Hi. I suggest you check out this site - dodsonandross.com. Look at the left side of the home page and you will find different topics. You should be able to learn how to get yourself to orgasm. It might take some time so be patient and keep trying. Just don't over think things.
It sure can. I think it's because your hormones are all over the place. I didn't have many problems during that time. I would miss a period here and there and sometimes it would be heavier. I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones as the only symptom/problem I had is hot flashes. I still have them after nine years but not as bad.
I really think it's how your labia are naturally formed. Here's something I forgot to mention last night. Google 'Large Labia Project' and look at the pictures that real women have submitted of their vulvas. As I told you the other day go to dodsonandross.com. It's a very informative site. There is one area called 'different vulva styles' or something like that. Dr. Betty Dodson herself has long inner labia with one side being longer than the other.
You may be very surprised that if you do talk to your mother that she has the same thing going on with her vulva. I'm not saying it will be easy but you can do it. Be very matter of fact and tell her that you've noticed what seems to be some extra skin on your vulva and you were wondering what it could be. Most parents want their children to come to them when they have questions or concerns.
Once again I'm going to tell you that I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you.
Our bodies are not perfectly even on both sides. My right hand is bigger than my left. My left breast is slightly bigger than my right one. It's the same with our vulvas. Our labias can be different sizes. I bet your boyfriend has different sized testicles and that one hangs lower than the other one.
Since you're on birth control you've had a genital exam right? Did the doctor say that anything was abnormal? Or the usual 'everything looks good'?
Just because your boyfriend is not a virgin (so he says) does not mean he knows a lot about the female body and genitals.
Have you ever used a mirror and really looked at your vulva? Have you ever seen any pictures of other women's vulvas? No two are the same.
Do not allow your boyfriend to make you feel ashamed of your uniqueness. You are beautiful and don't you forget it!