Hmm..Well, if I may be so bold as to give my honest opinion..
I think creating a new ~private~ board to avoid drama is sort of silly. (sorry, JMHO). I did read some of what went on but in all honesty I can't even remember what all was said now!
But picking and choosing who is allowed to participate won't stop drama. jmo So I don't think I want to join the other board, either, based on that. Eventually it will seep into the private board, too, it's just a given.
Of course, this is all just how I view it. Others might (and probably do) see it differently. But I do remember that this board was created to cut back on drama, too, originally.....Just some food for thought.View Thread
My mamaw always told me it's the easiest when they're little, because it's easier to explain to a 5yo why they can't have a toy or draw on the wall with markers, than it is to explain to a teenager why she can't wear black lipstick or borrow the car.
I'm not so sure that how far the children are apart has anything to do with it, really. Or being a SAHM or WOHM. I think it's just the pressures of life in general, of being The Perfect Mom, The Perfect Wife, etc.
My kids are all *around* 2 years apart. And I have a 9yo, a 6 1/2 yo, a 4 1/2 yo, and little man will be 2 in July. DD1 (6 1/2) thinks she's 16. She argues with EVERYONE, and so does DS1. Seriously, there are days when she and DS1 (9) have me in the bathroom in tears with their fighting. Saturday was one of those days.
I have to just come at it with a sense of humor or I'd go insane. I do this whole parenting/homemaker/cook/chauffeur/wife thing a lot on my own, too. If I told my kids to go play with something while I cleaned..? Please. They'd just scoff at me and continue wreaking whatever havoc they were in the middle of to begin with. lol When I clean, it's a struggle to get it all done. When I cook, it's a struggle to get everyone seated, fed, and cleaned up.
It's life. It's how it is. And some days it can really, really wear you down, no matter who you are.
And being a SAHM with 4 little ones, I have no respite. Nowhere to turn. Nowhere to leave the kids so I can go to the dr, even. No one to help when all 4 are sick, or when I'M sick. It's just tough, DH works 70 hours a week some weeks. But it's the life I chose and so I deal with it and try to find enjoyment in everything I can.
And yeah, when we're old and gray we will really miss these days. It makes me sad just to think about it.
Hot coffee and a few minutes of quiet really does a lot for you. I particularly enjoy it when I go to pick up the oldest 2 from school and the youngest 2 fall asleep. Ahh...niiiiice. View Thread
Sounds like a typical day at my house. I'm so tired by the time I do school pickup (on the days DH can't) that I often fall asleep waiting in line before school gets out.
We had a particularly rough Saturday. I don't know why. It was just rough. When DH came home from work I told him, "I need a few minutes" then I went and got in a warm shower until there was no more hot water.
yeah. I get it. Some days leave you feeling absolutely depleted and defeated. But then you look at their little faces and you find the strength to do it all over again the next day, right?
LOL! at least she's sitting on the potty. Jake will be 2 in July and yesterday he was taking a bath and he started crying and said "Mama, biper (diaper), I got poop".
All that and he can't sit on the potty? Please. When is he going to grow up?
Totally kidding!!!..btw! lol
I had to get him out of the tub, dry him off, put his diaper on, and off he ran to the laundry room to poop. I think I'm going to have to put him a potty chair in there to train him, that's where he ALWAYS poops. And if the door's shut, we have to open it for him and he hides in the corner under the coat rack. LMBOView Thread
Not everyone who is religious has large families, either. I know plenty of people in my church who have 1 or 2 kids (or none!)and that's plenty for them. I didn't have my children for religious reasons (in fact, I was using preventive measures with the last 2! lol).
Yeah, I don't like it when people tell me I'm destroying the earth with my family (yes, I've been TOLD that, several times, lol) but it is what it is. They have their opinion, it's just that I don't care about their opinion. View Thread
I think a lot of people mistakenly think that only "hippies" are eco-friendly. You know, the kind that drive VW buses and wear tie-dye and never shave their pits. I think it's just a stereotype that we've been fed for years, as Americans.
But truly, it is our responsibility, even moreso as Christians, to take care of what God has given us. I just don't think our generation was ever taught that at a young age, so now we're learning as adults to live differently than what we did growing up.View Thread