You just described my year of 2012 to a "T". Except my issue is with church people. They expect me to still participate at former levels of involvement and I just can not do that any more. I started to tell our ladies' group and did not get beyond "I'm tired..." when they all 12 jumped into a prayer circle to pray for my healing. I just shut up. They were such self-righteous, uncaring, proud women....and now they are judging me, wondering how they have offended me and they are very curious about what the problem could possibly be. I wont' give them the satisfaction by explaining. They treated me like another of their projects...somebody to fix....instead of a person. I go to church when I feel like putting on make up and driving there. Otherwise, I stay away. It bothered me all year because I thought I was being wrong to not want to be with them...the truth is I don't like them! I am learning to "broom" my "shoulds" as well as toxic people. I am learning that God is faithful through all the changes of life; that I can be angry and not sin; and that it's OK to do nothing sometimes. You will escape, but I have to stay here in this situation and endure it with grace. Another challenge for me.View Thread
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