That is great and mega humorous! Can visualize it! Had quite a chuckle - you are a very wise and informed person and I always check out your posts! Thanks for the advise - must add that I had an exceptional night with my wife - basically no sleep and doing it repeatedly, listening to great music and just enjoying each other (in all aspects!).
Think that stress plays a major role in my type of problem - my wife is an attorney, I am an advocate and I am also a part-time Colonel in the SA Defense Force. Work our arses off!! We are together most of the time - day and night - we have a legal practice together. And no, I never tire of her and know that she loves me unconditionally and extremely deeply - I actually don't deserve such a special and beautiful wife - I have many issues, grew up poor, came from an orphanage, but was saved by my brains and looks, got modelling contract and study bursaries to take me out of the dumps, but I have retained a lot of complexes and issues, even after all these years.
We are an interesting couple - my wife is a beauty from Portugal and I am half German. Makes for a lot of fire-works - I want to be in control (for God's sake I am a Colonel in the Army) and my wife is the biggest feminist ever!!!! Not that I am a chauvinist, but, if we were meant to be same, why do I have a dick and she not!!!?
So yes, to come to the nitty gritty of it - we are both strong persons and when we don't get our ways, we sulk like crazy and won't budge, to the detriment of the sex life, and I am admittedly an addict!!!!
But thank you, HairyD, loved your post. and yes, I will TRY to keep the toddler - love of my life - out of the master bedroom - yeah right! It loves Dada too much!View Thread
How many of you experience this problem? I have an exceptionally high sex drive, but my wife not. I will illustrate this by telling what happened this weekend. Come Friday night - I have a hard-on of note and dying for sex. She holds my dick, but very lackluster so. Just because she has to, kind of effect. I feel hurt, ask what's going on - tells me she is tired, so I turn on my side and go to sleep. Saturday morning - still have a hard-on of note - she's not interested and I feel deeply hurt. Changes my mood for the day. Become moody and quarrelsome - she keeps on asking me WTF and I say/grumble 'nothing'. Saturday night I sulk and turn my back on her - don't allow her to hold or touch me. Can't sleep all night. Hard-on is there but I ignore him. Sunday morning the kids take over the room very early and nothing can happen. My psyche for the day still ruined and in tatters. Sunday night I make an effort to be nice and wait up while she deliberately takes her time to come to bed. Only comes to bed hours later - I am awake, hurt and ignore her. Now I say WTF. The weekend spoiled my usual optimistic approach to life and today I sit in my office angry and disillusioned. If it was only a once-off thing it would have been ok, but it is not - it has become the rule over the past year, so I have taken up beating off in the shower as a rule, but could not even get myself to do that this weekend. I feel plaainly miserable.View Thread
You and gq12 have said it. I am also living the straight life, with wife and kids and stand high in the social community, being a successful and upstanding advocate and legal author/writer with many years' experience. My family and friends look up to me and I have to lead an 'exemplary' life also for their sake. Sure, there is no overwhelming discrimination against homosexuals where I am from, but if I should even mention to my wife that I do desire men once in a while, to such an extent that I want to jump off a building, I will surely lose her and my 'perfect' life. There will just be no turning back. My wife knows that I have had sexual experiences with men in the past (even a very long relationship) and is obsessive and jealous, asking me from time to time whether I miss my 'old life', to which I, of course, say "No", but not having the guts to tell her the truth, knowing it will hurt her beyond description and God knows, that is the very last thing in the world I want to ever do - rather suffer in silence. I cannot deny that sex with my wife is out of this world and we sometimes go 3 tomes a night, but at the back of my mind the longing does remain. Call me a hypocrite, but I cannot hurt those I love more than life itself - then rather the dark secret. So yes, it is not as simple as just 'coming out' my friends.View Thread
HairyD - think the poll is ever so slightly unfair. I am bisexual. Not 100% straight, not 100% gay. I am thus 100% of neither. Bi does not equal gay. Simple logic. In my opinion and from research I have done, many / most men (straight!), have had gay experiences, which does not make them gay. Being bi is not being gay. Gay equals only like men. Straight equals only like women. Bi equals the best of both worlds - liking both!!! What about reviewing your poll options????View Thread
I have experienced both worlds, only having myself circumcised at age 25, and my verdict is that being cut is much better. Your dick is cleaner - no more smelling due to pissing the whole day, and no more build up of semen, through pre-cum, during the day or night.
Also, you last much longer during sex. Gland not as sensitive and can last for hours (if he/she can handle it!), with some lube now and again.
Wanking is more fun - you rub your hand over your dick's head with some shaving gel or KY and the feeling is out of this world!
Your dick also tends to become more of a shower than a grower and looks bigger and more prominent in your pants.
I go commando as a rule and the rubbing of my circumcised head against the rough of my suits is quite sensual and causes random hard-ons or semi's, which I love. Only problem here - my dick is not small and I cannot hide them, then best to stay seated, unless you want somebody to see!!
On the downside though - no more pre-cum, no matter how sexually stimulated I am - miss that immensely. Used to love tasting it.
But all in all - I am glad that I had it done.View Thread
Also love watching myself wanking in a mirror. But, yeah, the nicest places are those where you can be caught. I remember doing it while swimming close to others in the sea, in my bay window of the top storey of my house overlooking the street, and at university, during lectures! Now, it is mostly only possible in my shower, with the danger of my wife walking in at any moment! No lock on door! Will not know how to explain myself!!! But, I am an exremely sexual being, who has to come at least twice a day! If all else fails, the urinals in my office block do pretty nicely - there is a mirror to your back and I turn around and watch myself. Exciting stuff!!View Thread
I've always been bi. F***ed around till about 25, then got in gay relationship for 10 years - threesomes, parties, drugs, the usual crap. When we broke up, I changed my life. No sexual encounters for a few years, then started having sex again, with both sexes. Got involved with the greatest woman ever, whom I have met 12 years ago while we were still prosecutors. Now involved in steady relationship with her and her kids are mine. Love them to bits. But, secretly, I long for men and sometimes fantasize about them while having sex and end up hating myself and getting angry at her. She deserves better, but knew who and what I was / am. Love my life, but just sometimes I want to go nuts of longing, but will not follow up on my urges even though, God knows, I WANT to. I know that guys find me irresistable, but can I resist? Can anybody give me advice and explain me to me? Any psychiatrists out there??View Thread
How do you measure your dick? Curious - read some recent articles by medical institutes and it was evident that normal/average is only 6" - apparently we have all been measuring incorrectly and self-measurement purportedly totally unreliable. Only 0,5% of men out there would be more than 7,5"?View Thread