Well, if put in the context of "i disagree, because I personally feel this and this" the it is 100% ok with me, but not if you say "Dude you are wrong because of this and this" and especially not if one portrays one's own life and experiences as the "ultimate right" and other's as questionable.
I love reading these posts but don't believe in man playing God - if merely advisory of nature, by all means go for it, but I, for one, will NOT tell anybody that he is doing wrong and heading for disaster - I will warn him of the pitfalls and dangers I forsee, but not that he is wrong - with such an inclination I do not agree.
As for you HairyD and Gymrat 44, you are experienced wise old owls, and I LOVE and APPRECIATE your posts - just wanted us not to scare off the Lady - surely we can come up with better adcice?
Hey HairyD, what about an owl as your profile picture? And I mean it in the nicest of terms.View Thread
A bit judgmental I would say, Anon. Yes, there are many who chest on their partners, but that does not mean that the advice is not from the heart - having experienced these feelings themselves, they are in a far better position to advice a person, whose partner is perhaps going through exactly what they are going through or are experiencing at the moment.
Scarlett - from what you have told us, this Dude is still very young and has been in a steady relationship with you for 2 years. Accept that he does not have your emotional or sexual maturity and will want to find himself. Best will be to support him in this quest and if it is meant to be, your love and support will prevail. Just be warned that most men are still sexual juveniles up to the age of 25 and there-after stability in who they are is established. Of course there are exceptions - some mature earlier, but as a general rule this is the case.
My advice thus - let him be honest with YOU and not an intermediary. If you show understanding, sympathy and unconditional love he will open up more to YOU than a stranger. You will hear his side, as he perceives it, more honestly expressed than through a third party.Trust me, I know, also having / still having some issues from the past. In my case I am, regrettably, not as honest about my feelings to my partner as I could be, but that would have been different if she was not so blatantly prejudiced. In our situations, maybe strangely so, we WANT to discuss our issues with our better halves and not live with a 'dark' secret and no, talking about these issues, do NOT imply he has gay or bi inclinations - it is merely an attempt to also understand himself.
Sorry Guys - disagree. It is not physical at all. From what you say David, your tools are working perfectly. Your problems originate from your mind set. Forget the therapist - speak to a psychologist or psychiatrist - after all, they are better qualified and can do some psychological tests on you.
Do not be afraid - everybody goes through phases. At the end of the day you just need to find yourself, mentally, so no stress, time is on your side.
For now, enjoy the jerking off and porn and, for God's sake, relax and stop fretting about it - you will be amazed what difference it will make if you stop putting pressure on yourself to force a verdict. What must be will be and will follow naturally.
Hi David! You are still very youn and as can be expected, still need to find your niche in life. I also went through times that I was mega confused as to what I am or what I liked And my advise - try both and make an informed decision - that is the only way to find your true inner self. If you experiment you can not be branded as this or this - every person has the right to express himself and find himself. If it means that you should have a sexual encounter with somebody from the same sex, in order to discover your true sexual orientation, by all means go for it. And, no it is more normal than not to be bisexual. Most 'straight' men secretly admire the male body or have had sexual encounters with the same sex. It is obvious that this issue is really riding your soul, so do something about it and stop wondering. So, my advise, which you don't have to follow is: try it and then make further decisions re it. Just make sure that you do so safely and if you can, anonymously.
As for the porn - personally I find it boring, but have been enamoured with it once. It will blow over once you are in a steady relationship, but if it does'nt, so what, guys watch it all the time!
Guys, I have no knowledge as to the medical side of a circumcision - I believe they stitch off the veins - just know that it was immensely sore for about a week - was stitched up all around my penis and wrapped up, but wow, the first time I got a hard-on, it was GREAT - even jerked off with the stitches still in - thought my dick was going to burst, though, but I came in rivers!!! After that, I never looked back - my permanently exposed dick head was a sight of beauty to me and I turn myself on, looking at myself and no, I am not arrogant, but I have a beautiful dick, especially now - light skinned, pink and it goes with my ginormous balls, now that he has become a shower.
Why I did it? Simply because I saw guys with cut dicks and liked it, more than uncut dicks - and no more cleaning up your dick all day and being embarrassed when you get imprompto blow-jobs!!
Simply love my cut dick - and no, I am not vain!!! Yeah right!View Thread