You asked for a "tip", here it is: Train yourself to think only positive thoughts. Study the thoughts that pop into your head and think how they may be framed to be encouraging or hopeful. How many people do you know actively try to control what they "think" about (let alone, try to censure out the destructive stuff)?
The words, "I can't...", robs us all of opportunity and freedom. Here's a great example of what I'm talking about...
Some people are forced to work two full time jobs. Business start-ups is even more demanding. I've done both and I paid a huge price. We do what we believe we must do.
No one is going to convince you that nothing is worth your health...or your family. The landscape is littered with casualties, am I wrong? We live our lives programmed on ridiculous advertising and bullcht subliminal messages. Our kids will become drug addicts unless they get private lessons for everything. Life aint worth living without the cruise to the mediterranean...or a BMW M5...
You only got 15 mins? Lucky you! Some people can't spare a minute. Take a walk.View Thread
I will state the obvious. 1. You are not losing weight. 2. Others are having similar problems just like you, and 3. You have a family history of diabetes and your worst fears have, now, been realized...
Your problem is shared by just about everyone that visits this board and I hate to say but it has little to do with losing weight. Your problem is you. You will only entertain solutions that make sense to you. You think that being overweight is about eating too much. You think that being overweight is about not performing enough exercise. That's it. Any suggestions that fall "outside" calories and exercise are beyond your ability to adopt, thus, are discarded, immediately.
Have you not noticed that over 100 million Americans can't lose weight, either? Haven't you noticed that almost every diabetes reference states that diabetes is "uncurable" and that once you have T2 Diabetes, you will always have it? What's the one effective treatment for Alzheimer's, High Blood Pressure, Breast, Lung and Colon Cancer or Heart Disease?
The reason why there is no "cure" for Obesity (or any of the diseases I've mentioned, above) is because the cure is about changing your lifestyle. People are incapable of changing the way they live even if it means living in excruciating pain...or having to shoot insulin into their bellies before every breadstick.
Lifestyle diseases are about two things: aging and chronic inflammation. Aging because all of your vital organs operate with diminishing efficiency as we grow older. Aging is an oxidative process. Chronic inflammation weakens your immune system which, in turns, opens the door for disease and allows pathogens & toxic metabolic wastes to accumulate, unchecked, in your body. This is why Obesity and all the other lifestyle diseases are seldom the "only" problem. ie. co-morbidity. Chronic inflammation, like aging, is an oxidative process, as well.
So, the solution to weight loss is not just diet and exercise, babe. It can't be! Because, if it was that simple, nobody would be fat!
The solution is adjusting your lifestyle with a focus on "anti-oxidation". For example, more fresh air. Drinking more pure water. Consuming more foods that contain anti-oxidants and omega-3 fatty acids. It means using antibiotics only as an absolute last resort. It means maintaining good hygiene and obsessive skin care. It means plenty of exercise, everyday. It means plenty of rest, everyday. It means regulating and managing stress, everyday. It means addressing and limiting exposure to environmental toxins at all cost. These are just a few anti-oxidative actions you can take. There are hundreds of other things that you can do that can fight the oxidative process of aging and inflammation.
But, there's no point in going further because it requires thinking "outside the box". You're not the only one who is unwilling and unable to deal with this concept. That is stating the obvious.
Note: I am a 60yo male, ex-smoker, ex-alcoholic with a devastating family history of both T2D and cancer. I'm a well controlled diabetic (A1C 5.2), no drugs or supplements, needed.View Thread
Can you "jump"? Can you perform "lunges"? Can you do "squats"? The reason I ask is because, these 3 movements are widely acknowledged as being excellent all-body exercises.
If you agree, now, if I was take slow motion video of you walking from your car to the Walmart front entrance, would you be surprised to learn that you perform "mini-jumps", "mini-lunges" and "mini-squats" with every step?
In other words, is "video" what it's going to take to convince you what every dr, the world over, has been instructing their patients for the last hundred years?
Walking is the best exercise. Walking with company is the very best.View Thread
There's a general rule of thumb: If you're experiencing severe pain, chronic headache, high fever, infection/inflammation or any kind of bleeding, go see a doctor, asap, because those 5 things are not normal...in other words, something is very wrong! The strep throat and fever associated with that kind of infection is pretty common among college aged students because of their insane schedule, chronic sleep deprivation, drug / alcohol induced stupor, non-stop consumption of Top Ramen and utter disregard of reasonable sanitation practices. My concern would be dependent on how well your daughter is receptive to reason. Is she capable of taking better care of herself to allow her body to strengthen and heal. Of course, if her elevated heart rate was the result of alcohol and/or narcotics, that's whole nuther issue, entirely. The ER test results should provide considerable insight on what was going on. If I was her dad, I'd demand to see a copy of the labs and notes and get some peace of mind. My youngest just completed her grad work 2 years ago and is working full time, now. I'm so grateful she made it thru college in one piece. University has become an incredibly stressful time for parents, now. It's unfair, yes, but it is what it is. View Thread
People "exercise" because it prevents disease, makes you look & feel better and promotes beauty and slows aging. If you don't value any of these goals, why force yourself?
I "hate" buying lotto tickets; I feel like a jackass waiting in a line to buy them. What do I do when the jackpot reaches $500 million? Want to take a guess?
Now, I can easily change the way I feel about buying lotto tickets buy changing my perspective about the process. I can do this because I'm flexible, plus, I find that making changes open up new opportunities to improve my lot in life. In other words, taking on new challenges and trying new things are empowering...
I feel this way, in large part, because I exercise. Forcing yourself to do anything you "hate" is dumb, imo.View Thread
Your body requires many things in order for a successful return to improved health. Two of the most important: Plenty of oxygen & improved blood circulation. This is why exercise is always advised in the treatment of both weight loss and depression/mental health disorders. Exercise helps repair the body by stimulating new tissue growth. Finally, when you move, you are "exercising". You move throughout the day and, not once, have you ever thought, "Gee...I'm exercising." Just move, more. It's no big thang.View Thread
Many people have asked the question, "What's the best exercise?"
My answer is: Any exercise that you can do while maintaining good posture.
Good Posture is when your ears, shoulders, elbows, hips, knees and ankles are stacked in a straight line. The best way to remind yourself of good posture: Chin up, shoulders back, chest out. This position is very relaxing and causes no strain on your spine since your weight is evenly supported, top to bottom.
Being overweight ruins good posture because a big belly will shift your lower spine out of good alignment in order to support the extra belly weight. Long term, this misalignment will eventually cause lower back pain. Low back pain is number 1 cause of disability, worldwide. Misalignment due to poor posture is the primary cause of hip and knee replacement surgery in the US. Poor posture and obesity is costing trillions of dollars in GNP loss, worldwide.
The breathing muscle, the diaphragm, is the largest muscle in the human body. On average, it pumps over 20,000 times a day which is the approximate number of breaths taken by an adult. The diaphragm is not suitably designed to accommodate poor posture so when people sit hunched at a computer or viewing a cell phone throughout the day or sprawled on a sofa while watching TV, the efficiency of each breath taken is greatly compromised. The effect of poor posture on proper breathing is enormous; You may only receive 50% of the amount of oxygen from each breath. Impaired breathing due to poor posture makes it easy to understand why people can be so fatigued and have no energy at the end of the day.
I sleep on the ground, on my back, to maintain straight alignment even while sleeping. Soft mattresses allow the spine to curve which, in turn, restricts efficient breathing. Poor posture while sleeping coupled with obesity is a recipe for one of the most serious and destructive health conditions: Sleep Apnea
The goal to lose weight is just about every adult's wish at some point in their life. The first step to losing weight is neither diet or exercise, imo. The first and most important step is maintaining good posture. Good health cannot be accomplished while having poor posture. It's just that critical.View Thread