If everything else about your health is identical to what it was 12 years ago when you initiated the pill, then you should have begun ovulating and having menses within a few months of discontinuing the pills. However, if you are like many women, then your health may not be identical.
When you are not having your period, the most common reason is that you are not ovulating. There are certainly other issues that need to be "ruled-out" by your OBGYN, but these are much less likely.
As I have mentioned before, the most common reason for no ovulating, and thus not having a period, is weight gain.
Regardless of the reason.... it's probably worth a visit to your OBGYN to get started on an evaluation.
First your doctor needs to figure out if you are or are not ovulating. There are a few other lab tests done that may be able to find reasons why you are not ovulating if that is the case. Most of the time there is not a specific reason. I think an OBGYN is a good starting point for the evaluation. Different doctors do their evaluations differently, so I do not want to list specific tests here.
The most common reason a woman does not ovulate... by far... is obesity. The addition estrogen from the fatty tissues in the body lead to a "miscommunication" between the brain and the ovaries with regards to making and releasing an egg. Losing as little as 5-10% of ones body weight can often lead to regular ovulation and thus regular menstrual cycles.View Thread
Unpredictable bleeding can be a sign that you are not ovulating. There are specific tests your doctor can perform to see if you are or are not ovulating. IF you are trying to conceive, this is important information for you to know, as ovulation is a key component to conception.View Thread
Prolapse should not affect your ability to conceive or maintain a pregnancy. It is a very common problem that is best addressed by your OBGYN only if very symptomatic and once you are done with childbearing if possible.
Since you are 33 and have been trying for over a year to conceive, it is best that you see your OBGYN for an initial evaluation.View Thread
Even amongst the most healthy individuals your age, pregnancy rates and then live birth rates are much lower than say... a 25 year old.
Besides continuing to "try" there is is not a lot that you and your husband can do to control it. I suppose you could see a specialist who may have medications/procedures to increase your chances each month of conceiving. They could also test your "ovarian reserve" (a blood test to get an idea if your ovaries are acting like a 45 year old or acting younger). Then it would be possible to provide measures to increase your monthly chances of conception.
If that does not seem reasonable, then keep doing what you are doing. Know that it is not impossible and can happen!View Thread
1) No sex positions/rituals greatly affect conception rates.
2) Sounds like you guys are doing all the right things. If you have read my previous answers to questions, I always say the same thing.... have sex daily or every other day from around cycle day 10 to around cycle day 20. That will ensure you hit your "fertility window" unless you cycle length is super long.
Since it has been 1 year, without conception, I would go see your OBGYN provider and get an initial evaluation. Part of this will be a semen analysis from your husband.View Thread
When a man ejaculates, millions and millions of sperms within the semen are deposited in the vagina. Within seconds, those that are going to survive, start making the swim through the cervix, uterus, and tubes.
It is a conception myth that different rituals to try to keep the sperm in the vagina longer helps you get pregnant. That being said, I probably would not immediately jump out of bed the second after he ejaculates.
But to answer your question, you are not doing anything wrong and no, there is not a magic post-sex ritual, nor is it super important to have the semen in the vagina longer.View Thread