thanks for everyone's advise. last night i had terrible night sweats, soaked pajamas and bed. i of course freaked. i also found a sore inside my mouth in my cheek. i respect all those that go and get tested and if positive take steps to obtain treatment. i am not that person. When i described my girlfriend, it is actually my wife. we are older have grandchildren and a pretty good life that i affected with one encounter. i wish i could go back, but can't. i can't bring myself to get tested and confirm my worst fears. i wish Dr. David was closer so i could see him or talk to him. i don't feel there is anyone i know here to do that with. my health was good until i began to feel bad about 7-8 weeks ago and haven't felt good since. I feel my life is over. There is no way i could face my family or friends. i can't believe i risked everything i have for that one encounter. 3-4 minutes were not worth ruining my life and that of my wife. i guess no going forward is cowardly but i feel i have no choice knowing that i do not want to let my family know about this. i appreciate all your help, but not sure what else anyone can doView Thread
i now have swollen lymph nodes in my armpits. i just noticed it. they are under both arms and are really soft almost like fat.( i am overweight). i am 10 1/2 weeks after the exposure i described. it just seems that each week it is something new. my doctor doesn not return from vacation until January 9th, so i guess i am asking for additional assurance that what i described is not a risk. i am so stressed i am not sure how i can get through the next couple of weeks. thanks for your help.View Thread
i can't tell you how thankful I am to get your response. it is Friday night the day before a holiday weekend and you take the time to respond to all of us who are so stressed.
The exposure I described is the only time that i have engaged with a sex worker over the last 5 years and tested negative a couple of years ago.
The rash i described was gone in 3-4 days but reoccured 10 days later and went away in 3-4 days. by the time we went to the dermo the rash was gone. My girlfriend has not had other symptoms other than being chilled over the past few weeks.
i have had upper stomach pains off and on (pain one day then nothing for 3-4 days). No fever, no rash. I went to the doctor about my stomach and he gave me nexium and recommeded i see a gastrointensinal doctor.
During my exposure she had wiped her hand clean but cleaned me with the napkin she had cleaned her hand. i did not see any visible vaginal fluid.
i am encouraged by your comments and by the fact that HIV does not live long outide the body. she touched me 3-5 minutes after she had masterbated herself.
i am following up with my doctor about my stomach issues. i am now imaging swollen lymph glands even though it has now been 10 weeks.
i have read your recent post and i am sure i speak for many visitors to this site when I thank you for all yoiur time.
i will assume i am not infected becuase what i described is what happened and nothing else.
Since, this has been my only exposure over the last 5 years and since i tested negative a couple of years ago. i have decided not to test because of all your assurances that i was not at risk. thanks again.View Thread
thanks for your response. The reason for my question is that i have a slight what has appeared to be a pimple from an old herpes outbreak. it has been there for years and breaks open on occasion. no bleeding but broken skin. not sure if this would change your response. So i was hoping that Dr. David would reference the CDC study about the live of hiv outside the host. 10 weeks after exposure i have stomach pains and chills. my girlfriend also has chills.
Altough i had promised Gail i would not ask anymore questions, i do have one additional. is the reason you said there is no risk because of the fact the HIV virus does not survive in the air outside the host. Or was it the fact that there was little chance of the virus entering my blood stream. i have read many similar questions but have not seen an answer to this question. another reason is that here 8 weeks after my encounter i have a sore throat, a swollen lymph node (visible ball on my chin which i haven't been touching, sore neck. i would appreciate your response to last me until the 90 day window for testing.
thanks for the time you took to answer my question (s). After your previous response I began to wonder who had answer the call i made to the hot line. maybe it was the cleaning lady (very funny). thanks guilt and stress are powerful emotions. i have learned my lesson.