I've looked for info regarding this problem online, but I can't seem to find anything, so I thought I'd ask here.
First, some background: I'm a 30 year old male suffering from lower spinal damage. It's pretty serious. The doctors want to operate, but there are other health issues I need to get sorted out first.
Recently, I've been feeling a lot of pressure around the anus area. Whenever I stand up I feel like I have to defecate even if I have already done so. It's like there's something inside my rectum pushing to get out. It's an extremely uncomfortable feeling, and it makes physical therapy really difficult.
This leads to the sexual problem I'm having: for the last month and a half, I've been unable to reach orgasm. For a while I put this down to the fact that I was briefly on Zoloft, which I hear can cause difficulty ejaculating. However, I've been off the Zoloft for a while and I still can't orgasm.
I've noticed that whenever I masturbate, I begin to feel that same weighty tension in the rectum/anus area that I feel while I'm standing. Up until recently, I've never noticed that before. The closer I get to orgasm, the more uncomfortable the feeling becomes. It 's like this pressure has something to do with my inability to orgasm, and usually I just give up in frustration.
The last time I attempted to masturbate, however, I managed to reach climax. I could feel the sensation approaching regardless of the uncomfortable tightness in my rectum/anus, and when the orgasm finally hit... nothing happened. No semen at all. It's like it built up to the moment as us ysyak and then it was simply over. It felt like I had a really meager orgasm with none of the usual release (physical or mental).
This is very frustrating and a little concerning. I tried speaking to my neurosurgeon about it because I thought it might have something to do with nerve damage, and he assumed it probably did, but now I'm not so sure. My back has been injured since 2004 and I've never had this problem prior to about a month ago.
I'm beginning to worry there might be something going on with my prostate, but I'm only 30. I feel like I'm too young for prostate problems.
Has anyone else experienced this, or could someone shed some light on what might be going on?View Thread
There are a couple of things your really ought to be doing in this situation: first, you need to never do it again. If you love your wife that much, it shouldn't be that hard.
Second -- and this is the more difficult bit -- you need to come clean with your wife about what you did. Yes, there is a chance that it could ruin your marriage, but that's no one's fault but your own, and you owe it to her to be honest. The longer you live in this lie, the more it's going to poison your relationship, regardless of whether or not you realize it is happening.
If you're having urges beyond your wife -- and I don't mean the usual sort of lustful fantasies, but the sort that you feel compelled to act on -- then it's just possible your wife doesn't mean as much to you as you think she does. That's something you need to figure out, because if you continue to cheat on her then you're clearly not devoted in matrimony and maybe you should put an end to the marriage.
Whatever you decide, good luck. But remember this: those indiscretions will catch up with you sooner or later, and one or both of you is going to get hurt.View Thread