As a reader and a contributor to this message board since early January of this year, I’ve observed that many contributors think that whatever we as men consider to be right or wrong is dependent primarily on what we think as individuals to be right or wrong and is not dependent on something that is outside of ourselves—like a standard for right and wrong. In other words, we do what is right in our own eyes. That is our standard for morality. The mantra is that we “judge not lest we be judged,” and what one man does that we consider wrong may not be wrong because he doesn’t think it is wrong. It is really up to the individual to decide these questions. No one is to judge him since every man is different and can decide and should decide for himself what his actions should be. No one is to judge since that would be infringing on his right to decide for himself. Thus, there is no absolute truth since truth is relative. So, we have a post entitled “Straight but had sexual activity with a buddy...” and have had at least 73 replies that debate if “BuddyFavor,” who is happily married, should or should not have had drunken “man on man” sex with his male friend while on a trip to Florida. The opinions have ranged from either “go for it” and enjoy this “extension of masturbation” to how does his wife figure into this triangle of extra-marital sex as well as the possibility of STD’s. Few, if any, are willing to say that BuddyFavor’s behavior is morally wrong and that his behavior is a transgression against his wife and his marriage vows. If a judgment were given that his behavior is morally wrong, there would be no basis for the judgment if we believe that morality is a personal interpretation so no one has the “right” to say anything is wrong. My question is: Is there any time when something is morally wrong? If something is morally wrong, why is it wrong? Keep in mind the main philosophy that I see on these boards is that “we should not be judging” and that “truth is only what we think is true” since truth is relative and not absolute. Thus, with no absolutes, there can be no exceptions to the “rule” (there can be no absolutes). Any thoughts?View Thread
You pose a great question. Remember that those who post on this site are should not be considered a majority of men since there are really very few men who post on this site compared to all the men in this country.
In your post you said, "As a wife I have to say I have been surprised by alot of the posts on this sight!" I've come to realize that most of the posts have nothing to do with "Man to Man" issues but this is a place to titillate and arouse each other with masturbatory practices and test the waters to see how far out one can get with sexual practices.
If other men are reading this site and feel the same as I do, they won't post their thoughts because they know that they will be shot down as narrow-minded, prudish, judgmental bigots even though the "mantra" is this site is open to all comments.
If I were the wife of some of these guys, I would wonder about the faithfulness of my husband not only in the behavior that they say they desire or practice but also that they harbor these thoughts in their minds and lust after them. Unfaithfulness starts in the mind.
The big mantra here is to seek after sexual pleasures any way you can get it, but make sure you don't offend anyone by saying anything against it since no one should be judging anyone else. It is a very narcissistic environment.
I will be shot down for this. But, that is fine. Somebody needs to give the majority report.
In regard to your husband of 21 years...congratulations on your commitment. If you feel comfortable asking him about some of the things you have read on this site, that may relieve your mind but I wouldn't worry too much.
Lastly, I would stay away from this site...it is not healthy thinking or living.View Thread
If the "slightly" curved to the left has always been that way, you are normal. There are enormous variations in the angle of the erect penis as well as its curvature. The problem to watch for is if there is a significant change in angle or curvature in adult life because of the onset of peyronie's disease which could be caused by injury, surgery, medications, penile injection therapy or other things.View Thread
Bodybuilding.com has been in the process of changing its website like Webmd has done most recently. The site is similar to the original site. Nevertheless, it is still under construction so there are some glitches when moving around the site. I'm sure they will eventually get the bugs out.View Thread
Thanks, again, regarding the invite to marriagebed.com. I have little time even for this board but I will look it over it sounds very good. BTW: I ordered Dr, David Schnarch's book, Passionate Marriage. It should arrive next week.
I've slept naked since about age 12 for comfort. Night time erections create too much pressure with clothing on. My oldest brother and I out of 8 siblings are the only ones who slept naked. He is 7 years older.
My kids grew up wearing pj's. My sons never liked sleeping in the nude. They have seen me sleeping naked when they came into our bedroom without knocking. They learned the rule of knock before you enter very early.
I sleep naked at home, on vacation, on business trips, camping, sailing, where ever. When sharing a room on business trips camping, sailing, etc. I still sleep naked but have my pants nearby. However, most of the guys I've camped with or gone sailing with also sleep naked. Never a problem. I think everyone was surprise originally that so many of us enjoyed the freedom to go commando while sleeping. There is always a sense of modesty and no nonsense...never flaunting your wares...View Thread
I agree with the sentiments expressed in this thread, thusfar. We also have to remember that this exchange is NOT a real community. It can't be. Web sites talk about "internet communities." That's a farce. A real community is face to face living, day in and day out, and dealing with all personality types and disappointments. Information can be gathered from this site and there can be friendly exchanges, but only in face to face living can real life be experienced.
I have some very good friends in real life and like to spend time with them just as much as I like to spend time with my own family. But, as we all know, family life has as one of its "perks" the fact that "iron sharpens iron" and the rough edges of our personalities don't polish very easily.
If the openness and honesty that is desired on this site was translated into openness and honesty in our real life situations, there would be a lot of growth in all of us.
I know, for sure, that my personality can be abrasive, blunt and irritating and at the same time mild-mannered, kind and helpful. I have to work on the abrasiveness a lot out of respect for those around me. It not always easy for me or those around me, but I my friends and family give me slack and love me in spite of those shortcomings. Their response to me reminds me to extend the same kind of mercy to those around me.
By the way: my picture is really me. I posted the same picture on bodybuilding.com after I completed a long, disciplined, Body for Life program. I'm in my late 60's and am proud of this accomplishment. I've had some medical issues that required me to get into strength training and it paid off not only medically but physically. Hopefully, my picture will be an encouragement to others who struggle with being overweight or medical issues.View Thread