I only see 1 problem; if one of your sons had a question that he wanted to ask the doc but not in front of you or the brothers, like if he was having mental or neurological issues, he may not.
This is in my opinion healthy, normal upbringing. In Japan, China, Pacific island, & primitive societies, the naked body is a fact of life, & it is uncommon not to see family members naked. The Japanese geishas are considered "sexy" because they cover all their skin, that is why they paint their faces.
voyager1, you may get some grief about your post and that the doc would never do that, but in my research i found docs who have done that. In med schools, the best teachers will allow students to examine them and encourage (not demand) students to examine each other.
I was doing research before the economy went south and the sequester cut all my funding (I was funded by a big think tank that got direct govt research funds then handed out to researchers like me).
I was studying the apprehension that people have to medical exams & my initial findings were interesting when I found nudists, swingers & prostitutes who did not undress for doctors.
I could not understand why hey would be naked with other people or in public. I found that it is a "power" issue. I was preparing to explore this further with a couple doctors in Florida who were nudists also.
Nobody is straight and nobody is gay. We are all bisexual; by that I mean that we are capable of having pleasurable sex with either sex. Gay or straight refers to our preference.
The only abnormal sex is NOT having sex. After that it is just a question of preference and opportunity.
I am not attracted to men, but I have dated (preop) MTF transexual women. Even though they have a penis, I do not consider them men. I also date GGs (Genetic Girls aka real girls) too.
Life is too short, there is no reason not to try to experience as much as possible, you will only regret what you missed.
Depending on your situation (like if you are in in open marriage). I am not judging what you did, because I do not know your situation.
If you want to explore this type of play, do not push it with your friend. He is probably having the same issues that you are having. You also do not want to lose a friend over "pushing" the issue.View Thread
I suffer from a medical phobia, my doc understands. Have not taken pants off since I was 12 for an exam, and do not do so now. The doc is most concerned about my heart and blood pressure. He asks me to open my shirt, I will take it off.
If I ever had to get a full exam, I would take a couple Xanax or Valium before and after, otherwise I would have a full blown anxiety attack.
As for undressing completely, European docs will take your history, then tell you to undress (infront of them), then examine you totally naked.
This is more of a cultural issue: first there is less hang ups with the naked body (on the patient's part) and more of a sense of authoritism (think communism or 1930's-40's Germany) where a doctor expects his orders followed without question or in inconvenience (to him such as gown).
The idea of patient modesty uniquely American. This too is a cultural thing. We put the individual ahead of society. America was founded on the belief of human dignity, that man has certain "inalienable rights."View Thread
The female pelvic (genital and rectal) exam is almost always given in the lithotomy position. The lithotomy position involves the positioning of an individual's feet above or at the same level as the hips (often in stirrups), with the perineum positioned at the edge of an examination table.
Generally the male genital and rectal exam is given in the standing position. The hernia check is always given in the standing position. For men who have trouble standing, it can be given in the Sims' position. For Sims' position, the patient lies on their left side. The right leg is over the left leg with the knees bent or both knees are pulled to the chest.
The knee-chest position can be used, although it hardly is, because this is an unstable position, you can not examine the genitals, and the prostate can "drop" out of reach. The knee-chest position is more for rectal exams of the GI or intestinal tract. If a patient is overweight, and the prostate can't be palpated, then the lithotomy position is used. It allows the prostate to "drop" within reach so it can be checked.
I prefer to do the genital and rectal exam on both men and women in the lithotomy position. For both men and women, it has many advantages: It is a progression of the abdominal exam, logically the next step down. It allows just as good examination of the genitals as standing, but giver better inspection of the perianal, perineal and sacrococcygeal areas.
I also perform a bimanual exam, again as a progression of the abdominal exam. With the finger still in the rectum, I palpate the lower 2 abdominal quadrants (I feel the lower abdominal organs between my 2 hands). You will not feel the bladder unless it is full. Generally you feel nothing. If you feel something, then that is "bad." Either something is out of place or there is something there that should not, like a tumor.
Just as there may be people with fetishes or who are perverts lurking on medical lets, doctors are people too and there are doctors who are perverts or have fetishes. As a profession, medicine tries to uphold high standards and police its own ranks, but doctors are human. Some of the incidents discussed here, although unlikely, could have happened.
Doctors have the most intimate details of our lives, and (most) protect our secrets (privacy) very well. Most patients are very open and forthcoming about their lifestyles, disclosing things such as multiple partners, bisexuality, fetishes, etc.
Doctors are also trained to observe. A good clinician can figure out when someone is more "open" and "adventurous," if that doctor is "adventurous" too, and decides to disregard the ethics of the profession, then these things can and do happen.
A erection is a normal physical response to stimuli. Just like any other body part sometimes you can control it and sometimes it responds on its own (reflex). There are many things that can cause an erection, including a spinal injury, touch, or fear.
Some women have a similar response during pelvic exams, their clitoris enlarges and they may begin to lubricate. These are more subtle than a man's erection, and most women don't think anyone notices, but an experienced clinician does.
During a prostate exam, you sweep across it to identify the 2 lobes and its size. Lumps on it are only slightly larger than a grain of rice, but very hard compared to the prostate. Since the prostate produces seminal fluid, massaging it may produce ejaculation.
The anus has a relatively high concentration of nerve endings and is an erogenous zone. Stimulation to it can produce an erection and ejaculation as well.
Another reflex that a proper exam will check is the cremasteric reflex. This reflex is checked by lightly stroking the inner thigh. The normal response is an immediate contraction of the cremaster muscle that pulls up the testicle on the side stroked up towards the abdominal cavity.
The lack of any response whether a full or partial erection, ejaculation, preseminal fluid (precum), or any other reaction/reflex could be the indication of injury or illness usually with neurological damage.
Examination of the urethral meatus (pee hole) for any discharge is a way to check for STDs.
The shaft of the penis is palpated (squeezed) to determine if there are hard plaque-like structures lodged inside the shaft of the penis in the spongy tissue responsible for erections. This condition is known as Peyronie's Disease. It curves sharply upward when erect. Checking this way also upshot any secretions from STDs.
If there is no discharge present and the patient reports it, there are 2 possible ways to obtain a specimen. First is to further strip the urethra, by compressing it at the base of the penis and milking any secretions up to the glans. The second way is to "massage" the prostate and strip it again.