My advice would be to reach out to someone trusted and close in your life - who will be honest. Are there aspects of your personality that you could improve (we all can and getting that feedback is important)? At times we reach out to the wrong people and at times we're not acting the right way. Once you've gotten that feedback from someone you trust - then you can start to see what is real and what is not real. Media and pop culture give messages all the time about what is real - when in reality it isn't close. It is hard, even as a guy, to stay free from these messages and seek the truth.
I've been working with Myers-Briggs of late and realized a lot about myself and those around me. It has helped me see how I communicate and how others communicate can lead to issues or distance. Might be something else to look into. I scored a ENFJ on Myers-Briggs which is rare in men in the US and helps me appreciate why there might be difficulty at time connecting with the main type of guys in the US - ISTJ. Something to consider.
I'm looking for key ways to rebuild my confidence after suffering from burnout a year ago.
I am in my early forties, in good physical shape and have scaled back from activities to allow myself time to recharge. However as I go through life each day I feel like I've lost my confidence - in myself, my skills and the factor that makes others drawn to you. I've also taken time to speak with a professional to assist me in working through things however I do not feel depressed, just lacking and want the ability to walk with that confident stride once again.
Thank you for your experience. I started boot camp 5 years ago and will be starting my 6th year. Boot camp on the beach has helped me so much in my strength and confidence. Congratulations on all your hard work and healthy example. I bbelieve some times I just need to turn off the conversations in my head and enjoy the silence. Otherwise there are too many things to think about and evaluate.
I do believe that Dennis was giving his personal experience. Each experience is different and brings a better whole picture. Calling someone's thoughts dumb probably wasn't the best choice to engage a community of people. Still, I truly appreciate your experience and words of wisdom on the subject.View Thread
Thank you, Dennis. I appreciate the kind words and the insight. Last night I stepped out of my comfort zone and kindly and respectfully stepped up to support a friend. In doing so, I got trashed and my confidence took a hit. I'm working to regain through positive interactions - seriously people can be so challenging.
I'll work at keeping my chin up and definitely I have to work on that self-talk - I'm not great at that aspect and I know I should be better.
All in all, I really appreciate you taking the time to post and provide me your experience. Now I just have to learn to find the right kind of friends that give a positive environment *and* learn that I can't change or help with everything. Some folks, no matter how kindly it is done, just don't want to hear it.View Thread
Lost 40 pounds, joined boot camp and have kept it off for 7 years. I feel great. I had reached my mid 30s, was gaining weight and needed a change. I had to do this on my own as I didn't have a network of support. I now have that network and it is great!View Thread