Sorry for the long delay. But I've been a little depressed and easily distracted. She did agree to delay. I went to visit the nurse treating her at the nearby hospital and she cleared up some questions, but I still have a lot of learning to do. I really am thankful for the help given here and will probably be back often to ask more.
I am so thankful for your honest reply. I admit sometimes I am okay with her status, other times not so sure. The shock is similar to me as the day my father died. It is very powerful then fades and hits again full force. I am having thoughts about cancelling. I have spoken to her about postponing at least and she gets resentful. We had spoken about having children and I read that there is a one in four chance of a child being born with the virus, and even if born negative, the child must be tested for some time.