Our only daughter, adopted by us and now 19, told us that she is going to be a kidney donor for her birthmom. She had been removed from her birthmom at 3, adopted by relatives, removed from them at age 12 and adopted by us. She said her birthmom (BM) is going on dialysis and that only she and another sister have the 0+ blood to be appropriate kidney donors. She said the drs said she has a 50% chance of surviving the donation due to her health but she is determined to be the donor.
Since reconnecting with her birthmom several years ago, she has been very protective of her. She has talked about taking care of her younger sisters if her BM dies. We have no contact with her birth family although we have met BM and others when giving her rides, etc. Since she turned 17, we only see her when she wants money, rides, a babysitter for her 6 mo son or other help. Since 17, she has lived with BM and others rather than us, preferring to be in charge of her life rather than live under any rules or expectations.
As you can imagine, we're extremely worried about her. I imagine at 19 we have no say about whether she does this. Is there anything we can do to feel better about this?View Thread
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