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Reply: Dating and Chronic Pain and Disability

Hiya Dennis, I know that you are like me not only looking for some reasonable answers...

Posted by nhfrancoqva

Hiya Dennis, I know that you are like me not only looking for some reasonable answers & perspective from which we can hopefully learn & grow in some prosperous direction so that even we can try to enjoy our lives to the fullest. I am also a fairly bright intelligent loving & caring upbeat person & a single lesbian mom of an adult son. Now hold on & try to understand the dynamics of a relationship so as to grasp the decisions that people make daily. First society as a whole is trained on who, what & how we select our significant others from the time we are born & even as far back as being able to feel love & warmth while in the womb. With that I will simply state that I am also hoping to gain some NEW PERSPETIVE & insight into this modern dating scene with the hopes of traversing the bridge between love & our disabilities with the strong desire to form long lasting relationships. This chat can be really helpful in learning the skills necessary to build the framework from which we will attempt to reach out & form our futures with others but also for some serious bonding with like minded people. Women of the Generation X are taught from early child development to seek advice from their male peers & of course after a reasonable amount of interaction they begin to develop a trust which is a bond between two people from which it is a fairly easy step for a single available person amorous person to begin to seek out a mate & of course this person becomes the easiest & most likely person for this bond to take place with, once they have demonstrated the ability to overlook a person's disability through daily interaction and the two of you have made progress including trusting each other with personal safety The second step is a simple matter of a little luck & some timing on the part of the person with the disability, at this crucial time which comes around approximately each 4 month cycle you have a better than average chance of gaining the closer relationship that you are seeking. Note: Human relationships generally evolve or dissolve in 4 month cycles. The thing is that most people do not know or understand the dynamics of these four month cycles & therefore do not utilize the fact that they have already passed the inspection process so they simply don't know that they are ALLOWED to take that next step, which is to within legally acceptable means to carefully & which all due respect move into that sacred space of trust & desirability while expanding upon that fragile moment & attempt to demonstrate your sincere ability & desire to form a higher relationship & build upon what you already have developed with each other. All good long lasting relationships begin with TRUST as the foundation from which to build. The rest is simple communication & expressing your desire while in a cycle of feeling & reexamination until you have reached the plateau at which time you have developed & farmed the communication on equal terms & agreed by both both parties that are a serious couple within the framework that you have mutually agreed upon. Then & only then do you attempt to enfold others into the mix so as not to disturb the salad. In the meantime think positive thoughts & you will with practice have positive achievements based upon your ability to assess your abilities and demonstrate them to others. This way sooner than later others will notice you & at this time you need to remember to cultivate these relationships with potential available mates, it usually comes as a great shock, but if you're interested in someone it is best to make it known while preserving the privacy & social standing of any potential mate so that the spark is not diminished or squashed in the stampede toward each other. The first thing you have to do is develop serious friendships of which you begin to list potential mates from. Making this list does not in any way express any rights or privileges & I have no time for you if you interfere with that rule of humanity. Then as these relationships bloom ask yourself which of these persons would you feel comfortable with for the significant future & be honest with yourself in expressing your intentions or you will live with the results. Narrow the list down to some serious selections & Cultivate accordingly by demonstrating who, what & how you like to live your life. Show solid hints as to what you are all about, that means don't act like somebody else unless you want the person you are interested in to date them instead of you. Movie stars are single also, & if you sell them hard enough you may just find yourself holding the tickets without a date. This means be yourself. Make sure you give them the space & time to form some good opinions about you, if they are sincere & truly interested in you they will leave hints for you & you should find out in short order. Don't forget to act on those persuasions when the time comes. Else you find yourself with chapeau in hand.View Thread

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Reply: Dating and Chronic Pain and Disability

Hiya Dennis, I know that you are like me not only looking for some reasonable answers...

Posted by nhfrancoqva

Posted bynhfrancoqva

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Well that is something, but wait till you get a squint at what's sitting behind the...

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