Well, I got my blood test results today. I am HIV NEGATIVE - what a surprise (that was sarcasm - haha). Gail, I took your advice and made the promise to my boyfriend last night that this would be the LAST test either of us would take as long as we stay together and are monogamous. Any crazy doubts that may have crept into my head about the OraQuick at-home test are just that...CRAZY - because him getting tested *again* is not even an option, because he said he was not going to do it. Therefore, I'm re-stating what I already said before - I have no choice but to move on from all of this, because my boyfriend and I are both HIV negative. Doesn't matter what kind of test we took. Thank you for all your advice.View Thread
What I've come to realize is that oral tests, blood tests, and the OraQuick at-home test are all pretty much just as accurate as one another. I had the counselor agree with this when I had my unnecessary blood test done this past Wednesday. Gail is right - not a chance in hell of this happening.
Just like all the worrying I've done, after my boyfriend and I were both tested before we were together AND during (a little over a month ago) AND when I just got my blood test done. Still waiting on the results of my blood test, but I know it's going to say negative. They are all going to say negative because they all test for HIV antibodies, and we both have none because we're negative - LOL. If there was something to worry about, it would've been detected for you - as well as me.
Just to give another fellow OCD person some added (and hopefully, reassuring) advice - I agree with Gail. You are HIV negative. Especially since your risk event was 3 years ago, *any* HIV test would accurately tell you your status. From my understanding, virtually 100% of people will have developed HIV antibodies 3 months after a risk event, so you are in the CLEAR.
Don't be silly and go get an unnecessary blood test (or any other test) done...or have to wait with a bunch of crazy people at a free clinic - when you already know your status - like I did. LOLView Thread
Thank you once again, Gail. You are the closest thing I have to a therapist, and hopefully the closest I'll ever *have* to have. haha I will post my 2nd status from my blood test in, I'm assuming, approx. 2 weeks from now - not that it will reveal anything different, but I will post to just to let you know and anyone else who suffers from the same worries I've had.View Thread
Thank you, Gail. Your analogy makes perfect sense in my situation. Just to re-iterate what you have told me - I should make a promise to both myself AND my boyfriend that this is going to be the last HIV test I will take, and there certainly is no need for him to get tested again since - he's already been tested twice, once before getting with me and a month ago with the OraQuick test. I feel pretty damn confident that if either of us had something, we would've given it to each other by now (since we are in a monogamous relationship, we do not use condoms). When I get my 2nd negative result, I will have nothing to do BUT leave this all behind me. Everything I have written now (aside from the unnecessary second testing I'll be taking) is rational and makes sense - correct?
Hello, Gail. I thought I would just give you an update (even though there should be nothing TO update about, considering both my boyfriend and I tested negative) and let you know that even though you stated no further testing was needing for neither my boyfriend or I, I will be having a blood test done on Wednesday. The only reason is to remove any thoughts of doubt from my mind. My boyfriend thinks it is completely unnecessary...and stupid (which I agree with)...but something was said this weekend (by an outside party) and brought up the worry again. I have no idea why I am having irrational, recurring worries about this. You and several other people have concurred that the OraQuick at-home test was conclusive - not to mention the fact that we both took the test and we both tested negative.
I was going to just let it go again and not let it worry me, but I was prompted by my boyfriend to just get a blood test so I won't worry about it any longer...again, even though it's a "stupid" idea (which yes, I agree with - and don't know why I would have any doubts whatsoever after taking either an oral or blood test). He is not going to get any further testing done, because he is 100% confident with BOTH of our results. I wish I could just have his ease-of-mind and confidence, but for some reason, there's still an inkling of doubt which causes me to continuously think about it. And I am frankly tired of thinking about, talking about it, looking up stuff online about it, etc. I just want to be done with it - ALTOGETHER!
So, I will cut to the chase. Since both my boyfriend and I already tested negative, and I am getting a second test done to be DOUBLE-SURE (even though we are both certain it will be negative), would I be correct to know - without a shadow of a doubt - that we are BOTH negative (seeing as how when this is said and done, one of us will have been tested once very recently and the other [me> will have been tested twice very recently)? This seems like a very unnecessary question, and my second negative result should be considered a slap in my face. I should already know, without any doubts or concerns, that we are BOTH negative!!!
I apologize if this is an aggravating thing to keep harping on, but I did gain some relief from what you wrote a week ago - it's only because it was brought up over the weekend to cause more unwanted doubts. I appreciate and await your response. Thank you very much.View Thread
This message is directed to Gail or anyone who is educated on this topic:
Hello, this is my first time posting here. This site has been very helpful to me lately, and I just wanted to share my story in regards to this topic. I recently used the OraQuick at-home test with my boyfriend (who I have been in a monogamous relationship with for a little over 2 years), and we both tested negative. The whole idea of us getting tested together had been in the back of my head for awhile, but I had never given it much thought. Thinking that it would be the responsible and right thing to do (simply for peace of mind), we decided to take the OraQuick test, since I read that it was reliable and convenient. However, we took the test on 2/6/13 and I keep obsessing over it. I'm pretty sure it's because I have looked at so much online in regards to this, that I have caused myself to second-guess things.
To give you a little backstory, we both had HIV tests done very shortly before we started a relationship with each other. We were both negative then (he had a rapid test done, and I had a blood test done) and now we are *still* negative after this most recent test. I had one *protected* sexual encounter with somebody before we started dating (after receiving my HIV negative status), but other than that, I have nothing to worry about. He, on the other hand, was only with me after we were both tested.
So, to keep this short - my question is (with me already knowing the answer - I guess I'm just OCD): Should I regard the HIV negative status from the OraQuick test that *both* my boyfriend and I took to be conclusive and accurate, and move on from this? It just seems to constantly be on my mind, to the point of where I almost went to go get a blood test done twice...but I never did, because I knew I was thinking irrationally. My best friend is actually a nurse, and she has told me repeatedly not to worry about it, that I am fine, and that she would even recommend the OraQuick at-home test to people. I have even had my own boyfriend, my sister, and a couple friends tell me that I have *nothing* to worry about, and they all question why it's still on my mind. I have never been this OCD about anything in my whole life!
I feel confident enough that my boyfriend and I are both negative and that neither of us have anything to worry about. My boyfriend has even told me that he was 99.99% sure of his HIV negative status prior to taking the test and now he is well beyond 100% sure. We both followed the directions to the OraQuick test very carefully, and I did a large amount of research before purchasing the test.
The only other thing that I think could be driving me crazy regarding this test is that the only sexual encounter I was remotely worried about (again, it was protected - so there was minimum to zero risk) was the one-night stand I had with a guy before my bf and I started dating. My bf and I were only friends at the time, but I knew he was interested in me (and I was, also - but I was unsure of things at the time, having just broken up with someone I had been with for 5 years). I still feel some guilt from this, even though it was before we started dating. I know that it hurt him, and I have apologized for it in the past and we have moved on from it. But, maybe it's something in the back of my head causing these OCD thoughts and feelings of guilt? Just a theory.
I guess I just need to hear something from an outside party or somebody that supplies medical advice (i.e. this forum). I realize I am sounding like a worry-wart, but I didn't know where else to turn. I'll be looking forward to your response. Thank you for all the help you've provided so far regarding this topic.View Thread