I absolutely love the discussions in this newborn community! I have noticed lots of discussions lately about sleep issues in babies that all seem to be variations on the same theme...the what/when/how/why of babies sleeping through the night. Keep in mind, that I'm well aware there are many approaches to sleep with babies. The tips that follow may or may not gel with your personal parenting approach. I do, however, claim some "street cred", - I have three children of my own - each very unique in personality and temperment, and each brough their own unique issues to the table when it came to sleeping through the night as babies. I feel comfortable dishing out advice, because I've been there. I also have 3 great sleepers now, and I absolutely do not believe it's by chance, luck, or some sort of "law of averages." Here are my tips/opinion, for what they're worth!
1. Babies are capable of sleeping through the night from 4 months on. This applies to 99.9% of babies, excluding those with medical conditions that might interfere. (Example, I had a patient with both hips, legs casted from his waist down, with a lovely bar between his legs, making it very difficult to find a comfortable position.) Aside from major medical issues of that degree, there is absolutely no reason that babies cannot sleep 10-12 hours a night, without waking, from 4 months on. 2. Parents have to truly want their babies to sleep through the night, in order for this to happen. I am well-aware that many parents desire a family bed, and adhere to an attachment parenting theory. That's absolutely fine, and in these instances, I acknowledge that parents probably aren't looking for their baby to sleep through the night at an early age. You won't catch a judgemental stare from me - I simply recognize that my advice really won't apply in these situations. 3. Rarely have I met a baby who refuses food in the middle of the night. I've been there! The baby that ravenously attacks the breast in the middle of the night when offered - I know her well - she sleeps down the hallway from me! Nighttime eating beyond 4 months is a habit. It doesn't matter how much they appear hungry. Feeding and cuddling feel good to a baby, and there's not one on the planet, that I know of, that will refuse it, if offered. 4. Habits are said to be hard to break for a reason! A baby, older than 4 months, who is still getting middle-of-the-night feedings, will protest if/when you try to shut this down! My oldest daughter has an extremely feisty and persistent personality, even now at the age of 8, and believe me when I tell you that she protested when I stopped offering nighttime feedings to her at 4 months of age! I lost count of how many hours she cried, (and in all honesty, I turned off the monitor!). What I didn't lose count of, was how many nights it took of her crying, before she got the message loud and clear: three. That's right - three nights and she was sleeping through the night. It would have taken much, much longer, had I broken over and "rescued her" and the older a baby is, when they're still waking and feeding at night, the harder that habit is going to be to break. 5. Babies who are not allowed to sleep through the night are chronically sleep-deprived. What does this look like? Here's the picture: a baby who is overly fussy, doesn't nap well during the day, may or may not be gaining weight well, only sleeps in someone's arms or a carseat or swing, and would be described as having a "high-maintenance" personality. Babies who are well-rested, wake up happy, not crying. The more tired a baby is, the more fussy he or she gets. Remember that crying doesn't always signal that they need us to pick them up, cuddle them, or feed them. Sometimes crying is a signal that they're exhausted and need to sleep.
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I am so sorry to hear about your grandson. I presume that they are suspicious that a milk protein allergy is causing the blood in his stools, and that is the reason for switching him to Nutramigen. It can sometimes take several days for the stool to normalize, but if the blood in his stool is continuing beyond a week on the new formula, I would recommend contacting his pediatrician again. Sometimes it can be as simple as trying a different elemental (hypoallergenic) formula, but not always. It may be time to visit a pediatric gastroenterologist, who might be able to offer additional guidance in terms of the next step. I hope that helps.View Thread
Uggh. I feel your frustration! In your son's case, there are a variety of potential explanations for his recent sleep trouble. Ear infections are certainly a possibility and often times the symptoms are extremely subtle. Since that is something that is very easy to rule in or rule out, it is probably not a bad idea to have him checked by your pediatrician. Other causes for fitful sleep include separation anxiety (a normal developmental stage that begins right around your son's age). It is not pathologic, and is extremely normal (and thankfully, transient), and related to the fact that babies' brains begin to mature around this age, so that they can understand the idea of object permanence. Before this age, "out of sight, out of mind" really does apply....younger babies truly don't "remember" that mom or dad exists when they leave the room, because they don't have "object permanence", or the ability to know that even when objects or people are not within their sight, they still exist. Since he seems to soothe rather quickly when you go to him, this might be a possibility. Like you mentioned, teething is also a possibility. Night terrors typically manifest in a different pattern that what you are describing, so I doubt this is the cause. I hope that helps a little bit. Keep us posted!View Thread
I am sorry to hear about your litte guy's trouble with diarrhea. Sometimes the best approach to diarrhea in babies is to feed them smaller amounts of liquid more often. So if he normally takes a 6 oz bottle every 4 hours, try a 3 oz bottle every 2-3 hours. In your son's case, since he has had diarrhea for several weeks, and now has a bad diaper rash, I would say it is time to head back to the pediatrician's office for a re-evaluation. Good luck to you.View Thread
Hi ArleneMartinez, Congratulations on your new little one! Newborn rashes can be very frustrating to deal with, but thankfully, most of them are nothing to be alarmed about. The most common rash in newborns is neonatal acne. This condition is self-limiting (it goes away on it's own without doing anything to it) and is due to maternal hormones circulating in the baby's system. It is not affected by anything the baby is exposed to and is not related to the mother's diet, even if you are breast feeding. The typical onset is around 2-3 weeks of age and it usually subsides by around 6-8 weeks. Eczema can also cause a facial rash in newborns. While it is also nothing to be overly worried about, if it seems like the rash is getting worse and not better, I would suggest seeing your pediatrician about it. Congratulations again, and best of luck to you!View Thread
Hi An_247736, I am sorry to hear about your little guy! I agree that this needs to be evaluated by your pediatrician. Hopefully by now, you have had a chance to have his belly button looked at. It is not uncommon for a small portion of the umbilical cord to remain moist (an umbilical granuloma), and this can lead to infections. The symptoms that you are describing certainly sound like this could be the case. Please let us know how he is doing.View Thread
Hi NatBugsMom, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's never ending diaper rash. That must be so frustrating. While allergies to urine are not heard of, other dermatologic/skin conditions can cause a constant rash in the diaper area, as well as some vitamin deficiencies or contact allergies (to certain diaper or wipes brands). Since it sounds like you have tried numerous things to treat the rash, and since none of them seem to be helping, it might be helpful to visit a pediatric dermatologist. It is certainly possible that she is truly experiencing "just a diaper rash" and not something more complicated, but it would be nice to be able to have some new suggestions for topical creams and regimens to try, even if that is the case. While I cannot recommend specific treatments here, a pediatric dermatologist may be able to. Good luck and keep us posted.View Thread
Hi An_247514, I am so sorry to hear that your granddaughter is having this problem. What you are describing certainly sounds like it could be acid reflux, especially since it seems to happen hours after she eats and not during a feeding. Regardless of the suspected cause, she is having respiratory difficulty with these episodes, which means that it is definitely time for her to be seen by her pediatrician. Keeping her upright after feedings is a good idea, but I would not recommend trying out different formulas until she has seen her pediatrician. I hope that helps.View Thread
Hi pawpaw1pawpaw, Sweaty feet in an infant by themselves, should not be concerning. If babies noticebly sweat (all over), particularly with feedings, that might be something to let the pediatrician know about. Otherwise, if the baby is gaining weight appropriately and thriving, there is most likely nothing to be concerned about.View Thread
Hi An_247203, I am so sorry that your little guy is going through a rough time. It is bad enough to have to deal with an ear infection, but not being able to take formula, too? That's tough!! My advice is to hang in there, that it will get better. One of the other mothers (lbcash) mentioned that her child had a hard time with taking formula during an ear infection because it is thicker and causes babies to have to suck harder to get it out of the bottle. This is absolutely true, and I would expect him to be able to tolerate the formula much better, as the ear infection resolves. Keep him hydrated with the Pedialyte, continue to offer the formula first, and keep us updated.View Thread