Ah 100 degrees here yesterday and I think the same today..hot hot Santa Anna winds have been blowing..now not a breath of fresh air..makes me so sleepy...
I am on my way to moms...will stay with her tonight and tomorrow..and tomorrow night will finally fix my DD her birthday dinner.
AH..Linda..yea..thanks for the best laugh I had all day...good quality affordable care,,,I have been paying this lady to sleep at mom and dads...She is basically coming in at 4 pm and doing what you would do..only here she has a pool to swim in and air conditioning and food provided..and we have to pay her to do this...She should be paying us rent..not like she really does anything..and she told the day time lady to buy some really expensive meats..and things like avocados ...that my mother won't eat.. The day lady wouldn't do it..(thank goodness)..My night time lady has made herself quite at home....and when I called over there the other day..my mom answered the phone and said she was there alone..finally the p.m. lady shows up and says.."oh I try to tell her when I go outside.."...I am sure she was out in the pool, leaving my mom to watch tv..yeah...quality care..
oh yes...this week has flown by...so much to do this weekend..I thought I would have to go take care of mom tonight..but then the caregiver switched to taking tonight at mom's and I will do Sat. and Sun.
On Sunday, we will celebrate DD's birthday ..I don't even have a card yet..so need to do that..and then get what I need for the dinner..
Oh yea...told my sisters that I had started getting some info on getting mom and dad into assisted living and was sort of jokingly saying..."so who will tell mom."...yea..they didn't step up to volunteer...
Hi and welcome...so glad you found us..and so sorry you are dealing with this.
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Do check out the right side of the page and look for the tips and resource section...then look for the post called member toolbox. It was started by Nancy B...and people have written things that have worked for them..
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I didn't go to work today...and slept in a bit..and I STILL feel exhausted... Guess I should learn to expect that..
Linda..OH YEAH..."good luck" to your relatives with a live in..hope they have all the jewelry and goodies under lock and key..and yes..I am sure when she finds out she will have a fit.
I have to tell my mom that she and dad will move to assisted living..NOT looking forward to that, but I am looking forward to not having to hire/fire caregivers..or deal with them basically making my parents home their little home away from home..using anything and everything they want..
Took DH to doctor for check up after he was in the hospital..and he seems to be doing better.
Hey all...was a busy day here..did my five hours at work, then home to try and deal with all the issues going on around here.
I called the care center for dad, and said he is "meeting his goals" or some such thing..I think what they mean is that his medicare is running out ! (not that I am cynical or anything.. )
Laura..what a terrible experience you had..I am glad you are ok..and I hope the meds help and I hope they figure something out...I do think there are things with thyroid that most docs don't get. I read an article the other day..and can't remember where..about thyroid and how it can look normal and not be normal..let's hope they can find a med that helps.
Grumpygoat...grrr...this sounds sooooo familiar..doc telling you to go to ER and ER telling you to go to doc...It is sooo frustrating.. I hope some doc can help you..but yea..do be careful about meds...some cause more trouble than they are worth..
Anyway...back to dad...yea my mind is scattered. I also called an assisted living place to try and get the paperwork to get mom and dad in there..we will see what happens..
Ah Monday..and I got to go to work..a good thing for me, since it seems to get me out of the chaos that is my life..
Speaking of which..on Friday, the caregiver I count on got sick..and they had to send in a last min. replacement. She was nice enough..a lady from Somalia....but she decided to take my mom to the store..they didn't spend a lot of money..and she did get a receipt..but they bought bananas (that my mom doesn't eat) and ice cream, of which we have a ton..I am sure she let my mom pick..but my mom will pick stuff and doesn't know what she is doing..
Then on Sat. they had a new person show up..There had been a mix up in communication between me and the office, and I was not expecting her...partly my fault..but I said..ok, she could take my mom to see my dad, and then go out to Coco's for a little breakfast...Well, she must have eaten a LOT....the bill was huge, and she did not get a receipt..Then went the afternoon person showed up, the caregiver was sound asleep. Yea...she won't be coming again...I have let the office know, not to send her..
Roll Call basically started out being a Friday check-in. Sometimes people are not up to writing a post..but we hope that at least on Friday they will check in and let us know they are ok...
Now a days...many of us check in everyday..It will be started by Mimi..and we just check in and say hello...but if you are not up to that..at least a Friday hello is nice...just look for the post that says the day of the week.
I am struggling emotionally today...just throwing myself a great big ol pitty party. I will pick myself up soon and kick myself in the rear...just need some time to pout...
Seems like this should be the best time of my life..and it seems like the worse..like I can do nothing right..or if I do something right..something wrong still happens..today I was taking mom on some errands after spending the night..when a caregiver showed up..and I realized there had been a mix up in communication with the agency..so let her take mom..and mom was not a happy camper when I left. Then I had to get ahold of the gal that was going to show up at noon and tell her not to get there then..what a mess.
Came home to find the info on DH's hospital stuff..it was rather depressing..and plus bills as the insurance will not cover all..and not sure how much he will improve..
and I want to be happy for my daughter..but even find that hard to do, as I only see problems..I think she is already sorry...and not as in love as she thought she would be..maybe she is just tired..but I should be planning a nice birthday dinner for her on Sunday..not sure if she will be here or not..she and the bf went up to the mountains for the weekend..
Ok..time to get out of this party..and get on with some gratitude..
Thank you so much Nancy...I am so worried about a reaction right now..I have so much going on..
I know you are an advocate of the shots..and I have mixed feelings..not having had flu since I was a child..if then..I really don't want that..so have decided that one is out..NO will not do it..
I didn't understand the paper on Td or Tdap...I think it says both..will have to look again at it..I am somewhat ok with taking that..had these types of shots as a kid..and probably feel ok about it.
The shingles is the real question. I don't like live vaccines..makes me nervous..and I do know I got chicken pox at about age 35 and that was NOT fun..don't want shingles..but I am thinking about waiting until I am not having to be in a state where I can be called upon to take care of mom, dad or whomever at a moments notice..if I got sick from this shot, I would be in a bad way.
good for you for figuring this out..reminds me though,...of when all this started and my feet were so swollen..and I didn't even realize it..it was all the "you are overweight" and "lose weight" talk..and making me feel bad..and probably through medifast I also lost fluid..and that probably helped..interesting.