms, taking notes and studying furiously on how to improve their lives which (in many cases) have been gravely diminished by Fibro. Also it seems that this is a disease of 'new symptoms' popping up, traveling pain and lots of co-morbidity, as well.
What if there is a say, checklist which asks how much time we spend daily reading, talking, researching about our illness? A few points either way of the percentile and we either normal or OCD? If we are OCD, then which came first? Do we then 'have Fibro' because we are OCD?
Do you get why I think this is dangerous territory?View Thread

Of course, prescribing anti-depressants is much cheaper and easier than funding research or taking the time with a patient to brainstorm options for best treatment.View Thread

We didn't get the instruction manual for this sh!t either.
Sending good thoughts..View Thread

Or could it be an allergic reaction to a new food or medication?
Those are the first two things that come to mind.
Hope this calms down soon.View Thread

Hugs.View Thread
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