I don't know how much the average urologist knows about sexual response. Most of them seem to be dealing with prostate issues and ED. Given the number of men in the US, someone else may have the same issues as you and there may be some treatment. It's a matter of doing a lot of research and finding someone that can help you.
The only thing that I am aware of is that antidepressants can cause your symptoms.
I enjoyed 60 years of pleasure and recently my ability to orgasm has been greatly reduced. I still feel the build up and the release, but getting there now requires a vibrator most of the time. Someone posted on one of the boards here about a vibrator that is inserted into the urethra, but I can't find the link. I hope that you are able to get some help.View Thread
Are you talking about a real person or an electronic image?
The real world places constraints on behavior.
In a private situation you can take your mind wherever you want it to go. Good fantasies are better than porn and you can replay the scene in your own mind for a long time.
As an example a friend from work who I was attracted to knocked on the door of my apartment. She said she came over to give me a birthday kiss and she gave me a nice kiss on my mouth. She brought her dog with her witch obviously was communicating a message. I thanked her for the kiss and she left.
I've replayed that scenario over and over in my mind for more than 30 years. Sometimes I just think about what I would do if a situation presented itself again and a lot of time I turn the situation into a very good erotic fantasy.
You don't even need to look at a picture. You can think about an image and a situation and you can let your mind take you in a lot of erotic places and your penis will follow.View Thread
Hard is a relative term, since the only experience you have is with your own penis. Through age 45 and maybe older, I could use my penis for a tent stake. With that hard an erection and lube and a willing partner, penetration is assured even with curvature.
At age 62, I started developing an upward curvature of my penis, in which in some sense was an upgrade. This eventually led to a lesser erection and my wife was able to squeeze out my penis with her vagina. I have also lost sensitivity in my penis head and have a more difficult time orgasming. The curvature was diagnosed as Peyronies disease (even though I have never injured my penis). http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/tc/peyronies-disease-topic-overview
As far as ED meds are concerned. I have never taken Viagra, levitra provides little benefit and Cialis provides more improvement. Regarding herbs; I just started taking the Ginseng. Yohimbe dosage is important. If I take 1000mg, I get a better erection than ED meds, but I get slightly jittery for 4-5 hours. If I take 500mg there is no effect one way or another. My favorite herb is horny goat weed (source naturals 1000 mg) 3 tablets in the morning and 3 at night works well and I wish I had started taking it 10 years ago. No side effects for me. My erection is no where near where it was but definitely better.
Masturbation is not bad, not masturbating is not bad. Sex is a biological imperative and barring religious training the desire to masturbate is very natural. If you were in the bottom 10%, I was in the top 10%. Not being interested in masturbation can point to underlying health issues; hormones etc. The erection of a penis is based on blood flow, so in a sense it is a muscle and use it or lose it applies.
I love women's bodies. I consider sex with a man a poor second choice, and have zero interest in homosexual sexual activity. I do imagine finding myself in that situation and view both men's and women's bodies as living art. I don't think that is that unusual.
My concern is that you are attracted to men your father's age and it might be worth the time to talk to therapist about what that means.View Thread