We're all so different in our flares that it's tough to answer for your wife. Have you asked her what would help? Plus it might change as the pain moves around and/or intensifies. Heat is usually better than ice. Those big heated throws (brands like Sunbeam) are nice because they're like a huge body-size heating pad. I put mine on the chair and sit on it, my back loves it!
Then again her best help might be something like doing the vacuuming (for me, it hurts like h*ll to push and pull that thing) or make or bring in the meals. Just taking some things off her list might help a lot. Reducing stress with things like that is a huge help for me.
Getting the communication going can be tough, but it's part of dealing with this, or any other long term illness. I wish you well and give you major points for reaching out like this.
Mine is more like a constant low-volume ringing, not buzzing. It's not loud enough to be annoying, but if I pay attention it's always there. I've always associated it with migraines, which I've been getting for about 45 years. It's like my brain won't calm down completely between headaches, it stays jangly and twitchy.
I'll look at it in terms of Fibro now that you've brought this up. Thanks for bringing this up.
Hi Denimblu (good name there!)
That kind of pain could be from a number of sources, and maybe more than one at the same time. In my case it is bad SI joints plus some damaged lumbar disks, standing and walking make it a lot worse. So my joints get going which sets off the FM hip to hip across the lower back w/glutes and sometimes forward to the flexors. Ow!
Until you get to the doctor for your diagnosis, maybe try using pillows under your knees to take pressure off your lower back. You can google that and get some good info and images on how to place them to get some comfort. Have you tried lavender, valerian, or melatonin to help you get past the pain and sleep?
Those Thermacare stick on heat pads can be very nice, the neck size works all over the body. My thighs get very tight and sore, and I wrap those things around my upper leg, they work great!
Wow that's a great question, I'd never really thought about it before. But I sat with this question today and after a few hours my answer is yes, I do think my PTSD is sometimes triggered when my flares are bad.
Mine is from a rough growing up plus one rotten ex husband. Now I'm years past that and have had some good treatment, so my daily life is pretty great.
But when the flares are bad the Fibro fog can dominate the days, and I think I might lose some of my coping techniques. Also I'll be on more pills, and if the flare lingers then depression can start hanging around, and that doesn't help things.
So this gives me something to watch for. A flare seems to be starting now and I'll try to watch if PTSD gets in the mix and makes everything worse.
This article about a blood test for FM was sent to me today. Have any of you seen it? I don't have much knowledge in this area to be able to sift through and decide if it's just another bunch of fluff.