I'm so sorry to hear about your doctor not treating you adequately. It's amazing the number of incompetent doctors out there
However, I agree with the girls!!! Do not give up yet, not until you know you've tried all you could.
The girls all had wonderful suggestions, and a combination of those could be a solution to get you to IVF.
I also would consider putting in a grievance letter with your insurance company. It seems like you may have grounds to pursue legal action against the doctor who misdiagnosed you. 5 years is a looooong time for a doctor to have treated you for infertility without moving you on to IVF. Unless of course all your other health issues you mentioned were still pending until recently....?
Also, I've found that with infertility, you sometimes need to ask for what you want. Some doctors just think that "you have plenty of time" (based on NOTHING cause I was told that but never did any doctor suggest I get an AMH test despite my age, and that I didnt know existed until Kris suggested to you!), or they think you need to try to beat the odds longer, etc.
But if your old doctor (the one you went back to now) told you so clearly that IVF is your only chance, he may know something. Which is why he referred you out 5 years ago.... And therefore this may be a good grievance case against your insurance company, and sometimes a simple letter to them showing them their doctor messed up might be enough of an incentive for them to quickly want to find you another IVF doctor.... Or allow for you to go see one out of network and cover the expense as they would have with the old one.
Finally - if all else fails... Do remember that it's not because you can't have biological children that your life needs to be childless. I volunteer with a few organizations and can assure you there are many little ones out there in need of a loving home. And these organizations will help you through the adoption program. So you can also consider adoption, I hear beautiful love stories about adoption all the time View Thread
me36, dh40 TTC9mo, now bck-2-bck IUI w/Clomid, IUI 1: 09/12- BFN; IUI 2: 10/24/12! Considering IVF if unsuccessful IUI 2
I would like to ask you veterans of IVF cycles what it's like to do IVF. I am still relatively new to all of this, but because of our age, we are considering moving to IVF within the next couple of months, but I would really like to understand it better - from women who've actually been through it, as opposed to from hearing about it through my RE. I am trying to make an informed decision and be prepared for what may come, in hoped that it might make it an easier 'ride', if at all possible.
My questions are: - What was your protocol/drugs&dosage? - How did you experience the stimulation drugs? - What was the single worst side effect you experienced from the stimulation? - What was/were the worst part(s) of the IVF cycle, for you, personally? - What do you think, if you know, was/were the hardest aspect(s) of the cycle for your SO? - Were you able to adjust the dose of the stimulation meds half way through the cycle, if needed? - If you know, how long does one have to wait before starting an IVF cycle (that period when they put you 'on the pill'? Is it variable depending on each person?
Any answers to any of the above are truly appreciated.
Wishing all those who are still TTC all the best.View Thread
Hi again, and you are very welcome. I'm no expert, but I try to share what I've read or been told by my RE and hopefully that helps.
Given your history of irregular periods, I guess the 150mg makes sense It sure seems to have worked, you got 3 follicles and that's great! And one that is nice and big Glad to hear your doc thinks there's a 30% chance, that is great! Maybe he counts about 10% for each egg, who knows? Either way it's good!!
Good luck during these 2 weeks, stay really busy and serene, positive and healthy, as many say that it makes a big difference!!
I know how you feel, I always have hope until, as ATT76 put it, 'I see red", no matter what the tests say... even if in my rational mind I "know" that if around 13-14DPO the test is still negative, it probably means it's a no-go.... but then, when you read the tests, it's only 99% accurate anyway and that accuracy is only as of 1st day of missed period so.... I say HOPE until you see red!!
Sorry to hear about your strong reaction to the shots
Has it gotten any better? Did you talk to your RE about it? Does the RE adjust the shots accordingly, or just keeps pushing through til it's time to retrieve?
I just wanted to come by your thread and send you a big virtual ((hug)) and wish you well. Keep us posted, I'm following your IVF journey closely and crossing fingers for you !View Thread
Thanks for sharing and shedding some light to us newcomers on all this complex and quite draining process.
I am so happy for you and your hubby that you are finally pregnant - and with twins. That's great news, although I know twin pregnancies carry more risk, so my best wishes that all goes really well with yours!
I read your post with interest as we are attempting IUI another time this month, but may be moving to IVF next month. Your posts brought up some questions for me.
Why are there shots after the IVF cycle has already resulted in a pregnancy?
Also, pre IVF cycle, how long do you have to wait while on "the pill"? Is it a full month or less?
First off, good luck this cycle, hoping this is it for you!!
From what I read, chances of multiples do increase with IUI, but only slightly. It depends how good the sperms are, and also how good your eggs are.
Indeed, your 21 follicle is certainly mature. I think they consider anything over 18 mature. Therefore the 15s are close but not all the way there, although I understand they grow pretty fast from one day to the next so, by the time they are released and meet with sperms, they could very well be mature enough to result in a pregnancy.
What is your TTC history? How long we're you trying, and are there any diagnosed fertility issues with you guys?
Also - might I ask, is this your first round of IUI? I wonder why they put you on such a high dose of Clomid. Maybe your egg production needed the extra bump. I was out on only 50mg, and produced 2 eggs last month (one 18 and one 21, I think) - but alas my IUI was unsuccessful. The odds are very low, unfortunately, but of course having 2 eggs increases the odds considerably. The stats I saw show success rate for IUI being around 6-12%, for women in their mid 30s. If you're younger it's possibly slightly higher but I don't think it's ever more than about 20%.
So hopefully you had 3 good targets this month and hopefully your odds are tripled!
Let us know what happens, sending baby dust your way.View Thread
Oh god, this doesn't make me feel confident in my clinic.
My RE has been away the last 10 days and is back tomorrow just in time for my IUI. But I can't get him on the phone to ask about the trigger shot. Oh well. I'll just have to trust the nurses. They said if I had a positive this morning, that it was good and to go in tomorrow for the IUI. And if it was still negative, then to go in this morning for the shot. So guess we'll be going the natural route this month!
Well, well, well, I'll keep you posted! I'll be getting my IUI as you'll be getting your u/s! Good luck to both of us. Hope you have at least one nice big follicle, or even 2 to increase your odds View Thread
So I just came back from my ultrasound appointment and I have one big mature follicle (27!) and one smaller one, 15. The right side didn't produce anything this month that's going to mature in time. Oh well, I was really hoping for one egg on each side to increase the odds with IUI but I guess I alternate between ovaries... If I remember correctly, last month both my mature eggs were on the right side).
The nurse said I'm about to ovulate, so we are going to skip the trigger shot this cycle UNLESS I don't get a positive OPK test by tomorrow morning, in which case she said I must have the shot or I could lose the bigger, more mature follicle... Then I'd have to 'hope' that the 15 is developed enough, and we can't be sure it will be...
So, guess we will be doing our IUI on Wednesday morning either way, whether I get m positive OPK tonight or in the morning, or if we need to go with the trigger shot tomorrow morning.... View Thread