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Look at all the wonderful things we do for our friends, our families, and our selves. We watch games, we take walks, we pot plants. We sit in court. We cook. We go to work. And through it all, we are always willing to help each other through another day.
We'v got a lot of knowledge and a lot of heart. How lucky we are to have each other.
Have a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend. We are all veterans--of the war on fibromyalgia. Remember that.
BetteKView Thread
Have you asked your neighbors to recommend a PC practicioner? I assume your son has a doctor at your new home. Why not ask at that office for the names of some family practicioners? I had been to see an eye specialist who was great when I thought to ask her for a recommendation. She pointed me to a wonderful neurologist who was really up on fibro.
If you are able to function, you are probably getting some benefit from your present medications. You should be thankful for that. Too many "experts" consider a 16 % pain reduction to be a good outcome.
Your exercise experience does not surprise any of us. I got a major flare from a physical therapy evaluation. Like a fool, I weathered the PT course. It took a long time for that flare to leave. One type of exercise that seems to be less of a problem is aquatic. Check out a warm water aerobics class in your area or the possibility of aquatic physical therapy.
Unfortunately, we grow new neurons and new sensitivities, after 10 years of aquatics, I started sweating every time I entered the pool. Now even my showers are a little cooler.
The same thing happened with another therapy you might try. I tried to keep an open mind about acupuncture, but I was doubtful. It gave me some days that were actually pain free!
Then my scalp got sensitized. It's been 5 years, and it finally stopped hurting to shampoo or brush my hair. But those little needles are painless, and they do work.
No, there is no such thing as a magic bullet, but there are ways to make your days better. And there are wonderful people here who truly understand. We are a caring bunch.
Welcome to the family,
BetteKView Thread
I would like to suggest that you start a new post and can do so by clicking on the Orange Post Now at the top of this column, then select discussion.
There are other FMers here who would like to hear from you.
MiMi View Thread

I"ve been tearing into some of my garden chores all day, and spiffing up the house cuz hubby is coming home for the weekend.
Trying to find a comfy spot now as I've got some sciatica going on.
Beautiful day today, I hope for more this weekend. Should have taken my bath earlier--still waiting for that hot tub to land on my back porch.
Enjoy your holidays!
MaryView Thread
'the cult of wellness' I am often baffled by websites for fibromyalgia or chronic pain that give advice that obviously did not come from someone who has it--like a study shows that moderate exercise does not add to fibro pain-- the example of 'moderate exercise' was either fast walking or jogging for 20 minutes. I nearly spilled my coffee. Jog? My knees hurt just getting out of a chair. LOL.
We seem to have a time in history when being healthy is considered an accomplishment. As if you can 'decide' to do it. Or eat & exercise your way to being healthy-- not true.
Another thing is picking on overweight people-- I recall as a child being told it is wrong to do that. I read a study that said 50% of people with fibro are overweight and and some other number obese. I thought-- Did anyone ask if they were fat BEFORE they got fibro? cuz that's the relevant number.
I was thin and working a physical job in a nursing home and had a child and another on the way. So-- I may be overweight now--but had I continued to feel well I would not have gained weight I'd have been much more active and much less likely to eat for comfort. LOL
It is sad very sad that people treat others so poorly in general these days.
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MaryView Thread
I think if my brain were in a jar it would be labeled:
Abby Normal.
I give, perhaps that neurologist will know what to do with me?
MaryView Thread
Sorry to hear of so many challenges for you. I haven't found any Fibro meds that I can take, mostly because of conflicts with migraine meds. However there are some pretty good herbals that can help you deal with stress.
Rhodiola is well known and studied as an adaptogen. You can take 200-500mg per day (all before noon to prevent sleep disruption.) Rhodiola has been very helpful to me. You might want to look into that and see if it's something for you.
RLView Thread
Try to get an earlier night tomorrow night. We all need our rest, even you big, strong men.
Your steaks sound great. Our home-grown ones are tougher than the store bought, but they taste so much better. We just have to pound them, pierce them, and marinate them to get them to melt in your mouth. They are very lean and much better for your health because our cows never see a feedlot.
Walking with young hounds must be a lot like walking with a toddler. There's a lot of exploration, but it isn't necessarily of the things you want explored. Give them both a little time and you've got wonderful experiences.
Hope things settle down for your fibro. And hey, those little "get up and walk around" trips of yours are short bursts of exercise when you were NOT sitting on your posterior and broadening it's horizons.
BetteKView Thread
I hope you will check out the info here under *tips* and *resources*....I am sure you will find some good info.
The more you learn about *it* the better off you will be.
You should learn how to pace, pace and pace even more. Getting enough sleep is also really important for us FMers....it seems like we have something to deal with all the time though....it is a vicious cycle.
I do not understand why the doctor does not think the tests are right, since you tested positive for lupus. Did he say? There are no definite tests to determine if you have FM. Did your doctor check your *pressure points*?
Yes, you can indeed have all sorts of pain....all over your body. It might jump around or stay in several places. There is no rhyme or reason to most things which are associated with this illness. A lot of questions and no even answers. I think this is why doctors have such a hard time in knowing what to do for us.
Vitamin D....did your test show that you were low in it? Low Vitamin D can cause additional pain for a lot of people and it can also affect other illnesses as well. Are you taking any vitamins and supplements?
You might try taking a hot shower at night using lavender bath salts so that you can relax your body and sleep better.
Eating right and drinking plenty of water is also something which is really important.
Being stressed does NOT help the situation at all. Try to keep you stress level as low as you possibly can. Stress only makes your pain worse.
I wish I could tell you that there is a *magic pill* which will take away all of your pain....but IF there is, then someone needs to share this info with all of us as I am sure we would all like to know what it is.
We have to learn to cope....and this does take time and effort....hang in there and good luck.
MiMi
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I think-- the weird zappy jolt I was getting and the strange waves of numbness-- which I had about a year ago and again just recently--
Might actually have been from the same drug both times--just was reading an article about this as I found someone else who had the same symptoms and fibro, posted in a forum and figured out that it was likely her problem--she had forgotten to get her RX refilled due to a lot of stress.
Anyhow--it makes sense cuz then it would be the same situation both times.
I didn't like that drug a year ago & yet I did try it again this time, but after several weeks I switched to nortryptilene which seems better for me.
so... the jolts and numming was worse at first and slowly better-- and I think it had run its course.
I'm gonna try the gabapentin again and see if anything happens. Cuz--
I'm getting more pain with out it and if it is ok, I want to use it.
Also-- maybe re think the neurologist. we shall see..
MaryView Thread
My voice will often go hoarse (throat feels constricted and hurts when it's happening). Tonight, it's quite bad to the point where I don't really have much of a voice. I haven't eaten much today so I don't think it's indigestion or anything. I have quite a bit of pain tonight. Arms are tingling, my eyes are twitching a lot (is that normal?). I'm so tired of all this crap. I don't want to ignore something that may not be related to the FM. I'm a bit frightened right now.View Thread
what you said was great to read. One thing that amazes me--Ive been 'sick' I guess for almost all my adult life, and actually was not that well as a child either.
But I noticed that if people in my life think I may have MS or some kind of tumor---its as if my being ill never existed. In thier minds it was never real. So now they are concerned.
sigh..its funny because I know I've been impacted by this fibro more than many people I've seen seem to be impacted by ms or ra. so weird.View Thread
I stay pretty busy. I have been quilting and sewing quite a bit. I am trying to get a shop going on Etsy. Also getting ready for vacation. We are going to Hawaii for one week and then Texas for two. I miss my grandbabies so much since they are still there and I am now in AZ. I live right down the street from my mom so am able to help her out. She just had cataract surgery so I am being her chauffer. I guess turn about is fair play. Seven weeks ago I had surgery on both feet and she not only chauffeured me around but cooked, washed dishes and did whatever I couldn't do from a wheelchair.
It was so nice to see a familiar name still here. I hope others come out to say hi. Does anyone hear from Audrey these days? I owe her a letter and have been just awful about sitting down to write one. I'll stick around as much as I am able. I'll be in and out during the month of June. I have gotten a few new diagnoses since I have been here but will not bore you with that right now. Again, thank you so much for the warm welcome and I am so happy you get to spend time with your GD once again!View Thread
I hope that you can take a hot shower perhaps and you should try using lavender bath salts in a stopped up drain....when I am deeply stressed or hurting bad I do this and it helps my body to relax so that I can sleep. Sleep is so very important to us, as I am sure you already know.
You can also use a heating pad which helps me as well.
I use mine probably more than I should....we are best friends now. I have found that *whatever works* is the best we can do.
FM is a vicious cycle....and is very hard to deal with without the stress that can be added....our pain levels increase greatly when stress is added.
I hope you are now asleep and resting peacefully. I wish I was also. Furbabies woke up due to thunder storms. I hate when I have to get up and let them out and they decide they do NOT need to go out in the rain afterall. Of course, I do not blame them. Who wants to go out and get wet?
Take care and I hope your pain will be down when you wake up in the morning.
MiMi View Thread
Monday I had to travel with a co-worker to Tomahawk WI. It was a pretty painless trip and despite his New Camaro, the nice WI roads kept it from wrecking me. It was also 80 and sunny there. We left and returned to mid 40s here at home. We came back Tuesday just after noon.
I woke tis morning to our long day and it wasn't bad at all. I was tired this am, but the day went pretty good.
The sun hasn't been out here since Sunday. We received about 2.5 inches of rain since, and we finally got a peek of it just before sunset.
I should be back to normal schedule wise tomorrow. Take care everyone.
CoryView Thread
Fran,
I don't know if any of your meds could contribute to hair loss, but I do know that right around the time I started being really affected by my fibro, I noticed a lot more hair in the drain after my shower. I asked my hairdresser about it, and she said that there was a lot of loss in full-length hair, but that I had a whole lot of new hairs coming in. Then she just floored me with, "I think the new hair is curly, too!"
Well, sort of. There is now a patch bordering where you would part your hair on the left side that is curly. It looks wierd there next to the rest of my baby fine straight hair. I just get perms now, and things even out.
All this happened about the time menopause must have been visiting me. (It's harder to tell since I had a hysterectomy at 35.) So there I was, battling a lot of fibro issues, sweating all the time, getting even less sleep than normal, and losing 1/3 or so of my normal-lenght hair. Not a pretty sight.
What did I do? I got a shorter, permed style. (Comb it after the shower, and you're good all day.) I joined a weight-loss group and started walking to Pizza Hut's salad bar every day for lunch--sticking to salad with vinegar and oil dressing and none of the hi-cal extras. I arranged my classes (lucky me) so that I did all my next-county ones on two days a week with a day nearer home in between. I taught my sons how to load the dishwasher after dinner, and convinced my hubby that if he wanted "real" spuds for dinner HE would peel them before I got home from work. And I found the best fibro neurologist in 100 miles.
As I said, lucky me.
BetteKView Thread
so I guess I assume its genetic. not all the women have it, I got 'lucky'. Could be worse--my cousin lost her's by age 30 and always wears wigs.View Thread
Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats - Voltaire
I just turned 68 years old and have never worn make-up. When I was young I was quite the feminist (still am in most ways) and decided that, if men didn't have to wear make-up to have women like them, then women should not have to either. Also, I never liked the idea of putting make-up on my skin. No hair dye, either...natural is what I try to be
I, too, wash my face several times a day, but I use soap. Right now, my bar has shea butter in it. Often, I use Dove or Caress. My skin is very oily but I never had trouble with acne.
WebMD has an article about bras that says, if you wear them at a young age, you will sag more when you get older. Thank goodness for bra-burning parties in the 60's and 70's (yes, we really did do that). I did start wearing them as I gained weight. When you're 105 pounds, you really don't need a bra.
I also feel like I have saved my feet from becoming deformed by avoiding the torture of high-heeled shoes with pointy toes. Guess I'll never win any fashion awards.
Hugs to all!
maggieView Thread
Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats - Voltaire
I also want to add that I no longer have to shave my legs either, like I once did. Actually I do not shave them but probably every 6 weeks or so. Interesting isn't it, just how much things change and sometimes we don't even think about them doing so.
I hope you will share what your dermatologist tells you about this.
Take care.
MiMi View Thread
I'm with MiMi on this though. It is so very easy to forget that you have a chronic illness when everything is going so great.
Anyone who has weathered this disease for a few years knows that life does have its ups and downs.
Enjoy every minute of this newfound joy, but please remember just how fragile your body can be. It is so easy to stay up talking to your new love when your body should be soaking in a tub and in bed by a reasonable hour.
It is so exciting to be opening a new chapter in your life, but you must still listen to your body. We all know we can distract ourselves from pain during flares. That's wonderful, if we are treating those flares during the distractions. It is also possible to be so wrapped up in life that you don't hear the little warnings that a major flare is coming on--but could be avoided if you are careful, don't get overtired, and budget your time and energy.
We all want you to have a full, vibrant new life. We just want it to be as painless as possible.
BetteKView Thread
Unfortunately, I was not able to continue roller skating with my fibromyalgia because it began during my second pregnancy at a time when early marriage (learning how to cook, clean, and manage both a home and my husband's business) and early motherhood (the boys are only 14 months apart) left me with no time, no energy, and no money to skate 3 times a week.
I still believe that 10 years of skating at least 9 hours a week built up strong leg, hip, and back muscles that helped limit FM's effects on my body for the next 25 years. (Those skates are HEAVY.) Whether you are dancing, doing figures, or just skating around the rink, you lift your weighted legs a lot of times each session. And it is fun.
Everyone needs fun. Whether you're young or old, single, or attached, you need connections with others who share your interests. Sharing in a sport--even if it's just a walk around the neighborhood--is a great way to continue your active life and to expand your circle of caring people.
One of the the things that can happen is that we limit our contact with others as we DO less and less. If the time comes that you must limit some of your activities, try to keep the people who shared those activities with you within your circle of friends. If this is impossible, expand your circle to those who are active in your new, gentler persuits. (Think a water aerobics class instead of a spinning class.)
Some of the changes in your life will be because of new life circumstances (a new job in another city or marriage or parenthood), some will be a product of natural maturing of your body and your mind (an interest in community affairs, the PTA, or a new hobby that engrosses you), and some will probably be because of your fibromyalgia (bike riding is just too painful, so you walk).
Fibro is a challenge. Like all challenges, how they effect us is often a matter of how we affect them. Life can still be beautiful--but only if we let it.
We'll still gripe here, though!
BetteKView Thread
Just thought I would share a little know secret with you as far as medicine bottles. Most of them have threads on the top of the covers so you can turn the cover upside down and screw them on to the bottles hope this helps some of you.
have a great dayView Thread
Hope that helps.
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