First, there's no guarantee that your burning sensation is caused by chlamydia, since that disease often has no symptoms. Moreover, chlamydia and gonorrhea both are much easier to transmit than HIV - they can be transmitted fairly easily by oral sex, for example. So, unfortunately, this is no gauge as to how likely it may have been for you to get HIV.View Thread
HIV is only realistically transmitted by contact between an infected person's blood or sexual fluids and your bloodstream, and for heterosexual males the primary area of concern is the mucous membrane that lines the urethra. Oral sex is an extremely low-risk activity and absent any other circumstances like open sores it is not usually worth worrying about.
This means that the only possible exposure you could have had was if you had accidentally put the condom on outside in the second time.
Many people are comforted when we show that HIV infection is not as easily as most people fear. The average estimated risk of infection for a man having vaginal intercourse with a woman known to be HIV-positive is about 1 in 2,000. So, your risk is much lower because you do not know that your partner had the virus to begin with, because a condom was used, because you can't confirm that you actually did put the condom back on outside-in, and because even if you did the possibility that there would be any HIV-infected fluids there or that any virus would have then been able to permeate the mucous membrane in your urethra is exceedingly low.
As for all of your symptoms, I can understand why you are worried by them. However, HIV cannot be diagnosed by symptoms and it's not useful to even try. Largely because, when they appear they look and feel exactly like the flu and numerous other common viral infections. HIV symptoms also appear between 2 and 6 weeks after infection, last for a week or two, then go away. Your experiences don't really match up.
Since it has been over 30 days since the encounter, an HIV test now will be very accurate (about 95% conclusive) so it might give you some peace of mind to get tested now and then get a follow-up to confirm your result a the 3-month mark.
I really don't think your risk was very significant and the odds appear to be completely in your favor.
No, this is not a risk for HIV. If you think this through logically, if HIV could be transmitted this way we would all have it by now.
HIV is transmitted by direct contact between the blood or sexual fluids of an infected person and the blood stream of someone else. This only realistically happens during unprotected sexual intercourse or sharing IV needles. Avoid those activities, and you do not need to worry about HIV.
First, it's unlikely that there was any sexual fluid on his hand when he touched you. Even if there were, any virus in it would have long since died by the time you brushed your cheek or washed your face.
A negative result at 30 days after a possibly risky exposure is a very good indication of your status. The odds of your status changing with a test at 90 days are extremely low. Moreover, HIV cannot be diagnosed by symptoms so you'd be better off ignoring them.
We can't rea your ex's mind so we don't know what he meant or if he's being serious. For your own peace of mind, have another test done on or after July 1. It will give you a conclusive result and the odds are totally in your favor that it will confirm your negative results.
Your risk was a few moments of vaginal penetration without a condom with woman whose HIV status you don't know (and who you have no reason to suspect to be positive).
This is really not a situation you need to keep worrying about. You made the right choice by stopping the sex when the condom came off, so congratulations for having the presence of mind to do so. However, the minimal exposure you would have had in this encounter really means that there is effectively no chance you could have gotten infected.
HIV is not an easy virus to catch. The average estimated risk for a man having an average-length episode of unprotected vaginal intercourse with a woman definitely known to be HIV-positive is about 1 in 2000. Your risk is substantially lower because of the short time of exposure and the fact that your partner very likely doesn't have HIV at all.
It's good for your mental health that you are getting tested. If the test is done 90 days or more after this episode, then your results will be fully conclusive and reliable - and if this is your only risky encounter, I'm fully confident that they will be negative.
Red spots like what you describe could be caused by a yeast infection, or maybe some kind of allergic reaction. This would be even more likely if you are not circumcised.
They are NOT indicative of HIV or any other major STD, so there does not appear to me to be any reason to be worried. You should see a doctor to determine the cause and the treatment.
I don't think HIV testing is necessary because of this incident because oral sex - especially receiving oral sex - in an extremely low risk activity. Everyone who is sexually active, however, should be aware of his status so testing might be a good idea for that reason alone, and also because you're worried enough to ask this question here.
If you didn't have unprotected sex, then there was no risk for HIV.
While mononucleosis often does include a sore throat, it doesn't have to.
Mono is vastly more easy to transmit than HIV, and since you were never apparently at risk for HIV I don't see any reason to assume that you have it. I would trust your doctor and accept that it is mono.
Your risk was minimal because the ejaculation took place inside a condom and there was very little chance of exposure during the brief period of unprotected penetration.
You waited the proper length of time to ensure an accurate result, and you went to a clinic that specializes in STD testing.
It should be an open-and-shut case that you do not have HIV and have no need to continue to worry about this. For some reason, however, you can't let it go.
Why is that? For many people who we help here, guilt is the force that won't let them accept the reality that they don't have HIV. Whatever is preventing you from accepting your results, I think you would benefit from talking with someone you trust, be it a counselor, therapist, or clergy person.