I really think it's how your labia are naturally formed. Here's something I forgot to mention last night. Google 'Large Labia Project' and look at the pictures that real women have submitted of their vulvas. As I told you the other day go to dodsonandross.com. It's a very informative site. There is one area called 'different vulva styles' or something like that. Dr. Betty Dodson herself has long inner labia with one side being longer than the other.
You may be very surprised that if you do talk to your mother that she has the same thing going on with her vulva. I'm not saying it will be easy but you can do it. Be very matter of fact and tell her that you've noticed what seems to be some extra skin on your vulva and you were wondering what it could be. Most parents want their children to come to them when they have questions or concerns.
Once again I'm going to tell you that I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you.
Our bodies are not perfectly even on both sides. My right hand is bigger than my left. My left breast is slightly bigger than my right one. It's the same with our vulvas. Our labias can be different sizes. I bet your boyfriend has different sized testicles and that one hangs lower than the other one.
Since you're on birth control you've had a genital exam right? Did the doctor say that anything was abnormal? Or the usual 'everything looks good'?
Just because your boyfriend is not a virgin (so he says) does not mean he knows a lot about the female body and genitals.
Have you ever used a mirror and really looked at your vulva? Have you ever seen any pictures of other women's vulvas? No two are the same.
Do not allow your boyfriend to make you feel ashamed of your uniqueness. You are beautiful and don't you forget it!
Most women have inner and outer labia. I have large, fleshy outer labia and relatively no inner labia. Some women have large, fleshy inner labia. We're all different when it comes to our vulvas.
I kind of hate to say this but your boyfriend has probably only ever seen a woman's genitals while watching porn. A lot of those women have had their genitals surgically altered.
If you're contemplating becoming sexually active you should go to your doctor for an exam and discuss the different birth control methods and while you're there ask if everything looks normal.
Additionally check out the following website - www.dodsonandross.com. Dr. Betty Dodson is an excellent teacher about all things sexual. You can even email questions about your concerns to her if you don't feel comfortable talking to your mother or doctor.
I'm sure your genitals are perfectly fine and normal.
Imo it would be better for you and your wife to eat a healthy diet. Get rid of the junk - processed foods, unhealthy fats and sugar as much as you can. Concentrate on fresh fruits and vegetables, lean meats, whole grains and low fat or fat free dairy. Eat healthy fats like those found in nuts, olives and avocados. Eat a rainbow of fruits and vegetables.
Angel will you stop obsessing over this! How many people will it take to convince you that you're NOT pregnant? You've had four negative pregnancy tests. Your self-induced stress is most likely causing your period to be late.
Since you don't seem to trust what at least half a dozen people have told you on two different boards please make an appointment with your doctor and go to that appointment! We cannot make your period start.