You are here because you have lost someone from your life and we are so sorry for your loss. Or you're preparing to lose someone dear to you. Sharing with others who are on the same road can be a powerful healing tool. Keep talking here as much as you need to, share your grief and your memories. And if you can at all, do some reading of others' posts and offer the same kind of comfort you seek.
We will not be looking in here as regularly and so I really hope you all will take care of each other. It can be a powerful healing tool to talk with others who are themselves grieving and, especially, to offer support to others.
Hold on to miracles like that to help to pull you through.
I really hope you find ways to keep reaching out for yourself to start filling up all that emptiness. Find ways to give to yourself.
I know I had to find new ways to do that after my own big loss; what used to work in the past didn't work anymore. New music, new hobbies, new ways of socializing, etc. Do you ever get out into nature at all?View Thread
Writing was always a great tool for me too, through loss, through rape, through abuse.
Support groups are helpful as well, online and in the real world. So perhaps you might want to look into those in your community and/or church. Connecting with others through shared issues can be healing.
I really do hope you end up getting real support re the rape, dear one.
Music, inspiring videos, getting outside in nature (for a walk or even just sitting on a bench if that's all you can manage right now), etc., all can help.
Perhaps once all the dust settles on your living arrangements, you could consider a pet as well.View Thread
I am so very sorry about the rape and really hope you have some support around you. If you cannot go to a therapist, consider calling RAINN and/or posting on our own Sexual Abuse Survivors board (we also support those who have been raped as adults).
I'm a big believer in thanksgiving being the key to happiness in the long run. But that doesn't mean we don't need support along the way too. ((((softhugs))))
I have a few years like that and we became afraid to pick up the phone because it seemed like it would only be more bad news for the family.
You are dealing with so much loss and it doesn't sound like you have a lot of support aside from the professional ones. I'm very glad you're getting help there, but perhaps start reaching out to friends too and find ways to give to yourself. I also hope that your husband is getting his own help and that the two of you can together start finding reasons to smile.
Keep talking here if it helps at all. (((hugs)))View Thread
I am so sorry for what happened and the loss you're dealing with.
Please understand that this is a VERY recent event and it is going to take time to process it all and heal. I hope you and your husband are supporting one another, that you reach out for more support among friends and family, and if you need further support, consider getting some individual therapy. This is a hard thing to process so please be patient and gentle with yourself.View Thread