Thank you for your kind words! Some friend you have there. If, as you said, you stepped up kindly, and respectfully, and got trashed for it, wow, some friend. I am sorry your confidence took a hit! You are so right, some people can be challenging!
I wish you all the best! I hope you can look up some topics on self talk? I think Dr. Becker-Phelps may be of some service there? Go to the "Relationships and coping community", that is where you can find her. Just click on one of the topics she has posted, and hopefully, you can get to talk with her? Well, at least by posting to each other. Or, once you get to that community, start your own post, that would be best, I think???
You could start by self-talk, you know, build yourself up in your mind? Be gentle, and think positive. When you feel yourself slipping back into this phase, think positive, and start the self talk all over again. As for skills, its like riding a bike, once learned, can never be unlearned, so relax, you still have it. As for drawing others towards you, keep your chin up, and exude that confidence you know you have. Others can sense when you feel a bit off, ask a buddy to gently remind you, if you slip.
Welcome to WebM.D.! Are you having sexual problems? Urinary tract problems? Problems with your penis, or srotum? If no, there is little reason to see an Urologist. If however, you just want reassurence, go see one. Have your P.C.P. give you a referall. Peace of mind is always best medicine.
The only thing i want to add is, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION!!!! We men are NOT mind readers. So ladies, TELL us what you want/need. Do NOT expect us to just know, or get you because we love you. We do NOT pick up on subtle clues. We are NOT experts on body language. Tell us, and we will both be much happier!!!