My partner of 27 years passed away in my arms a year ago and I've only had one dream of him, very short (that I remember) of us in the kitchen getting coffee in the apt. he passed away in. Why doesn't he come to me in my dreams as he does with his mother? Now that I'm alone, I've got way too much time to think and I think about this a lot. We never argued, fought - the last night we spent together was as joyful as we could make it (dispite the colorectal/liver cancer he had). I miss him so much but wonder why he doesn't "come to me" in my dreams? The 'what if', hind sight and guilt trips are driving me up a wall and I really need to come to peace with this. Has anyone gone thru this and found the answers they needed to make peace with loosing a very much loved, GOD sent love one?View Thread
Dear Caprice, The best words I've ever heard - "Be gentle with yourself . . . " One can beat themselves up inside so bad after loosing a loved one. Should I have done this? I wasn't there for him when - . Stuff like that and I'm finding myself slowly putting Tim in my past so I can get on with my life but it's REALLY hard when he was so much part of me, my life and the companionship we had for ½ of my life. I'm 58 and we were together for 27. That's a looong stretch to 'all of a sudden' cut off of. I really appreciate your reply Caprice. At least I know that there's someone ( ! ) out there who's been there/gone thru that. Be gentle with yourself - 4 little words that really hit the spot. Thanks' a lot, BillyView Thread
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