for crying out loud, even though this is a year old it was up for discussion. firstly, i am kinda surprised at how so many attributed you emotional expressions to being depressed or sick, as if one sheds a tear over a sad or happy moment in a movie or elsewhere something is wrong. i guess there are a lot of men who still cling to the myth that men don't cry. the dark ages were a long time ago. i don't think we are discussing the crying one sees that is weeping uncontrollably or crying for being sad for oneself, you are reacting to something that strikes an emotion.
i don't remember just when i let my emotions run free, i probably held them in in my macho years as i was maturing and living in that total mans world. at some point in my life maybe after the media blitz on "it's ok to cry" and seeing famous men shed tears at events, i must have let go. now in my fifties, i cry at weddings, funerals, movies, stage plays. sporting events,award ceremonies, i don't have a criteria, mainly it's the tears that stream like the river. i don't care who sees me, i don't think there is anything wrong with it, i am just reacting to something that strikes me deeply,good or bad. i usually don't even remember most of what brought on the tears but, i do remember seeing the the film, "The Help" and getting choked up at a few of the scenes, but i don't remember which ones. this men don't cry, this reference to guy movies,chick flicks, it's all bull sheit. it's advertising media and uptight insecure men who rail against men being emotional. it's worse now in many ways what with the manufactures packaging products for men, which is just crap, another way to influence susceptible men into thinking they need their own soap or their own deodorant or their own skin lotion. it breeds an attitude that men and women have vast differences when if fact there, aside from the reproductive organs, is very little difference.
that showing emotions, shedding a few tears is a sign of sickness , well it's laughable.
so, cry on my friend, there is nothing wrong with you, even if your testosterone is low or your thyroid is off, or you've had bypass surgery, let it rip. real men don't care or even think about it. you know what nike says, just do it.View Thread
well, i am a man,i don't really think about it,i just live my life. the things i do and the life i live is of course different from my fathers. however, i think my father would have done and lived as i do if the times and attitudes were as they are today. the womens fight for equality has been the catalyst for how i and other enlightened men behave. it's that simple. when i was being raised,my father worked,my mother stayed home,the duties of the house and raising children were different. for me, when my father was home from work,he joined my mother in the household tasks. he could prep a meal.clean if necessary,no goading into it,he just did it. when i reached high school my mother went right back to work.
being a man to me is the same as it always was with the exception now, that it take two incomes to raise a family which changes the responsibilities of men and women being mainly that men have more to do with the hearth and home. and, now women are in the positions that were mainly the bastion of men in the sciences, and production of goods and services. it's not complete yet but when there is a women running the country and women running the boardrooms and women running the military, being a man will be no different than being a woman except for the obvious difference. and i say viva la difference.View Thread
what is going on in this country? males are so shy and silly about their bodies.we all have a nose hanging off our face and everyone's nose is differently shaped yet no one is sensitive about it. we[men> most all, have a penis and testicles but there is an increasing number of men who do not allow any one to see themselves in a state of nakedness. why? it only draws more attention to you. you see other men naked around the locker room or dressing rooms or dorms but you are so intent on hiding your genitals it sets you apart. most of us are similar in size,shape, etc. we all look like each other in general and most of us don't have any problem being naked around each other. and yes most men look at other men's genitals. it just confirms that we are all alike. if my nose is big no one comments on that and if my penis is small, no comments on that either. we accept ourselves as we are and likewise accept others as they are. i know of no place on earth where there is any criteria for the size of a man's genitals except for the pornographic industry. if that's the thing men are relating themselves to then they are sooo misinformed. how many men have the genitalia of porn stars, look at other naked men, you don't see many who are much different than you. have you ever been in the boy scouts, or the service, or on a sports team. really, you wouldn't last long hiding your dick around there. have you ever been in a locker room where your fellow team members were jumping around, grabbing and just fooling with each other. this is how well adjusted men behave, it's called fun, no body is concerned about their body being different. i am tired of these younger uptight guys with their towels wrapped so tight, afraid somehow that their dicks are something for no one to see. and the looks on their faces when they are face to face with a naked man. it's sort of a disapproving look as if the sight of someone who looks like themselves is disgusting. i have been going to the same health clubs most of my life. the ymca's at least around where i am from have upgraded the facilities to compete with the times. when i was a child i remember none of this self conscience behavior. and i even remember swimming naked with my father in the pool. today the place is coed and modern and pretty nice, except for the jerks who are so uptight that they are trying to impose ridiculous behavior among other men. i didn't really mean to rant like this, but i'm sick of this silent undercurrent that being naked where it has always been appropriate is now a taboo. fight back. stand up, strip down, say hello to the guy next to you and relax.there's nothing to hide. the birthday suit is the great equalizer.View Thread