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gymrat44

Joined: 03/21/2011

My Story:

In my 60s, bought my first barbell in high school 50 years ago and still work out four or five times a week. Getting to know and enjoy my body has included shining the flashilight into all corners of my sexualtiy and learning to enjoy that as well. A really good workout can be as good as sex; and great sex can be quite a workout!

I believe we are all potentially bisexual and over time develop ourselves at a particular point on the same-sex to opposite-sex continuum. Once we accept where we are and have come to terms with that we can be at peace and come to terms with others wherever they may be. I consider myself "straight" but realize that that's only part of who I am.

Have been married to two wonderful yet very different women and have learned much from them.

For one-on-one conversation my e-mail is: thegymrat44@aol.com

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Reply: Need Help Understanding

MsScarlette -- I'm glad you came to ask us about the problem you and your fiance are...

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MsScarlette -- I'm glad you came to ask us about the problem you and your fiance are currenetly going through. Most of us who post on this site are guys and many of us have come to accept that while 'straight' many of us do have a small to not-so-small part of us which has a same-sex orientation. Many of us have come to terms with that, accept who we are and are going ahead with life with stable relationships.

A key element for you may be your age differences. At the age both of you are at now each is both according to the textbooks at your peak of sexuality and therefore would make a tremendous pair physically. Your guy being in his early 20s hasn't had the time you have to figure out exactly who he is and how he fits in and probably hasn't figured out exactly where he is on the opposite sex to same sex attraction continuum. He may have some feelings which are strange to both of you and he needs first to learn what they are and then what to do about them. That's where it's great that you're having counseling. Is he looking for anything more in the same sex area than some good-natured sexual horsing around with a buddy? Is he looking for a long-term relation ship with another guy? And if he does want to maintain some horsing around, is that something which you can be comfortable with and can you build a stable relationship and future with that as part of it?

Members of a couple do have activities and evenings with friends of the same sex -- not unusual and a healthy part of life. Just how sexual that activity might be is something each couple would have to determine for itself.

So, don't feel you're hopeless! You may be with a wonderful guy who could make a perfect life partner. At least you're talking now and that's the key to a good relationship. I would suggest keeping on talking and include a counselor as you feel comfortable. See what's good for you and don't be trying to imagine what society at large, including your family and friends, might think. Each of us has a right to define our own plan for happiness. Good luck to you both!View Thread

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Reply: Sucking your own cock

Yeah, I tried it a couple of times years ago just to see if I could do it. But the head of...

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11 Replies | Reply | Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:Sucking your own cock Yeah, I tried it a couple of times years ago just to see if I could do it. But the head of...

Reply: 100 % Straight or Homosexual

Good point. What's said in these threads goes deeply into a lot of significant topics...

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Reply: 100 % Straight or Homosexual

HairyD, what's the big deal about labels? It really would be a better world without so...

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jd1000, reading your story and seeing that you started sleeping nude at 5 years old and...

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Reply: 100 % Straight or Homosexual

What do you mean you are not asking us to define ourselves? The buttons are 100% straight;...

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Reply: Viagra for recreational use ?

I'm a little puzzled, Kahnjoe, when you ask if any of us use erectile dysfunction or...

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Reply: What to do about those hot ripped male bodies

Good post on an important topic. For a change I'll be brief and just answer the...

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9 Replies | Reply | Watch This DiscussionReport This| Share this:What to do about those hot ripped male bodies Good post on an important topic. For a change I'll be brief and just answer the...

Reply: Father son behavior.

Hey, thanks for the interesting post, Cam35. Reading it has jolted someething back into...

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Hey, thanks for the interesting post, Cam35. Reading it has jolted someething back into mind which happened between me and my Dad years ago. Remembering it has been warmly pleasant for me and has prompted some questions you guys might want to think about.
It was late on a Friday night when I was in my early to mid teens and I was in my room getting ready for bed. Like my Dad I didn't wear anything to bed so I just took my clothes off and piled them in a chair. And feeling relaxed when I got my tighty-whities off my freshly-sprung dick would then usually firm up a little and start to stick out some. I had just reached that point when Dad came into my room -- apparently he had just taken his clothes off, too, for he was at half-mast as well. And that didn't seem all that strange since over the years he and I had seen each other clothed and nude, hard and soft lots of times. He had come in to see me because he wanted to remind me that the next morning we'd have to get up an hour earlier than usual because we were going to be going somewhere or doing something.
And after that either he had poked me or I had poked him, who knows at this point, but we started to rough-house as we often did but usually we did that earlier in the day and with some clothes on. The contest became more vigorous and before long we were struggling together on the floor. Recently I had become almost as tall as he was and I was really looking forward to the day when I'd be able to pin him! I was so focused on finally overtaking him that I really hadn't given much thought to the fact that by that point each of us was fully hard with a proud erection. I was just thinking about how to get him on his back when suddenly he flipped me onto mine and pinned me by holding both my shoulders down while he spread out on top of me, face-to-face. Although I was pinned I continued to wriggle to get free while Dad struggled to keep me down and I guess my wriggling spurred him perhaps unintentionally to start thrusting his pelvis. The feeling of warmth and the sprit of play and of the sensation of his hard penis rubbing hard across my lower abdomen was amazing. But almost as soon as he had started, he stopped. A look of seriousness suddenly spread across his face and he said to me that perhaps the two of us shouldn't be having so much fun together. He clapped me on the shoulder, got up and said he'd see me in the morning. We never did that or even talked about it again.
Afterwards as I released my load and calmed down from the excitement -- feeling his presence and bodyweight while his abdomen and chest pressed upon me with his tool thrusting against mine was something I'd never felt before -- I thought I understood what he had said. What had just happened between us was spontaneous and unplanned but as I began to step into maturity I would need to start to develop relationships outside my immediate family. While he and I shared so much there was only so much which we could share. Beyond a point I would need to be setting out on my own as we all do. But at the same time, looking backward to that evening I think that it would have been wonderful if, after he had caught himself and stopped his thrusting, he would have reached down and gently brought me off and that way welcomed me to acknowledged male maturity. I think we would both have been proud and happy with our shared achievements. And that the experience would only have strengthened our already strong relationship.
And that's where I come back to your post, Cam35, about the guy you know whose father sometimes brings him to climax. I can see where it could be great to grow further into physcial maturity within the warmth and understanding of immediate family. And later make relationships because you like the other person and not just to get a physical release or to satisfy an inner drive. I'm happy to see that for at least one guy out there we know of, that sort of thing could be happening. I wish him and his father well.

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Reply: My Foreskin: Worth > $313

Hey, thanks An_247002, you're right. I was tired when I made that entry and upon...

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