just a quick hello...things are still crazy around here...I am hanging on...maybe hanging on by a string..but hanging on.
Nancy..hope you and your DH are doing ok..
Linda...hope your friend finds something close to you..my best friend is talking moving..and neither she nor I are happy about it..it is her DH's idea...and I do understand..sort of...but I surely don't know what I will do without her down the street..
So, I was hoping someone else could remember...I haven't tried for disability..but I know people here that have..There is a legal group that many people have used, and seem to be happy with them..but I cannot remember their name....something like Alsup?? Allsup??? maybe try to google it..maybe someone will chime in..I hope that is helpful..
Good Sat. It is a nice day outside..not too hot..very pretty..but so much to be done here.
I got a call from the care center they are almost ready to release my dad..which means he will be going home. I was trying to get it so they would go right into the assisted living...looks like that won't happen. I went to my dad's this morning. One of his hearing aids had been lost. While we were there, they came in with it..broken..so talking to him wasn't easy.
I tried telling him that he and mom should go to assisted living and that mom cannot make this decision...and his response was..."you mean temporarily until I get better?"...I am so exhausted from dealing with him...and he is so ungrateful for what anyone has done...He said he thought our caregiver for mom was "slacking off"...when she has been taking care of mom..doing stuff for dad..taking mom to see dad all the time..I was so ticked off..I am sure he thinks the same of me..
I wrote my sisters that I have so much to do to deal with all this and I was freakin out and stressed out..and I got notes back about how mom and dad need to move and "we need to get full time help for them">..and "we" need to do this and that...GEE...I wonder when "WE" will do any of that !
yup...guess "WE" will be waiting for the cows to come home if "WE" wait for "US" to do something..
Oh Laura...my heart breaks for you. I so wish there was a way to force people into therapy when they need it...Yes..you know we still deal with these types of issues too...Luckily mine is at least working and not at home..but I know his life could be so much better..and he needs therapy. He has an appointment this month..I hope and pray things will get better for both of us..It is so so scary to think what they are putting in front of themselves to deal with..Love and hugs to you..ceceView Thread
Let's put the fun back in dysfunctional !- Mary Englebright
Hello and welcome..yes..we do understand here...I realize that you know a LOT more than me..but sounds like you deal with what we deal with..I hope you have a good understanding rhumatologist...An understanding doctor is so important.
What medication are you taking for your anxiety? Have you thought of taking Cymbalta? It is an anti depressant and is good for fibro..might be a better fit for you. We have found people like me that it helped...at least for awhile...and people that cannot take it..but ask the rhummy about it.
Also...another med that helps me is cyclobenazperine (flexeril)...I take it at night so I can sleep and be ready to get up in the morning..
I do hope you will follow Mimi's advice and get that Vit D. checked...that can make a big difference..and don't forget to read the tips and resources section in the right and look for the memeber toolbox post started by Nancy B...
Speaking of Nancy B...you should "talk" to her...she is a nurse that deals with this...so understands things medically much more than me .
And you can get through school..so don't give up...many of us have done it..well...not medical school. I know that is harder than most schools..but similar stuff...
Mimi....you are certainly allowed to be late once in awhile ! You do so much good getting this started every day. I know that people that don't post do read..and I am sure it means a lot to them also. It is amazing to me when every once in awhile, someone says..I have been reading and thought I would join in...I know you do a world of good for so many. I hope you are getting some rest.
Mel...I too am having a "I want to stay in bed all day" kind of day..but pushing through it !
Linda...The Chargers are always threatening to move...They want a new stadium, so pull the "give us a stadium or we are out of here.."...been going on for years...maybe one of these days they will. I think they would be sorry to go to LA...seems like the teams there don't do that well..
Cory...so sorry about the people at work..Yea..sometimes we need to stop and smell the roses..
Ah 100 degrees here yesterday and I think the same today..hot hot Santa Anna winds have been blowing..now not a breath of fresh air..makes me so sleepy...
I am on my way to moms...will stay with her tonight and tomorrow..and tomorrow night will finally fix my DD her birthday dinner.
AH..Linda..yea..thanks for the best laugh I had all day...good quality affordable care,,,I have been paying this lady to sleep at mom and dads...She is basically coming in at 4 pm and doing what you would do..only here she has a pool to swim in and air conditioning and food provided..and we have to pay her to do this...She should be paying us rent..not like she really does anything..and she told the day time lady to buy some really expensive meats..and things like avocados ...that my mother won't eat.. The day lady wouldn't do it..(thank goodness)..My night time lady has made herself quite at home....and when I called over there the other day..my mom answered the phone and said she was there alone..finally the p.m. lady shows up and says.."oh I try to tell her when I go outside.."...I am sure she was out in the pool, leaving my mom to watch tv..yeah...quality care..
oh yes...this week has flown by...so much to do this weekend..I thought I would have to go take care of mom tonight..but then the caregiver switched to taking tonight at mom's and I will do Sat. and Sun.
On Sunday, we will celebrate DD's birthday ..I don't even have a card yet..so need to do that..and then get what I need for the dinner..
Oh yea...told my sisters that I had started getting some info on getting mom and dad into assisted living and was sort of jokingly saying..."so who will tell mom."...yea..they didn't step up to volunteer...