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Let me start by saying that I am not sure of the best place to ask the following so please forgive me if you feel I am in the wrong group. I mean no offense or ill will.
I am a 41 year old attractive woman who has been dating a much younger man 22 for almost two years now. We have up until recently been amazing together - personally and sexually. I never planned on this relationship that is for sure. At times it has been a challenge but 98% of the time I don't see a "boy" as some call it - we have taught each other so much and honestly I believe that if the roles were reversed and he was 41 and I 22 - not nearly as much grief would be dished out.
Here is the issue and I need and can only ask men this in seeking advice, understanding and hopefully help.
In January of this year my fiance and I were not living together due to circumstances beyond control. Our apartment would not be ready until mid-May. My fiance mentioned that a friend of his asked him about going to the hot tubs (this friend of his is a 34 year old man), I told him I didn't think it was a good idea. (let me say I am neither for or against same sex relationships - have been around them my entire life, but I am old fashion as some would say when for me it is male/women relationships) He agreed with me, but in the end made plans to go to the hot tubs with this guy. My fiance made a comment about having to swing by his place to get shorts and the man suggested going naked.
They went to the hot tubs. I found out that they were both naked, and this man was massaging my fiance's feet, back, legs and according to my fiance this man grabbed onto his erection as this was his first time in a hot tub and stroked him a couple times prior to my fiance moving his hand from his penis. I also learned that while this man also hard was rubbing my fiance's shoulders described about his rod riding my fiances crack.
Here is the issue - my fiance has tried to understand how and why he ended up there - we have now gone through 3 sessions of counseling and I still feel that my fiance needs to figure himself out. He is in the Army Reserves. He works nights at a factory. The conversation between the two of them expresses each of them telling the other not to tell anyone about it. They went a second time that I know of.
Both of them claim they are straight - they are not gay or bi. I am not sure how to understand this or how to help him.
I found out by accident through 8 pages of instant messages and then made phone calls to both my fiance and to this other man. I am heart broken, confused and don't know what to think.
I know for me if anyone came onto me they would not like my reaction. I don't know if his stories change because he is dealing with it and doesn't know himself.
Ugh, hopeless is how I feel at the moment.View Thread
guys. I go to a gym that has a mixed group of people who are basically there to get the morning workout in and get to work. I have been going there since April and know most people enough to say hello and keep working out. The locker room has an L shaped open shower plus another room with more showers Most guys go to the opposite shower away from you when there is no one there to be alone. Today I hit the shower and was the only one in there for couple of minutes when a guy comes in who I know and then leaves, I though he went to the other room to be alone but a couple of minutes later he comes back and take the shower right next to me while he could have had six available showers to choose from. So we are there almost 2 ft apart where I felt was a little too close if I did that to someone I think they would have gotten a little put out by this. Since I was almost done my shower I finished up but at the same time I didn't want to rush out of there to see what had happened. It could be me just reading too much into nothing but at the same time I got that feeling it wasn't. What do you think and has this happened to you too?
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Now there is no question that these muscular bodies are sexually attractive to both women AND men, otherwise advertisers wouldn't be using them on men products. You don't have to be gay to appreciate a beautiful male physique, and if it's a physique you would like to have, it makes it even more erotic. Women are familiar with that type of eroticism for years, but it's only in the last 20 years that men have been exposed to these types of images.
In that context, I have three questions for folks that are on the straight side of the sexual continuum: 1) have you ever masturbated at the thoughts of another man's muscles, and which parts were the biggest turn on. And 2) have you ever masturbated while admiring your own muscles in the mirror? And 3) how happy are you with how your own body looks?View Thread
Much of the data for this report was gathered from sources outside the United States and may or may not be applicable to this country. And working with averages can always be difficult. But I do know that I am in my 60s and having had my foreskin with me all this time has yet to cost me anything. But if for some reason I had to pay the powers that be $313 in order to keep it and there was no way around that, I would gladly shell that amount out to keep that part of original factory equipment.
My foreskin is worth more than $313. And I have trouble going along with this study's conclusions.View Thread
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This comment was posted on 08-21 on Mens Sexual Issues. Do you agree? Disagree?View Thread
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When I measure the circumference around the scrotum, using a strip of paper and marking it, it is 8.5 inches around. At room temperature, it hangs 4 inches from the top of the scrotum to the bottom. When it's hot, it will hang 5 inches.
My testicles are left - 1.25 inches wide by 2.25 long, and right - 1.5 inches wide and 2.5 inches long.
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