The mind-body is very powerful. The mind can cause changes in hormones (fight or flight response) which in turn can change blood pressure and heart rate. And noticing those change can cause more anxiety.
And those long term can make physical changes in the body.
Also some times purely medical conditions can trigger the changes in heart rate, which can trigger anxiety.
What ever the trigger it can be a vicious cycle and continues to get worse.
And everything that you are doing right now is just making things worse. Poor diet, no exercise, not getting out.
While the ER and EMT's are good as determining if there is an immediate condition, they are no good for finding "hidden" problems.
You need to get a doctor that you can work with to look at any physical causes and to treat the results of the anxiety.
You also need to see a councilor to help find the triggers to the anxiety and work at methods to help control it (relaxation responses).
Anti-anxiety meds might be needed at the start, but they are not a fix for your problems.
I went through much the same with I was 43, the age that father died from a heart attack. But in my case my symptoms showed up as digestive problems.View Thread
I have had open surgery for bypass. The cut sternum bones take 6-8 weeks to heal. And it can be very painful for a couple of days and when you cough or sneeze for a couple of weeks.
I have had robotic surgery for prostate removal and had almost zero pain. But, besides the robotic there are other minimally invasive methods.
I might have to get this done some day so I have been following different methods and seeing some operating videos on the web.
And the minimally invasive do take longer and that is a concern.
But I can't see how it is more painful.
I saw on video showing a 30-40 yr old out jumping hills on a dirt bike a week after his minimally invasive repair. I am not sure, but I think that his was a mini thoracotomy where they go through the side of the chest.
You might try a google for - mitral valve forum - and find one that has more people that have had repairs.View Thread
With open heart surgery the breast bone is split, then separated and spread apart. This pushes the shoulders back.
As more of the heart is on the left side it makes sense that more of the resultant stress is on the left.
However, I did not remember and additional soreness on the left.
But I had a bad muscle spasm running from my left shoulder blade to my spine. It started about a week after the surgery and lasted 2-3 weeks.
When you go to cardiac rehab one of the things that they do is shoulder stretching exercises.
Also for several months I had random itching and sharp pains on my left breast area as the nerves to the skin started growing back. Rubbing the area a couple of seconds with my fingers interrupt the pain for awhile.View Thread
We been told to eat only organic foods by the doctor, which is out of the question due to their high costs.
The best diet is one that you can live with. The best diet in the world is one that you can live with. If that diet is too restrictive for your taste or too expensive you will not be able to stick with it.
In general organic foods don't have much of an advantage. However, there are a group of foods, mostly those where the skin of the vegetable or fruit, is eaten that some people think is worth getting organic. Google -dirty dozen organic food- and you will find them.