Thanks, I know this situation all too well. Although I am well past child rearing years ( I could be a grandfather, don't know when but hope to be) , I know this pain. I believe it could tear a couple apart OR it could make their marriage stronger. I think faith is what gets us thru the tough times. Sometimes we don't wish to acknowledge the message we are receiving but it is what it is. Thanks to WebMD for offering such a forum for people to discuss sensitive topics like this.View Thread
I am sorry to hear of your situation. It resonates with me and my wife. The story sounds the same as our when we went thru infertility 34 years ago. I too had undescended testicles and hernias at birth. In my case, the surgery to lower the testicles was way too late. I was 10 years old, that was 47 years ago. I can say that there have been great advances in medicine and maybe there are new procedures to assist in pregnancy. I dont wish to sound callous; I can only tell you about our experiences. I am sterile and we could not get pregnant. We adopted our daughter almost 30 years ago when she was 6 weeks old. I dont want to sound religious but please have faith. It hurt when we found out we were infertile. We asked why. I wanted to die so my wife could remarry. When we picked up our daughter at the adoption agency, all of that hurt went away. Children are a gift from God no matter how we get them. Please hang in there. I pray for you and your husband. Hopefully, there are new treatments that can help. If not, there is a child out there for you two. One final note, make sure your husband checks himself for testicular cancer. The chances for testicular cancer greatly increase when a man has had undesecended testicles.View Thread
I hate to ask this question but I want to know how many other guys have been affected psychologically by infertility. My wife and I are well past child bearing age ( in our late 50's) We have been married 35 years and adopted our daughter 29 years ago. I was born with undescended testicles and unfortunately, did not have corrective surgery until age 10. I didnt think much of it at the time. I met my wife and we married. We wanted to have children a few years later and hand difficulty. We seen our doctors and many specialists. It was determined I was sterile and also had hypogonadism. Doctors tried injections but were unsuccessful. It was not until later that I really discovered how much sterility played on my self esteem. There were times I wished I would have died so my wife could remarry. I have gotten over that thankfully. Being and infertile couple is not easy as many of you know. My ego was bruised terribly and my wife suffered because of it. Chances are there are guys who may feel the same way. Do yourself and your wife a favor, talk with someone. It may help you get in touch with your innerself. Its not easy but it will make you better and stronger. If any of you guys read this, take my advice. If you are a woman married to guy dealing this, have him read this. Dont let infertility ruin your life. There are many medical advances since our time but still there are some that may not work. Pray to God. Thanks for letting me share a few thoughts. HankView Thread
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