I know you would like to have had more to tell us but you both moved ahead further than you have been before. You were nervous, he was hammered -- perhaps it's a better thing that you didn't do any more than you did. You both know that you are interested in each other and I don't think that either of you did anything you'd be sorry for later.
Your hard dicks could wind up pressing against each other sometime again soon; then it would be easier to see what would come along next. Good luck to you!View Thread
Wherever I am when I have a hard-on and some time -- and maybe some lotion -- I'm ready to go! If that's how I am, that's the most comfortable and turned-on for me. It can be a-n-y-w-h-e-r-e! And I don't necessarily have to be alone.
And if you are not alone -- and get creative, how would you like to be masturbated? How would a good session go for you and another?View Thread
Tantric sex - done either alone or with a partner - involves a hightened level of mental awareness and sprituality along with development of hightened physical sensation. It can be a long way past 'just getting it off.'
It's both complicated and simple at the same time -- I suggest a web search to find some articles which you'd find interesting as the topic is a little involved to go into detail here.
But it's definitely worth trying if you're interested in shining a flashlight into all the corners of your sexuality.View Thread
You're welcome. Actually I'm in my late 60s and am still enjoying discovering more about what it means to be male -- things about my body, my sexuality and other guys' experiences of dealing with being male. This forum has helped me a lot in getting a better understanding of who I am and becoming a happer and more peaceful person.
Hey, Masculineguy, I bet you are a real man, even if you think you don't resemble the guys in the underwear ads.
There are lots of ways of being a real man as just about anyone on this board could tell you, although each of us might have different ideas. And I'm sure that most of us have had thoughts of not measuring up to the ideas of who or what we think we should be.
I'm getting the idea that there are things about yourself which you wish were different -- perhaps you can change them, perhaps you can't, at least not easily. How is it you would like to be different? And do you think you would be happier and have a better life if you looked like the guys in the underwear ads? You might wind up looking different but quite possibly you wouldn't be any happier, something to think about before you embark on an ambitious gym program.
Like most guys I have wished that my penis were bigger. Mine's average, but isn't bigger always better? After I had women tell me that they were glad it wasn't any bigger than it was I began to wonder just what a bigger penis do for me. Would other guys in the locker room stand back in awe? Would women want to throw themselves at me? Would I find myself at a better job with more pay? Somehow I don't think a bigger penis would cause any of those things to happen and the idea came to be less and less important to me.
I bet if you focused on what it is that you would really want different in your life and worked at that, you would feel quite pleased at the real man you truly are.
Good luck, fella! Let us hear more from you about all of this.View Thread
MsScarlette -- I'm glad you came to ask us about the problem you and your fiance are currenetly going through. Most of us who post on this site are guys and many of us have come to accept that while 'straight' many of us do have a small to not-so-small part of us which has a same-sex orientation. Many of us have come to terms with that, accept who we are and are going ahead with life with stable relationships.
A key element for you may be your age differences. At the age both of you are at now each is both according to the textbooks at your peak of sexuality and therefore would make a tremendous pair physically. Your guy being in his early 20s hasn't had the time you have to figure out exactly who he is and how he fits in and probably hasn't figured out exactly where he is on the opposite sex to same sex attraction continuum. He may have some feelings which are strange to both of you and he needs first to learn what they are and then what to do about them. That's where it's great that you're having counseling. Is he looking for anything more in the same sex area than some good-natured sexual horsing around with a buddy? Is he looking for a long-term relation ship with another guy? And if he does want to maintain some horsing around, is that something which you can be comfortable with and can you build a stable relationship and future with that as part of it?
Members of a couple do have activities and evenings with friends of the same sex -- not unusual and a healthy part of life. Just how sexual that activity might be is something each couple would have to determine for itself.
So, don't feel you're hopeless! You may be with a wonderful guy who could make a perfect life partner. At least you're talking now and that's the key to a good relationship. I would suggest keeping on talking and include a counselor as you feel comfortable. See what's good for you and don't be trying to imagine what society at large, including your family and friends, might think. Each of us has a right to define our own plan for happiness. Good luck to you both!View Thread
Yeah, I tried it a couple of times years ago just to see if I could do it. But the head of my cock was just too far away, or I wasn't limber enough. I did dream about doing it to myself one time -- and in the dream, it was great!View Thread
Good point. What's said in these threads goes deeply into a lot of significant topics which don't come up much in conversation with friends and family. And by and large there isn't a great need for that to happen. But here in these forums we're able to open up -- I know that I've come to understand things about myself in the process of posting here which I hadn't fully realized before. Thanks, guys, for having been part of the process.
While I may not discuss some of these issues directly with my friends I would think that my open and non-judgmental nature would show through. My accepting them as they are, whatever that might be. And should the right opportunity come up for discussing some of the things which we talk about here I believe I would be ready to do so. In the meantime I think that actions speak louder than words and carry more significance.View Thread