I have been without my husband now for 2 years and it has been a long road to this new existence. Life has changed very much so it the direction of independence and self realization. Many people will tell you take one day at a time, and it is truly words to live by. Our pain will not go away but it will diminish over time and we will replace the pain with happy memories. I am still working hard at trying to find myself. I have occupied my time with friends, work, and my daughter's extra curricular activities. I am now enjoying life and I still wonder if there is someone else out there that will be a life partner. I know I had that filled when my husband was here but circumstances have led us in a different direction. I am optimistic that God will send us what is best for us. Thank you for your support.View Thread
Thank you for sharing your story and I know that it is difficult to write what you are feeling and to have it all out in public view. I do appreciate this feedback. I have now been with out my husband for 17 months at it seems like an eternity. I still don't dream of him...I wonder if it is just me doing this to myself. I wish things could be as it was when he was here, but I know that would be impossible. I have two grown children that are acting like idiots because of the male dominance thing. These children would not have considered any such actions if Dad were here, and it makes me sick to think that they are not even considering what I have been thru and still going thru, and they're adding to the mix of things. I tried grief counseling and groups. The ones available to me are the grief counseling and it is available for all who lost a loved one. I didn't feel it is personal enough for me. I just wish that if I am to meet someone else in this lifetime, make them available and visible to me. Thank you for listening and I thank the person who thought of this site, because it does help. I know I won't receive an answer today but I know I will receive one eventually. Thanks again! View Thread
wifeofnamvet: thank you for your response. It has now been a year since my husbands death and I still find that I don't belong anywhere. I am trying to find other interest to occupy my time. I do spend more time with my daughter. I hope things take a turn for the better, I really would want to be my old self again; a person with ambition and direction. It is comforting to know that others feel the same way and I do wish that our hearts heal from this tremendous wound. It is in God's hands.View Thread
I lost my husband in July 2011and it seems there are days I don't have time to think, but other days it is a constant reminder that he is not here. Today, I was having a bad day; everything reminds me of him. I think I am going to make myself crazy and then my minds trails off to some other thoughts that occupy my mind for a moment. I don't dream of him and I think that is weird. I have a hard time relating to other people regarding my grief because I feel it is different from other grief. I have been through a parent and grandparent death. I just feel with a spouse it is a greater impact, reason being he was my support, my friend, and he shared in the daily events of life. Now, I am raising my daughter alone and trying to run a household without him. I live in a house that has become a burden. I mow the lawn and fix things around the house. I am happy for the neighbors I have. The neighbors help out as much as they can. I think I need to hear that there are others out there.View Thread
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