Hello fitjock, I'm a dad of a 17 year old young man. I have a nephew who is gay. I know you have a lot of questions. Here is a couple of general answers that I hope help. I don't know your situation, but sounds like you don't have a dad you can talk to in your life. 1. Don't rush it. The girls are just as confused as you are. I'm not gay and knew it when I was young. That was the only thing I did know. I didn't know how to talk to girls. I knew I wanted something, but didn't have a clue what it was. 2. Your penis is your penis, but your more than your penis. It's mostly for your satisfaction. Each woman is different and a lot like a normal size penis. What good is a penis if every time you get hard, you get light headed for loss of blood flow or can't put it all in? If she says it's to small, then you don't want to be with her because her brain is to small to enjoy you as a man. 3. Porn is not real sex. It's a show. Most women can't swallow down to her naval and don't like to be choked or throw up. Most don't like having a penis slammed straight up their butt without proper preparation, but a lot like anal sex. Porn is fantasy and fake. Yes, you will find women who like to do all the things you see on film, but only if you take it slow and allow them to be comfortable with it. 4. Free balling is a personnel choice. I myself don't, because I don't like to keep adjusting myself in public. Girls look at you funny if you keep touching youself in front of them. I do suggest you keep yourself clean and trimmed. Shaving is your choice, but as it grows back it can be bothersome. 5. The number one thing you have to do is BE YOURSELF. If you lie, you have to keep lying and soon you'll forget what you lied about. Don't lie to a girl/woman and really don't lie to yourself. 6. If your gf ask you "do these pants make me look fat?" Here's your answer. "I don't like those pants on you and you need to take them off right now, because I just like what's in them." 2 things may happen. Off they come or she laughs and says you have a one tract mind. Both are better than pissing her off. If you don't like what she's wearing, then tell her. She wants to look good for you. Good LuckView Thread
Spinal injuries can cause erectile dysfunction. Dysfunction doesn't always mean total limp noodle. If he has back/spinal problems, he needs to see his doctor and discuss the secondary effects it has on his life. If your husband loves you, then even if he's embarrassed or nervous, he needs to talk to his doctor. Let your family doctor guide you to which specialist to see. I know I want to make sure I have long lasting good wood for my partner. Any decision about surgery or treatment should be discussed with both of you. It will effect both of you.
Like Michelle said, Normal is what you want it to be. I hope your catching all the info everyone is tossing at you. I don't know of anyone who wouldn't be excited to have others looking at your equipment.
What 2 consenting adults do is none of my business. If you want to swallow pipe, but are married, you have to get consent from your partner. Having oral sex with another man is cheating, unless your spouse consents to it.
I can say I don't desire to have any sex with a man, but I have looked at it on porn. A woman going down on a man is beautiful to me. A man on man just doesn't seem right and it looks like he's not doing it right. MY OPINION. I'm not gay bashing.
I'm just the opposite of Michelle. 2 guys no, Girl on girl can turn me on a little. Mostly because I'm looking at 2 women instead of one. I just don't find a penis and sac sexy.
No matter what, you have to talk to your wife. My ex thought sex was a chore and I most of the marriage had to beg just for vaginal sex. Forget a BJ. When she did give me oral. OMG and she swallowed. Mostly for the later years was massage her, eat her, and stroke off on her. Forget insertion or oral.
Now with my gf things have changed for the better. I'm not telling you to divorce, but you have to talk to your wife. Begging cause frustration, frustration causes pain and anger. Pain and anger causes things to spin out of control. Stop begging and talk to her. Let her know what you want and what you expect or even like. I don't know how long you've been together, but we do drift apart if we don't communicate.
Suggestion: If she doesn't want you to provide oral on another man, try a strap on. It won't be the same as a man, but your doing it with her. Do what you can, who know where it might lead
Slack off on the self pleasuring. Nerve endings get less sensenitive when using them a lot. Also when we masturbate we have a tighter grip then oral or vaginal stimulus. Give yourself 3-4 days of no sexual release, then let her give you some. I think you might be suprised. If you masturbate everyday, you'll remove the need for release and your performance goes down.
Each person is different. As you stated, you've been watching in since you were 12. That's the only sex you've known. You have to change what you and your body think sex is. If you have an understanding steady partner, give it some time. You said your 23. Give you self 3 days of not release, then have sex with your partner. The body is very adaptable and you may suprise your self. Number one goal is make your partner happy. Take your mind off yourself. Please your partner once or twice then find a way to finish with your partner's assistance. It could be intercourse, oral, them stroking you or any way that involves them. Don't finish your self off. You may even finish quickly after your partner helps you. As long as they have got theirs, you get yours. Even if it's 10 seconds inside. After a couple of times, if you haven't worked it out, see your doctor. A physical is never a bad idea. Good LuckView Thread
Some things you can do before you see your doctor, (yes see him/her) 1. Stop masturbating for a while. When you climax, your testosterone levels go down and so does you sex drive. 2. If you taking any meds, talk to you doctor or look on WebMD to see if there are any sexual side effect. 3. Yes, leave the booze alone. Increase your fluid intake though. I know when I was your age, I usually woke up with the big guy poking out of my shorts. 4. Work on the Kegel exercises. It can't hurt. 5. Don't worry about yourself. Get her to climax. Alot. You will be surprise how excited you can get by getting her off.
You can have problems at any age. It's when you don't try to get help is when it really hurts you. Good LuckView Thread
I agree with Hairyd. Look, but don't touch. If you do decide to swing the other way, divorce your wife. She deserves that much. I was a victim of a cheater. I would rather be divorce or completely separated, than be cheated on. If your a man and you have sex with another man, while your married, it's still cheating. Same for a woman. Being cheated on does very bad things to the partner. Good LuckView Thread
You may also notice a greater desire to sleep and eat comfort foods. You may be suffering from the decrease of sun light. It happens alot, due to the shorter days and colder weather. Your also more depressed and moody during this time. Some solutions are sunlamps and tanning beds. Check with your doctor or a nutritionist to see if some vitamins and herbs may help. Your libido is affected by your moods. Fall and winter we, as human beings, are more depressed and don't want to do things. Spring and summer are the seasons of life and you have to make the rest of the year more meaningful and exciting. Good LuckView Thread
If you look at the Patient Rights at most clinics/hospitals, you can always request someone to leave the room or request someone to be with the doctor as a same sex stand-by. It is the patients responsibility to make the request. Until the request for either is done, the doctor can do as he/she pleases. Yes, the doctor or the nurse before should have asked, but it's not a requirement. Know you rights and responsibilities when you see your doctor. It can make for a more helpful visit.View Thread
Tip: breath and relax. You didn't say how old you are, but every man is different. The way I got over performance anxiety was don't worry about me. Please her. Make sure she orgasms first, then after that it's cake. You can make her go by oral or fingers first. Once you know she had some, you get yours. Start at her neck and kiss your way down. When you finish down below, I don't think you'll have a problem have a problem with an erection. The reason you said you have better drunk sex is because you are relaxed. I'm just the opposite. I drink and things fall down. My favorite way to relax with my partner is shower together. Yea, I love washing and cleaning her up and she will too. Once you've touched every where there is not anxiety in touching her some more. She's relaxed and your relaxed. Good LuckView Thread
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