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Looking back on my life, I was always gay. I didn't understand or know what gay was, but all my intimate interactions with guys left me feeling so good. Don't confuse intimate with sexual. I'm talking about hanging with the guys, wrestling with them, drinking with them..just being with them made me immensely content.
When I finally came out as gay, I had no idea what to expect. I was moderately athletic and had a lot of geek interests as well. I had friends in all circles and traveled between them. All the time leading up to the realization, I never actually thought I was gay. I grew up in a bad neighborhood, so I learned how to fight to keep from being a target all the time. I'm very easily a beta male. True alpha males are far and few in between. Anyway, I was nothing like the gay guys I was seeing in high school. Yet, I was called gay all the time. Of course, after laying the dude out with my fist, it usually stopped. I say usually because when you hit someone a lot larger and stronger than you, it doesn't always turn out well for you.
I'm not accustomed to talking positively about myself, so please don't think I'm arrogant or anything. I've just not actually done this before. I've never been a bad looking guy, but I had a look that I owned pretty well. I mixed clothing styles too pretty well. I hate how much of an extravert I am. A lot of things about me made me interesting to the gay guys I was meeting. While I wasn't sleeping with every guy that moved initially, I was having a lot of fun. Unfortunately, a former friend felt he was losing his chance with me because I was being social. Now, I'm a fraternity alum and I played Lacrosse. That doesn't make me a different person nor did I let it. Everyone I was friends with before, I stayed friends with. Because I didn't exclusively travel with the brothers, I wasn't all that popular in the chapter. When we had events, I invited all the people I knew. Cool and popular never mattered. You had to be interesting. My former friend never believed that, so one night after doing heavy drinking, I passed out at his place and he peformed anal sex on me. Next morning was rough when I realized what happened and my personality took a horrible turn. I wasn't a gay basher, but I was damn close. I avoided gay guys beyond having to fulfill sexual needs. I think I was 26 or 27 when I felt this terrible emptiness. The great experiences I'd have with guys was gone and I couldn't figure out how to get it back. I stopped hanging at gay bars and started hanging at straight ones. Some how, I managed to start meeting guys there. Curse this extraversion. To say I was successful every time I went there, would be a lie. I'd look for guys that reminded me of ones I'd known over the years and start chatting. I'd put it out there that I'm gay and some guys would move on, but others would stay and be intriqued. Having a sexual experience is always nice, but I did whatever just to be with an actual guy again. Most of the people I knew thought I was getting off on converting regular guys. I was always confused on that because people can't really do that. I never really cared. I liked guys that acted like guys. If I wanted a female acting person, I'd be straight.
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New member here. Found this place when I was doing an internet search for male bonding. I'm a 41 year old homosexual guy, but definitely don't fall in line with the majority of the stereotypes. I have few gay friends and much prefer to hang out with and associate with straight guys. Used to be in a fraternity and played a team sport. Almost joined the Marines at one point as well.
As odd as it may sound, I wasn't involved with those groups for any other purpose than to be one of the guys. That's always was the most inmportant thing to me.
Anyway, looking forward to discussions here.View Thread
am new here, so bear with me!
I am fighting Low T and impotence with little to no feeling in penis. Which is "okay"; am a widower, was blessed with "pornographic worthy" sexual exploits in past years, yet as my erections diminish and feeling does, too, my PSYCHOLOGICAL fixation on sex grows; I am becoming an addict-but to fantasizing about almost any attractive woman I see from 25 to 65! In my youth, I had "multiple" partners, so I know I haven't "missed out" but this preoccupation is hindering me. Anyone have similar issues?
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Whether it's a DIY Brazilian wax or a botched attempt at "manscaping," homegrown efforts to remove the hair down there are sending more people to emergency rooms, new research suggests.
Pubic hair grooming injuries jumped five-fold between 2002 and 2010, according to a recent analysis of ER visits by scientists at the University of California, San Francisco. The cringe-inducing reports increased most at the end of the time frame, with an estimated 2,500 grooming mishaps a year by 2010.
And those are just the cuts, burns, gashes, rashes and other unpleasant outcomes that required emergency medical attention, said Dr. Allison Glass, a clinical researcher at UCSF. Those figures are likely a vast underestimate of the true injuries, and a reminder, among other things, of the need for extra care when wielding razors or hot wax.
"We actually found that 3 percent of all genitourinary injuries were related to grooming practices," said Glass. "I think the message is this is something that general practitioners and urologists should be aware of."
Not to mention the average Jane -- or Joe -- considering a little trimming.
Pubic hair grooming has become increasingly common, virtually ubiquitous, in recent decades, the report published in the journal Urology notes. Surveys suggest that between 70 percent and 88 percent of young women in the U.S. partially or fully remove their pubic hair, the study said. Among men, both gay and straight, the estimates ranged between 58 percent and 78 percent.
Nearly 57 percent of the injuries logged in the National Electronic Injury Surveillance System database were in women, but 43 percent affected men, a surprise to some urologists, Glass said.
"This is not a female thing. It's a male thing, too," she said.
Shaving razors were the culprit in 83 percent of the injuries, with cuts being most common result. Scissors were used in nearly 22 percent of injuries, and hot wax led to 1.4 percent of the harm.
The accounts of the reported injuries would make anyone squirm. Suffice it to say that the 17-year-old boy who picked up a razor after smoking marijuana now understands that that was a bad idea.
What's behind the reason for the rise in the most private of grooming injuries? Glass suggests that it's caused in no small part by a social shift that has filtered down to girls as young as 12. A 2011 study by researchers at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University analyzed Playboy centerfold images between 1953 and 2007. They found that pubic hair began disappearing from popular pinup depictions starting in the 1970s and disappeared by the late 2000s.
"Changing beauty ideals are reflected in media sources … and have likely contributed to the expansion of this cultural trend," Glass and her colleagues wrote.
The mean age of those injured was nearly 31, the study found. But almost half of the injuries in women occurred in those aged 19 to 28 -- with nearly 29 percent occurring in girls younger than 18. In men, the harm was more evenly distributed, with about 37 percent in those aged 19 to 28, and nearly 30 percent in those aged 29 to 45. Only 16 percent of injuries occurred in boys younger than 18.
So -- be careful out there, guys! I've been shaving my cock and balls about twice a week for the last two years or so without incident -- I guess I'm lucky. I make sure to use a gel and not a cream so that I can see what I'm doing and make sure my razor blade isn't too dull. But I guess that after some 50 years of shaving at least parts of my face I've gotten the hang of it. Guess the matter takes more care than I might have realized! I just use lots of gel and take small strokes, same as I might on a place on my face I was being careful of, like around my lips.View Thread
I'm 25 and for the last three years I've had this weird feeling aftersex in my testicles, I've gone to the doctor a few times but they say I do t have cancer but they could do a MRI or something on them to check.
After sex for the next day worsened by times having sex that day, they are quiete sore and often times I having them every day notice they are larger to my touch. Does anyone know what this could be ?
I get regular std checks and an annual physicals but this feeling just doesn't go away and doesn't seem normal to me.View Thread
He came back in and was very thorough and rubbed my skin all over my body to feel for moles or other spots. I started to get a semi erection and tried to think of something that might kill it but it didn't work. He then started to exam my penis working his figures around it pinching my foreskin and my testicles too. Not having any control I started to get harder. He froze a few small spots off my penis and I'm thankful there was some pain so the semi erection started to ease. He told me to come back in a month for a checkup
I returned for another treatment and when he asked me to drop my pants I held my penis instead of him and kept from getting hard this time. I guess when someone else is holding it no matter who it you will probably get aroused.View Thread
...Best of Luck in all your sexual and other issues.View Thread
...Best of Luck in all your sexual and other issues.View Thread
...Best of Luck in all your sexual and other issues.View Thread
...Best of Luck in all your sexual and other issues.View Thread
...Best of Luck in all your sexual and other issues.View Thread
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I found this site refreshing in how many of you speak openly about the saunas, good looking guys, turn-ons of shirtless guys with big bulges. The size of their equipment, and post hot pictures of your bodies. guys I am triggered by the same things.
However, it seems all of this is comfortable guy time, naked time. I guess what I want to ask is, "Am I the only guy here who has acted on the attraction? How do you manage it in your married/partner lives?
Should I just relax about my fears and go ahead?
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Within the last 6 months?60% (3)
I like to work out so I go to bodybuilder.com,,, but it doesn't do anything for my obsession with sex...View Thread
I don't think anything I said was crude or in poor taste and I have not been advised. I thought I hit the cancel button instead of submit. This has happened to another response. It may have happened to other posters too but I woul not know that. I have had a balloon pop-up if I wrote something considered profane and was able to make a change to the verbage and submit.
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everything she did for ME, to get ME excited and sexual pleasure. I would always Make Sex Last Longer(spent more than twenty minutes engaging in oral sex. and Give my Women an EXPLOSIVE Orgasms or two? Using my tongue like a pussy cat licking water. Or humming a love song navigate against components of the female genitalia with your tongue, and make them love it Yes Rocker it get me and her wanting round 2. In her tiny little cliltoies in a woman's vulva is a whopping eight thousand nerve endings! More than on the head of your penis or any other part of the human body? With something that sensitive, if you know what your doing with your tongue.You have her asking you to stay the night. More sex and breakfast in bed.
Why COME and GO in a Heated Rush.
The most wonderful way for her to experience the ultimate excitement is by making her feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return. Every hot-blooded man knows if he can
giving the lady the satisfaction. He can
expect to be amply rewarded with something titillating in return… If you lay in the 69 position it may be a good cleaning of yor penis. Her tongue is better than a wash cloth. Also she will be more willing to put a soft cock in her mouth. It's not as threating as the 12 inches and she learn to love it. Best clean up; you will find.
Yes Rocker going down is the best way to be invited back. Your tongue rubbing her 8,000 nerve endings in her clitoris Will bring her immense pleasure. The same pleasure she gave your penis.......
By directly stimulation her clitoris with a hot, wet mouth, she will most likely experience more powerful, intense and longer lasting orgasms
than with intercourse alone. Emotionally, during cunnilingus the woman is the center of attention — nothing matters more at that moment than her pleasure.
I enjoy eat at the Y; anytime and all the time.....
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This is my first post on here so not sure if this is the right place. It is quite a long process so bare with me
i received unprotected oral and protected sex from a girl. 3 1/2 weeks later i developed an unrelated problem, and i had a 1 weeks course of co-amoxiclav that cured the unrelated problem. 1 week after finishing this course i masturbated. When i ejactulated, i felt a 'lump' of seimen come from the base of my penis all the way out. as soon as i ejactulated, i felt a slight discomfort / almost stabbing pain around my penis opening. This went away after 30 mins and everything else was good.
The next day i masturbated again. i didnt feel any 'lumps' come out, but once i ejaculated the same pain returned and never went away. Over the next few days i developed a slight redness around my penis opening. its approx 3/4" in diameter and is more visable in the bath. 3 days later i developed a mild ache in my right testicle. no redness or swelling present.
The symptoms stayed like that. No discharge or itching. Only what i have listed.
A week later i went to my local gum clinic. They did the umbrela test and found no infection present. They also tested me for clamidya, ghonera, syphalis and HIV, which all came back negative.
since then i have been to the doctors twice. I have done a month of antibiotics. 2 weeks of one i cant remember the name of, and 2 weeks of ciprofloxacin. this eased the pain in my penis tip, but did not get rid of the readness or my aching right testicle. Since finishing the course the slight pain in my penis has returned. The doctor did not seem concerned with my penis, but sent me for a ultrasound on my testicles. This came back normal.
i have now had this problem for 8 weeks and i am petrified. its getting me down and i cant stop thinking and worrying about it. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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something I am confused about. When talking with a guy in a non sexual situation and the guy starts stroking his hand over his abs and maybe touching his pecs while we are talking. What is that all about?
That is something I might do pre jerking myself off to get aroused. Do you agree? Well, why would a guy do this in public in front of someone?
It is a weird feeling. My natural thing is to mirror the position someone I am talking with like maybe they have their elbow on the table with their head leaning on their fist. When a guy is stoking his abs I find myself reaching my hand up under my "T shirt" and doing the same. Or maybe this is happening in the gym after a shower and we both naked and I find myself matching what he is doing. It is when he moves his hand up to his pecs and I can see that his nips are hard. We are not talking anything sexual but when I fell my dick swelling in front of him I knock it off.
Do guys do this without thought..automatically ? Do they do it to tease the other guy with no intent of it going anyplace? I think I have only seen this when two guys are in front of each other talking never when they are by themselves.View Thread
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