Hello Nana B....MiMi in NC. I was reading this and I wanted to *chime* in about *labor laws*....or really *any laws*....a person does not have a clue UNTIL they have been faced with whatever they are dealing with. I worked for a loan servicing company for over 14 years. I had short term and long term disability coverage....and then I paid for a policy through my pay which allowed me to get additional *disability* in case I needed this. NO....I never thought, at the time I would ever use it. (I guess it was a good thing)...
I ended up filing a worker's comp claim due to my health problems with my right hand carpal tunnel. This was accepted and approved. Just over a year later I ended up having issues with my left hand. I had my first left hand surgery on Dec 13 and got laid off on Dec 15....my insurance paid for my surgery and I had already filed another worker's comp claim for my left hand as well. The company *denied this one*....I ended up having other health issues and the company did NOT put in my claim for my *disability insurance*. Companies do NOT always do what is *right*.....I learned this the hard way.
I ended up and fought for the worker's claim. I am sure the company spent a lot of money on the attorney which had to represent them. Even the NC Commission accepted that the company denied the claim. I got screwed. My DH had medical insurance on me so this is what *saved me*....I ended up having to apply for disability since I could not seem to get well enough to go back to work. Now mind you I ended up with having multiple hand surgeries just trying to get straightened out. And then I also had right elbow issues, parathyroid and cervical issues in between all of the hand surgeries that I had. I was then denied my SSD as well. I appealed the decision and eventually got approved.....after several years. I never paid an attorney though. I did it all myself. I ended up sending a letter to the representative of my county though, with all of the info and just what took place.
Eventually the company I worked for went out of business. I would have never even thought I could have gotten in such a mess with any employer and the state as well. It seems like these days that people are just numbers....and when you need them to stand up for what is right, they turn the other way. I would hope this is NOT the way all companies work but I have heard a lot of other people have horrible stories as well.
A lot goes on in our country that is NOT right....which is really very sad. Things which might change a person forever.....in a lot of ways. The bad thing is that one never knows just what might happen UNTIL it is too little, too late.
Just wanted to share my experience and thoughts on this matter.
Hello Nana B....so glad to know that you DH got through this and I hope he will continue to recover and not over do. Sometimes though I don't think men (even doctors) get it....it does take time and lots of it to recover from anything....no matter what. Our bodies go through this and they have to have time to readjust.
Thoughts and prayers are with both of you....as I am sure this was really *stressful on you as well*....just the unknown is stressful....and to add this additional stress on us FMers can take a toll on us.
Little ones do require a lot of energy. I thought for sure that I would soon adjust to keeping my GS. He is smaller than his brother was when he was little...but I think he is much quicker to get into things. He loves books though and we spend a great deal of time looking at books. I think we read them at least 3 times or more each day. He is so sweet. He is learning things too. He understands when I talk to him. They took the boys to the fair and they bought them each a ball....a big bouncy ball. I can dribble it really low on the floor and he tries to do this....his arms and hands trying to keep up...it is so funny.
He is limited as to just how much he can get into. I am glad for this. We spend lots of quality time looking at Mickey Mouse and learning the *hot dog song*....he also likes *bubble guppies* too. I am thankful he takes a nap in the mornings which does allow me a break....sometimes though it can be really short. I feed him both breakfast and lunch. He loves to eat. He is a healthy little guy....just like his daddy. I have not found much that he will not eat. His mommy provides me with a list of what to feed him....I told her not to expect me to remember just by telling me each morning...she has to write it down. I don't trust my memory at all. (not a good thing)
OK....remember to pace and try to rest some. Keep watch on your DH so he does not overdo. (not sure this is even possible with most men though).
Morning FMily. MiMi in NC and it is a cool fall morning. I am hoping for a nice sunny day so that things can really dry out. I will be so glad when the voting is over and done with. Sick and tired of all the advertisement of what everyone has done when no one has really helped most of the important issues which need to be and should be addressed. I am hoping my phone will stop ringing as well. I am on the *do not call* list which does not apply to politics. (really?)
Here is hoping each of you had a nice restful and peaceful night and that we will all have a good day with little to no pain to deal with.
Next week our temps are going to be in the 60's. So we will indeed feel the *fall weather temps*. I am hoping it will also be dry weather as well.
Welcome to the new members who have joined our support group recently. I am sure that you will find some good *tools* that just might help you cope better. It does take time and effort to actually *feel* a difference though. What works for one may or may not help you. You do though must allow enough time to do whatever you choose to do for it to work....allow at least 6-8 weeks unless, of course, what you are doing is making you sicker than you have been.
Vitamin D. Again I want to stress just how important Vitamin D level is for a lot of people these days. I do NOT exactly understand why our Vitamin D level has gotten so low but I do know that it sure made a difference for me. Low Vitamin D can cause some people to have additional pain and it can also affect other illnesses as well. This requires just a *simple blood test* BUT you might request that the doctor run it. ( I would think that common sense should come into play with some things but I guess NOT). I often just how many people might *feel* better IF this was done when people go in for their physicals.
OK.....I am having computer issues again this morning.
Have a good day and remember to pace, pace and pace even more. Your body will thank you for doing this.
Hello and welcome.....MiMi in NC....sorry to hear that you are dealing with so much pain after having a root canal....I wish I had some answers for you. I was looking on the internet though and found some info about this: http://homepages.sover.net/~devstar/dentist.pdf
Check out the above link and you might find some sort of answers to what is going on with you. I hope things will soon get better for you.
Sometimes I think no one in the medical world understands what we, FMers, deal with every day. I guess this is true for lots of issues which happen though.
Have you tried using a heating pad on your worse areas of pain? Or maybe a cold pak....just depending on what your body allows that might help.
I wish I had something good for you to try. I know just how bad having issues with the teeth and gum area can be.
Hello semily. OMG****I am a bit confused with what you have indicated the nurse told you about your Vitamin D level. less than 4.2 ? Well, IF this is the case, then your Vitamin D is really low.....I would encourage you to be sure and do your own research about Vitamin D. I will also tell you that my Vitamin D was 12 and it took me a really long time to get mine back to 42 which was still on the low end of what is considered *normal*. I will also say this that had I not done my own research on Vitamin D and decided myself how much to take, my level might have neverf gotten better. I am quite surprised that your doctor did not put you on a prescription dose of 50, 000 iu...at least for a while....to be able to get your level up to where it would be in the *normal range*.
It seems though that there are still doctors who do not understand the importance of Vitamin D and how it can affect those of us who suffer from chronic illnesses.
I do hope you will continue to remind the doctor to keep tabs on this.....as it might really improve the way you feel once it gets back to where it should be....the normal range is 30 - 90.....so it is a wide range as well.
TGIF*******been a long week. I am a bit off schedule this morning.....so this will be short.
Welcome to the new members who have joined our support group recently. I am sure that each of you will soon find something that will help you cope better. It does take time and effort to find the right combination of *tools* which will make a difference....so hang in there and learn all you can about what others have found that has made a difference for them. What works for one may or may not work for you. Only you will know when you have found what has made a difference.
Vitamin D.....be sure and ask your doctor to check this.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Have a good Friday and remember to pace, pace and pace even more.
Beautiful picture....,MiMi in NC...thanks for sharing this with us. I am glad you found this support group also....It is good to know that there are other people who truly understand how we, FMers, feel....and I think that for the most part, all of us do. I will say that I have had several really bad days recently....but I know mine is due to the cool damp and rainy weather. I can feel the pain in my bones....no...I do NOT always understand just how this works....but I do know that I have more pain when there is bad weather.
I hope you will continue to post....and let us know how things are going with you. Share what you have found that has made a difference for you as well.
Morning FMily. MiMi in NC. It looks like we are going to have a nice day....actually yesterday turned out to be quite nice too, although this was NOT what was predicted....Seems like there are a lot of *issues* which do not turn out like everyone expects them to...perhaps some people just expect too much these days....I sometimes wonder exactly who is in charge of what....not sure that anyone knows any more.
Here is hoping each of you had a good peaceful and restful night and I hope we all will have a good Thursday with little to no pain.
I had hoped by now that I would get use to keeping my GS. He is such a sweet little person. But he is very active and it takes a lot of energy to keep up with him. I am so very thankful that he takes a nap every morning. But sometimes they are quite short.
So much going on with different FMers here. I hope things soon improve for each of you. I know just how tough it can be when we have extra stress to deal with. I have been there and done that and know exactly what this is like. Just remember that this too will pass.
Welcome to the new members who have joined our support group recently. I am sure that each of you will soon find something that will help you cope better. Be sure and check out the info under *tips* and *resources* and read the *member toolbox and check out Dr. P's discussions. (he is no longer with us but he left some good info)
Vitamin D. Again I want to stress that everyone should get their Vitamin D level checked. Low Vitamin D might cause additional pain for some people and it can also affect other illnesses as well. You will never know until you have it checked.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Have a good Thursday and remember to drink lots of water and pace, pace and pace even more....your body will thank you.
Happy Hump Day and middle of the month too. MiMi in NC and the weather changed its mind, I guess...since the predictions were kind of scary. Perhaps it went another way....I have no idea. I know last night they were talking about people would probably wake up in the middle of the night due to the storms....well, I did NOT wake up and normally either I wake up or my furbabies wake me up due to any sort of bad weather. They hate the noise. It is raining but it is a quiet rain.
Here is hoping each of you had a good, peaceful and restful night....and I do hope each of us will have a good day, with little to no pain....(hope it is not raining in your corner of the world). I know just how much dampness affects me though.
So many concerns about the Ebola and how it works. I am not really sure they even know enough to tell the public what should and should NOT happen. I do hope some how someone can get it under control before it gets really bad. Still a lot of questions.
Welcome to the new members who have joined our support group. I am sure each of you will soon find something that will help you cope better. It does take a trial and error process to do whatever we find that might help. What works for one may or may not help you. But you never know what it will do until you have tried something.
There are no quick fixes or anything that I am aware which works overnight.....except a heating pad....which works good for me. Normally it takes at least 6-8 weeks of *feeling the full potential* of what one is trying. (especially if you are trying a new prescription or taking vitamins and supplements)
Vitamin D. Be sure and ask your doctor to check this for you. Low Vitamin D can cause some people to have additional pain and it can also affect other illnesses as well. I would also suggest that you do your own research about Vitamin D.....as there is a lot of info on this.
Eating right and drinking plenty of water each day is also important. Doing some sort of *gentle exercising and / or stretching also might help. We, FMers. must keep on moving, even if it is slow. Laying around only makes our pain worse.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Remember to pace, pace and pace even more....(another good tip)
Hello ....sorry you are not feeling better today....MiMi in NC and I am not feeling good either....it is damp here with more rain expected. Not exactly the type of weather that is good for me.
Getting disability is NOT an easy thing to do.....or so I have read about many people having problems. I do think our system is badly broken. It is should NOT be this way....for people who have worked and is no longer able to do so. You do not say how long you have worked or what you do. I think one has to have so many years to actually qualify for SSD. 10 years maybe or 40 quarters maybe....I am not sure about this though. It would be in your favor if your doctor supports the decision. I don't know if you have any sort of disability benefits....short term and/or long term disability. Some companies provide this and some do not. You do not say how much your illness has caused you to miss work. So there are lots of *things* to consider.
Most people apply and a lot of them are denied....this is the *normal process* though or so it seems. Of course, they do not want to allow people to draw disability....so they would, or course, deny most. My DH had cancer and the doctors did NOT think he would survive and explained to me that I needed to look into helping him with his paperwork. He was denied as well. He eventually got approved and used it for a short time. He is a cancer survivor and was able to return to work. (thanks to GOD for this miracle and to the wonderful doctors and nurses who cared for him).
You can get some good info online about getting disability. I have read that it is easier for people who are at least 50 years old. Not sure though that it is. I was past this age when I applied and it took me several years before I was approved. I also had long term disability insurance which I was cheated out of.....I paid for this through my employer.
I hope this answers some of the questions that you might have about this. I also know that if something happens there use to be a *window of time* to get disability....from the time you are no longer able to work it use to be 5 years. I don't know if this is still in place or not. I also know that when people who are on disability get to retirement age, nothing changes with their benefits....for the most part.
Nothing is easy these days and especially for those who have health issues.