I ran across something you posted and it caught my attention about being Bi so I went a read a bunch of yur other discussion to get more of an idea how you think,
BTW you have a great looking torso. Actually you and pogo look similar. Me I thought about snapping a pic like yours to post but I am a 5.11 buck fifty guy and who wants to see that?
I could ID with your depression over the bi issue. For me this started very young also. I think it comes from a disconnect with the opposite gender parent. That was it for me. Mom could not ... refused to connect with us three kids. Worse all she had was conditional love minus but and abundance of critisism. I could not trust her with my emotions and that transferred to all women almost to fear. Dad was not much better. I sought acceptance. I never had a childhood buddy. Saw my Dads male female porn about age 10 and was awed at what my body would look like as a man. How that transferred to sexualizing boys and later men I am not sure.
I like you have been blessed with a picture perfect life. Beautiful homes, cars, antique boats beach house and wife. Plus an abundance of friends who like my picture perfect image.
I only have one friend who came to me with when he was caught looking at porn and I opened up with him about my looking at male bodies..Having annomyous sex with men, Out of town biz trips hooking up with other married guys in the hotel bar and going to their rooms. For me it is more the lust and pursuit of the taboo. If I could just stop when the guy 'accepts me" wants me it would be fine. The sex is always a let down.
When I hear about buddies with benefits I tried that. But it lacks the pursuit, lust of another guy wanting accepting me. But maybe it would also lack the shame I feel doing this with a totally stranger.View Thread
admittedly I have struggled with same sex attraction and acted on it and at times it was to point of being compulsive and scared me. ON business trips, at the gym, men's swim night and a few Craigslist encounters.
I found this site refreshing in how many of you speak openly about the saunas, good looking guys, turn-ons of shirtless guys with big bulges. The size of their equipment, and post hot pictures of your bodies. guys I am triggered by the same things.
However, it seems all of this is comfortable guy time, naked time. I guess what I want to ask is, "Am I the only guy here who has acted on the attraction? How do you manage it in your married/partner lives? Should I just relax about my fears and go ahead?
Thanks for the reply. The materials I found to use a a guide are well written. I/we rarely watch movies but in a hurry last weekend I stopped at RedBox and not knowing anything I picked a comedy... HotSpring. It was build on the cover "A comedy about the difference between men and women. Fortunately, my wife and I both have a healthy senses of humor. But it was spot on giving our issue hope. Actually, Billy Jones was an ass. Now that I have introduced my wife to the material and she is reading it at her pace I am inclined to let her take the lead. Along with some subtle comments... like "so what's wrong with the living room? I have read most of what you have posted and like the way you think. Have you ever heard of a guy withholding sex before?View Thread
you and Rocker are great. I had not checked Webmd for a few weeks until yesterday I got a direct e mail from Jes Walters about if I was enjoying my masturbating ....
So here I am back. I only joined webmd a month or so back. What I think I found here is a group of guys who are very comfortable with their sexuality. Let me first say that my early life family sit resulted in me by 10 miss using my sexuality as my only emotional coping tool.
Sex never evolved from being a fast jerkoff.. It never became intimate..just an orgasm, fun. I never had the privacy or the time to relax, prolong, edge to enjoy mb. I wanted to stop anonymous sex with guys (orgasms) at 20 but I could not stay stopped very long. I did not yet know I was addicted to this behavior. I married at 25 not having ao for almost a year assuming I was over meeting anonymously with guys but it came back.
While I enjoy reading your candid posts about how talking with a buddy can get you aroused, or seeing some good-looking guy naked in your gym lockeroom, for me I need to address my core issue first. For some reason I think some of the guys on Webmd may have some good helpful insight or experiences to share with me.
Here is the deal. I am happy with my marriage but I have a lot of shame resulting my withholding of physical intimacy with my wife for several years and want to face and overcome my fear of intimacy. We deserve better.
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When other little boys were receiving from their mosts their unconditional love, affirmation, touch I was not. I did not even get conditional love, I knew I was not wanted or loved, but constant criticism was abundant. I evolved by 7 that women were not trustworthy, they did not have my best interest at heart. Stay away from them. I became afraid of them.
I over rode it with Lust and Alchol for our first years but suddenly fear of non performance began to overcome in bed and nothing kills arousal like fear so I began withholding that it was better than facing my fear getting help. I have not ao with any men for almost 2 years. Weird that most of them were other married guys doing the same thing.
Yes, I have male good friends. nothing sexual. I know I need a few friends that we can communicate openly and a bunch of acquaintance type guys. My goal here is to overcome my fear and experience healthy sexual intimacy with my wife first. Weird, but my mind wants to tell me that when I have accomplished this with my wife I might be able to enjoy hanging out naked non sexual with guy friends. Like going to a sweat lodge
I assume he does not do this when ladies are present?
I have found myself fondling my torso at times when I have my shirt off talking with a guy and then suddenly stopping when I realize what I am doing. Sure there is a self pleasuring thing going on but it is not like I am in front of my bathroom mirror intentionally arousing myself. But watching another guy doing this in front of me is arousal triggering.View Thread
I agree it caught my attention. The thing is I know for myself I get a bit of a sexual hit when I touch myself the same. Having said that I assume he is also? I have this habit I mentioned of mirroring someone I am talking with but I catch myself thinking this would look weird with two guys fondling themselves?
now I would not mind if my wife caught me teasing my pecs if she took over and where that might go.View Thread
I sure must have a lot of questions that this place seems good for asking.
something I am confused about. When talking with a guy in a non sexual situation and the guy starts stroking his hand over his abs and maybe touching his pecs while we are talking. What is that all about?
That is something I might do pre jerking myself off to get aroused. Do you agree? Well, why would a guy do this in public in front of someone?
It is a weird feeling. My natural thing is to mirror the position someone I am talking with like maybe they have their elbow on the table with their head leaning on their fist. When a guy is stoking his abs I find myself reaching my hand up under my "T shirt" and doing the same. Or maybe this is happening in the gym after a shower and we both naked and I find myself matching what he is doing. It is when he moves his hand up to his pecs and I can see that his nips are hard. We are not talking anything sexual but when I fell my dick swelling in front of him I knock it off.
Do guys do this without thought..automatically ? Do they do it to tease the other guy with no intent of it going anyplace? I think I have only seen this when two guys are in front of each other talking never when they are by themselves.View Thread