I'm not sure what your bf has to be angry about. We all have a past. Forget teaching your ex a lesson - breakups are part of life and we have to learn to deal with them. OTOH, your neighbour committed oral rape ... Rape is a crime and the police should have been called. It may not be too late to do so.
I suggest that you seek a therapist to help you through these issues - you have had a lot of things happen to you in quite a short time and it isn't surprising that you are overwhelmed. You especially need professional help to get beyond these ideas of suicide. I understand that you feel you want revenge but suicide is not revenge. Please seek help.
There are other options you can explore - polyurethane or tactylon condoms (non-latex, both of them), female condoms (they're all non-latex), copper-T IUD (VERY effective), spermicides.
Does your problem with hormonal BC concern estrogen or estrogen AND progesterone? If only estrogen then there may be a hormonal solution with BC methods that contain only progesterone (minipill, the shot, etc.).
By the way, while your bf is demanding plans and backups for your contraception you might ask him what he is doing to find information on it ... Contraception concerns both of you. You might like to point out to him that a vasectomy would be very effective and would not have adverse effects on your health View Thread
Yes, it will work as birth control. The only thing that changes is that you are missing inactive pills. As the inactive pills don't actually do anything and it's the active pills that do you'll be fine. OTOH, sometimes you get breakthrough bleeding when you take your pills like that - i.e. your period doesn't completely disappear each month - so don't be surprised if you have a little spotting View Thread