I was looking through the week and found a few things I read that upset me.
What do you mean that you have no sick time and 6 points for call in for the year terminates you. THAT IS SO AGAINST LABOR LAWS.. How is it possible they can have this in place and be a moderate company as it seems it is??
There are so many laws that protect the working man, and I can see you not wanting to make trouble but you should look at this. Even at our little deli we do not terminate for hardship. There is no sick time unless it is the full time staff. We have also supported someone in a crisis, but it is Mom and Pop run. I am appauled to read this in your work area.
The other thing is about the house. After watching so much "house hunters" it is a wake up call to see what you have, what you can afford and is it worth it, or just fix what you have. At the age of 60 and the mortgage is paid off for a while now down sizing is on the horizon. Less is more. With young kids though, space is great, but it can be full in a small place too. Maybe even better. You know all that is going on.
Bigger is not always better. It is harder to heat, clean and care for. Do your math and really share how you feel with DW. It is a leap of faith. Our future is really so unknown, it is difficult for the practical one to change their space when they are seeing it as OK.
Think in this equation that God Forbid, you are down...and disability happens. Take that income and see if the numbers work to survive and not lose it all.
I am big for planning all things out and seeing if this...then that...if this..than that. It might help the tension in you to see* a plan. My rule of thumb was that I got paid every 2 weeks and one check was the mortgage and the other was to llive on. I robbed Peter and paid Paul at times, but I got through. Not alot extra. (DH was the entrepeneur and didn't always bring in an income with some stores we had) (Like now, he gives all to our son)
Hugging you from NY where the houses are 450+ (avg house up state city area is 650-700) and if I had to move I would develop a seizure disorder at this age. lol. Here is hoping the bank has a good plan to guide you and it is workable in your heart.
If you are so against it, maybe we can "talk" to the mrs.......we walk the path you are on. No one gets us, but us.
Hoping you are in good shape for this long weekend you got. Keep the knee quiet..
Semily, You must take prescription Vit D 50,000u for a few months to get normal level. You'll never get there with 2,000IU. I am wondering if it is 42 and he wants you better and then 2,000IU is appropriate. I was 12 and now 60 with 2,00IU and 2 months of weekly 50,000IU.
Good luck, get those results and see what D they sent and the norms next to the level.......Good luck, Nancy BView Thread
This is so confusing to me how the laws are different all over, the employers are doing there own things despite Labor Laws or OSHA safety.....is all that just paper?
When DS#2 was in the carpenters union and he had to earn stamps to get insurance and then got cut bad on the job...they used duct tape and put him back to work.....no nurse, no care...no antiseptic. Man up and get back to work...what is that.
I pulled him from that in a week. Now he owns the deli and if he cuts himself......it is CURAD and get back to work!! lol with neosporin! No, they go to the ER for care...good medical training they have to assess a finger and cut. Who needs to go who get stitches.
I have disability through the employer and I have a catastrophic event policy as well. A one time pay out for a MVA or heart attack or tragedy of some kind. It is thru UNUM insurance. He knew of my issues and I got all of this. The cost is minimal. 5.00 (for accident) and the other is 13.00 (ST disability) with life insurance at 24.00. (Oh I see here this is short term diasability not long term) It is upsetting to hear that there is so much difference in the States.
But I will say in NY you are paying $$ for everything. We carry alot of people in this state. Taxes are high, gas is high....alot cross the border to NJ or Conn to get the products they want.
No matter where though they say we are all 2 weeks from homelessness in a crisis. I worry about that. I think I could go further but I wouldn't make a year. Taxes: 12,000 and cars 6,000/yr Meds and injections: 5000.00 for both of us. That is with copay so no job...all is out of pocket. Yep..I'd be homeless quick. OMG I didn't even speak of oil. I just got a letter from Citibank saying you have to have 50,000 in combined monies to not be charged 25.00 a month to hold your money...OMG, who has 50,000 in the bank?
Geez if we looked at the years budget and what is spent, what an eye opener. BUT this is why so many leave NY. I too may condo in another state in the end of this run.
Cory, do they have 2 bedroom Townhouses there? Efficient for no outside maintanence and warm with the other structures adjacent....3 levels. Here some have garage or overhang coverage. Cost is less than a home and many positives. Downside is you have neighbors...which can be good.
Well, we carry our dragon through eachday and try to make a life. Keeping our eyes wide open is big in any avenue of the game. The American dream should be for all, reachable by all who desire it and work for it.
Off note, Mimi I looked at that article and don't believe it. They lost me at the entering my bank account. No way is that real...
Peaceful day for you guys. I have a list the length of my arm today. Yes, pacing Mimi I promise. Got up at 5am to get started and here I am on the computer....
Garage is a mess, dang pool (I speak of this so much). Pull the garden as it all froze last night I am sure. Laundry and iron. Sunday dinner. How is it that it is really just me here and DH for 3 hours and the place can't stay straight. I used to blame the kids but I am believing now that it is ME!! lol......
What a week. DH did well with no events, 2 vessels in the back of the heart were stented. He was told he could go back to work, so....yes, he was in the deli the next day! With promise of resting hourly in a chair. I asked no making Mozzarella as his hands are in 160* water and the artery in that wrist was opened......(did he listen..no). Uggghh. Teh doc has no idea what he does in the deli...
I reveiwed symptoms of trouble with the stents and if he has a reaction to the new Effient Rx for the clotting. Biggest risk is acute closure iof the stent n the first week or two. Hoping for a pass through that too...
I was in terrible pain, I couldn't find the overnight on wheels that we own...I didn't put it in the attic last time. Thats why I didn't have the right one. IT took a toll on me. I also brought more than we needed. So glad it is over though. I hope I have a good time again (8years) before he needs work again. He has 7 stents now. He is soooo lucky he married me!
So it took 2 days plus my injections to turn me around. So glad I had my appointment in there. The days have been humid and damp and that is not for me. Today is the turning point to fall weather from Canada and I am ready, well 65 would be my heaven.
I need to have an attitude change at work, things are bothering me left and right. I am carrying so many things that I could just tip over. Not getting into this, just erased a rant. Who needs a rant this morning? No one!
Last night I was with the girls and I love even just looking at them. Getting so big. Today I am with Emily, a little fearful here. A 1 yr old is tough for us, it is all carry and lift...I am with her from 10am to 330-4. YIKES...I will need therapy after, but it is my first time being with her.
I have always said " I will never say no". It was supposed to be at my house and then she changed it to theirs and there is so little room, I need to be on the floor....I am already sensing tension on my "chubby" body. No folding me up these days!
I am hoping to hear her babble and get some cute pictures.
OK, off to start the day. Thanks you all for the prayers and thoughts. You were all with me in that chair. Being in the city is so different than being local. But he was home the next day and out of the system.
A system that is burdened with challenges. Like I waited 6 1/2 hours before they took him in (no one came out to tell me there was an ER emergency. ) DH was pacing...I texted work and got the answers, but for the public...that is no way to treat people. A taste of being the patient and family...not pallitable.
I was thinking he disturbed the 3rd cranial nerve giving you trigeminal neuralgia but when you mentioned the eye lid that is the 5th cranial nerve which rides above the ear and like fingers goes to your forehead, your eyelid, your cheek and chin including the back side of the ear to the neck. So....glad you are on neurontin ( dose can change) but can you get a visit with a neurologist? One who knows of FM as well as this acute event?
For me after the dentist I am shot, the cheek (masseter) muscles are so upset and if there are trigger points in there, it lasts for a while for me to break them.
Heat to the area is always welcomed. If this were me I would bring it to neurology and if the one you see does TrP injections it may give you relief.
I am so sorry this is activated for you. I have had a pain similar in my time with this and I have likened it to having glass in my head. Any movement can aggrevate it.
I hope you find some relief soon. Look in th toolbox to the right in resources, maybe someone over time shared a trick/tool they used. Or who they saw and what was done. Also search fro Dr Pellegrino in the top right in Discussion for maybe a time he touched on this.
Search face pain as well there and see if anything comes to you. Geez, I feel for you it sounds awful.
So my thoughts were heat to the area from above the ear to the face. Look up fascial nerve to see the path it takes and if it matches what you are feeling. Look at trigeminal neuralgia too as the care for both would match. I also think a good neurologist can make a difference here.
Good morning Mimi and fmily, Big day today. My husband goes for the angiogram of the heart. My fear is at all levels and I am in pain to match it all. I am amzaed how it is in my muscles, shows you how stress can get you. I am prepared for any answer in finding just not prepared for the events that happen without warning. Hoping for a quiet procedure and good outcome. I picked this doctor for the test as he uses the wrist artery to access the heart not the groin. My husband will be more comfortable after. I have a full day to sit at Columbia in a chair without neck support, so I know I will be in pain. Plus carrying the overnight bag is a no no. (See I know what is ahead for me in so many ways) Hoping not for surgery this time as it is 6 weeks of recovery and that means my poor son is alone in the store. Stress everywhere..... On the great side, the dinner with kids was great and he got to be with them to be hugged. (recharge his battery) then last night the girls called and told him not to be afraid.....and come home to them soon.... p r i c e l e s s. Alright, That is mynote for the day. Tools in the bag with his clothes and extra meds if needed. I have a thermacare patch in case too. Plan, plan plan. I'll try to find a wall to be near so I can rest my head there. Amazing the pain this a.m Nancy BView Thread
Is the truck yours all the time? Get the seat cushion that plugs to the lighter and use the HEAT function for your thighs and back. It will help with stiffness.
Use the massage part for stimulation to the muscles and numb them a bit. Do this on and off. It is distracting I find to drive with that function on. Good money spent.
I think for you as I know drivers for a part store by us, you are lifting and carrying product that is a bit too much. Try and make an alternate plan like a little dolly to roll the stuff into the store. Think to use different muscle groups each time you unload the back. Not everything is as light as a spark plug...lol.
Using the thermacare patch or creams for the muscles helps too to quiet them down. Pull over and stretch out now and again. Long drives are no good for us.
Watch your posture in the truck or even at home. Some of your muscle are weaker and you use the dominants then it makes it worse for the weaker. Always keep posture, breathing deep and hydration in your favor. It pays off.
You I am sure don't drink enough as you are on the road and a bathroom is not so easy. but it is imperative in this mess. You cells need to rid waste from them and it is your fluid balance in the blood stream that washes the crap away and the number one cause of tiredness and not so clear a head is dehydration.
Give this time to help as rehydrating is done over time.
Good luck with finding your toolbox. The one to the right in discussions is open always to look in to learn from others. I started it over 10 years ago. We all want to help another to be better (good karma too). This is a tough thing to live with, but it can be done.
Don't worry about being male, we'll help you anyway! lol...
Ha! I think I can think of 5 males from the board here that have this challenge added to their day. Not too many, but sad when it happens to anyone.
A Good day for you, a low pain day for you. I gave you a couple of new tools to use. Hope they work. Nancy BView Thread
When this started I journaled my triggers and fixes and decided how to pace my work load. I was working in the ICU and Hospice and in the Nuclear lab doing stress tests. well that had to stop and I chose the lab. Now I am the office Clinical Supervisor.
I learned that arms stay home. keeping the elbows into the core assists the traps and scalenes. That carrrying anything for a time is a no no. So, school books should be in a carrier that has wheels..That sitting for a long time in class will lock you legs up.M O V E. take breaks. Using thermacare patches or any capsacian creams to the muscles will help numb them out if a spot is bothering you in class. I used SOMBRA. some use STOP PAIN.
To the right in RESOURCES is the "Members Toolbox" I started that years ago to help a newbie. Look in there, many ideas to help you.
Alot here are on a muscle relaxant, a pain med and an antidepressant. I fought the antidepressant for a long time, but we are a chemical being and to increase seratonin and norepinephrine is a benefit to chronic pain. As chonic pain will change your chemistry anyway.
My choice was Soma (as it is Meprobamate before relaxant) I used it at night to help me sleep. Sleep is tough for us. Then I used Motrin forever until I had a bleeding dyscrasia. So she changed me to tramadol and I take the same dose to this day (14 years later) I use Savella 12.5mg a day as my bow on the box. Cymbalta gave me seratonin syndrome but savella is a special one. It increases norepineprine 3 x that of other meds in it's class. So that was big for me. I just couldn't go higher on the dose 50mg BID is norm. (what is norm anyway?). My B/P and heart rate were effected.
Vit D was low as many are..so Rx dose to start and 2000U a day thereafter and WNL now. Vitamin B complex to protect the impinged nerves. So far no wasting of muscles despite morning numbness and if sitting to long.
So that is my path pretty much. I hope you look into Dr P. he would be priceless for you and you pick up the books I mentioned. Book 1 is the anatomy and self help, book 2 is all trigger point injection information from the studies last presented in 2008-10.
I believe we are what we eat and you can turn this around to be better. You will learn that you cannot stretch a muscle with a trigger point in it. It will yell bloody murder the next day. You need to treat the triger points and in time can gain the strength back to the area that you had.
Hydrate...hydrate...hydrate. The problem is complex and the root is knarly** so as trees are all different so are we. You may need more Mg than I (250mg BID) you may have a good Vit D but the bottom line is the endplates to the muscles are dysfunctional with you as they are with me and there are tools for that. Start journaling and creating your toolbox to learn about you.
Gosh I was long winded. Hope this helped, sharing the path. OH I just remembered. The day I met my physicain champion was the best day in the world. I saw 9 MD's before getting the understanding and Dx I needed. I was told stupid things and then nothing, no answers of what was wrong.
I bought "Travele and Simons...Myofascial Pain and Dysfunction, the trigger point manual." It is two volumes and $$ but I needed to see* what the MD was seeing when she said "Oh that issue is from this "and showed me in the book..I went and bought the book.!!
Maybe this is for you to take on in your life, like Dr Pellegrino. He chose to take this as his path. Things happen for a reason I believe. Good luck in this "new you". You can do this, you can get better than where you are right now. I wish you all the best in your future, be a CHAMPION. Don't give up and don't let this disease take another inch of you. You know due to renal filtration it takes a while to reach euvolemia so be consistant with what I said. Look for a TrP injection specialist too, they will help you the most. Accupuncture works too but this is more direct and insurance covers it.
My name is Nancy and I too deal with this mess, I am an ICU by training. I seemed to have developed this from misuse and abuse. Lifting patients, dehydration, weight up and down and poor sleep (night shift). Many other things inc as well.
You are in a great place now to get this turned around a bit and you need to learn about you*. Dr Pellegrino developed this during MED school so he would have been a shoulder to lean on. You might want to find him. His posts are up in discussions and use the search window to find them. He also has written books about FM. Getting educated in this is imperative.
Now since you mentioned trigger points....this is my nemesis. I use Dr Devin Starlanyl and the books FM and chonic myofascial Pain to help with self treat of them and knowledge of what is making my symptom. The anatomy is there for you. I see this as an opportunity to sharpen your A&P skills! lol...
After >15 years of saying the muscle and knowing the point I still can't pull the dang muscle name out of my head! It is amazing...my field is Cardiology and I can tell you every vessel or electrical site to the heart. BUT for me...I can't remember my muscles (well traps and scalenes I have down).
So I spent a lot of money for this information and now I will pass it to you. IT TAKES 3 MONTHS TO CHANGE YOUR BODY CHEMISTRY.....in that 3 months if you break good technique you start again at day 1. That was big. I was tried and true to what I was told and it changed......
Eat a green is mean diet. Lots of green antioxidant vegetables with meat, chx and fish. Drink water...lots of water (most humans are dehydrated....I am sure you are with school and class and study..hydratingis not in the forefront) THIS was the biggest thing, I had never really drank water. No soda and NO SWEETENERS...some sugar if you must. He also put me on a product called "Green Vibrance". This was a real detox for me.
But in 3 months I was able to stretch my muscles and they listened...I was able to walk from the bed in the morning not on glass. Now I have always been followed by Neurolgy....(myofascial arm) I have entrapment of nerves as symptoms and they offered me the Trigger Point injections I so needed.
I have received TrP injection every 2 weeks for 10 years. OMG yes...I have been included in a paper presented in Canada about chronic inj and fibrosis of muscles (which i do not have). What happens with the injections is a twich and release of the ischemic zone to alow for return of function. I then have ROM and less undertone of pain. I used to get 60 injections to the upper torso and neck (my scalenes are the tough ones) now maybe 20 to the upper trunk. They are almost trained like Pavlovs dogs....she starts and things settle soon.
TrP injections are not for the faint in heart though. Injections of Lido (who's pH is off for tisssue so it burns) or dry needle (without lido) if hitting the TrP this is a painful area...it had made me cry in the begining..but I am so used to them now. The soreness after can be helped with heat and motrin. It 2 days though you are moving and better.
Having TrP's is a high energy muscle issue and it causes fatigue in itself. So fixing them should be a priority. Massage can break them up but I have found for me, it is more painful and it really didn't do much to aleviate them. Reading Dr Starlanyls book will help you. I must throw in a disclaimer here. I talk of this book to all the newbies, I get nothing out of it and I don't agree with every page she wrote but the anatomy and helpful self tools for you are priceless.
I am hoping the physiatrst plan that I did is something you will work on for 3-4 months and see how it helps, I drank 3-4 liters a day of water and to this day I am a water girl. Rarely a soda. I am back to splenda though.
I am high functioning with an 8-10 hour wellness window. There is no cure for this and we are never not in pain. Our meds just lower it to a tolerable spot to function. ContView Thread
It kills me that this is all on you. It would have been best if they went right to assisted from the hospital but beds don't open like they do in acute care. Sounds like Dad is a toughy let the aide deal with him, let her know you are on her side and sees she is doing a great job. YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE HER....
I have quite a bit on my plate too right now. DH is going in the hospital Tuesday for a cath and I am hoping for stents, but bypass surgery can happen if the blockages are in the wrong spots. ( I know too much here so fear is killling me and can't show any of it) I have his brother IN the hospital with pneumonia and he has had another heart attack (no one called the office to inform us (his cardiologist)** (deal with that on Monday)....he is on isolation and I am not going to see him at this time. I spoke with my SIL and I'll check from a distance.
Tom and Ashley bought their house and all 13 rooms now need assistance to make it theirs. We were there last night to look around. (he can't even find the screw driver I got him. He has lots of tools..).Hmmm. With DH in the hospital Tom can't leave the store to get anything done. .
I worry for the bills to heat this house this winter...the electric...all the things I worried for me. Just can't stop worrying. Even who is to plow that driveway.....
The other one (DS#1) is OK as far as I know. They come today for a dinner for Dad that I set up. All the kids, grandkids and his sisters and BIL's to the table to wish him well. I have seen simple caths go bad and you never know, so I am covering all bases.
So, closing the yard.....laundry, cleaning for company and cooking for a crowd....worrying about everything and knowing I have to be in the attic to get down the winter clothes...I amazed I am sleeping somewhat!! lol. I am up early x 2 days now for pain. Yesterday I went to the heating pad and meds and slept more but today I took the start early approach. Meds in and motrin on top. LOTS of pain and stiff to start the day. Need a few tools to stretch out and function.
I actually laid in bed and thought...why is my pain level up? Dopey...then I remembered dragging the table under the extension and emptying all the pool tubes by hands squeezing them, all the folded laundry and chging sheets, putting the laundry away...baking and making cookies and pumpkin muffins for today. I was busy and had a full day yesterday.
So OUCH is appropriate. I'll turn it around. Meds, shower, massage, stretch, meds, move...music...I'll get there.
Get were...? Somewhere over the rainbow...way up high...where pain can't find you and a good day can go bye.! It can happen.
That would be a good plaque: IT CAN HAPPEN.......
OK, that is my chat for Saturday and Sunday. I hope the weekend is going better for all here. Be busy...dormant makes for more pain than movement. Small movement to start and warm the muscles and rest...small movement...warmth and rest. Just keep moving so the devil can't catch you!