My SO was the same way with our first son. I did all of the work in taking care of him. He didn't really start helping out until I was pregnant with our second. I guess that's when DS1 reached the age where he started communicating better and he was fun to play with. Towards the end of my pregnancy my SO would play with DS when I was so tired and I couldn't physically get down in the floor and play with him. He really stepped up after DS2 was born. He started helping take care of DS1 a lot while I looked after the baby. I think this really helped the two of them bond. Even now they are still really close. SO didn't help much with DS2 when he was first born though and it was kind of stressful in the beginning, but everything worked out okay. SO is just now starting to get close with DS2 too. I think your DH will step up and help out more when you are pregnant with your second child as well. Good luck!View Thread
My boys are 21 1/2 months apart (ages 3 and almost 16 months). It was really hard at first especially when my second was a newborn, but now it's great. They are starting to become close and they are actually playing together.
It took a little time for things to come together in the beginning, but you eventually get into a routine and things work themselves out. You just have to make sure you spend time with both kids separately and also make time for yourself (or you'll go crazy). It's really nice when they get to the age when they can actually play together. It's cute when you see them give each other hugs.
Your son is right at the age where he will probably start wanting some independence. You say you do everything for him, but you should start letting him do some things for himself. He should be at the point where he likes to start helping. Let him help you do things like when you're doing laundry give him some clothes to fold or let him help unload the dishwasher and at dinner time give him his own plate and plastic silverware to feed himself. If you let him have a little independence then once you have the new baby he will try to help you out instead of get jealous. Of course, they are always going to get a little jealous of one another but he will definitely see that you love them both. And once your second baby is born you will feel the same amount of love the minute you lay eyes on them. It's hard to explain, but you will feel it!View Thread
We want to get a dog for the kids. We found 2 Chocolate Labs on Petfinder.com and we went and got them yesterday. They are really sweet, but we think we're going to have to take them back though. They were born in January and are already huge! They already weigh over 60 pounds and will continue to grow. If they could knock us over when just playing, I can only imagine what they would do to our babies! The kids weren't home last night (they spent the night with their grandparents) so they haven't seen them yet.
Can any of you guys reccommend a good kid friendly pet that doesn't bark a lot? We don't really want a small dog- I guess maybe a medium sized one?View Thread
Whenever my 14 month old gets upset or when you tell him no he will bite whatever is in front of him- i.e. toys, chair, himself, his brother... but most of the time he tries to bite me or pull my hair. I know it's because he can't communicate his feelings- but how do I get him to stop? I try telling him no and telling him "ouch" but it doesn't seem to help. I even pulled his hair back and he finally did let go but he still continues to do it when he gets upset. He still isn't saying any words (he has said mama, dada, and hi but not routinely). He goes to daycare and I know there's another little boy there a little bit older that bites too. I need to nip this in the bud before he actually hurts someone!View Thread
Mason got his first two teeth at 5 months also. He didn't get his next two until he was 8 months. He got two more at 9 months and two more at 11 months. Those are the 4 top middle and 4 bottom middle. A couple of weeks ago (At 13 months) he got two more teeth up top in the very back. One on each side. I would say that your LO is right on track. It takes a little while to get those back teeth in.View Thread
Yesterday was my LO's first birthday! We took him to lunch and then the park followed by a visit to Chuck E Cheese's. Then we had dinner at Texas Roadhouse with both sets of grandparents. His birthday party will be this Sunday at the park. It's going to be Dr Seuss themed. I am really excited about it!
Mason is a pretty good baby. He has an older brother named Carter who will be 3 in July. He loves to follow his big brother around and mimmick what he's doing. Mason just took his first steps a couple of weeks ago but isn't quite walking yet. He can say Mama and Dada but he mostly squeals when he tries to get your attention. He loves to eat and will eat just about anything! He drinks from a sippy cup during the day but he gets a bottle at bedtime. Just got to figure out how to break him of that... But overall, I feel really lucky to have such wonderful little boys View Thread
12 months sounds too early, but if your son is already showing some of the signs then why not give it a try? With our first DS (he's almost 3) potty training was farely easy. At first we got one of those potty seats but all he wanted to do was play with it. We found the best thing was to get one of those seats that goes on top of a real toilet seat (they are $10-15 at Walmart). The one with the handles is best so they wont be touching the toilet itself. We also got him a little step stool (found these at the Dollar Store and Big Lots for only $5).
DS1 was not ready til he was almost 2. They had been working with him a little bit at daycare also and that helped. We would just ask him about every 20-30 minutes if he needed to go pee-pee and would take him and put him on the seat. We did this until he would start telling us he needed to go. During the day we always put him in underwear and a pull up at night time. We gave him one M&M for going pee-pee and two for going poo-poo. He has been potty trained for about 8 months now and has very few accidents.
I would give it a try with your son and if he doesn't get the hang of it then back off for a few months and try again. It's something you can't force on them. When they're ready they will do it on their own! Good luck!View Thread
Are you done with babies or are you wanting another? I still want to try one more time for a girl, but not til we get at least one out of daycare! Plus I am scared of having 3 boys and still wanting a girl!
My oldest (he is almost 3) had tubes put in about a week after his first birthday. The surgery itself kind of sucked. He woke up from surgery screaming. It took us almost a half hour to get him calmed down. They give you a prescription for some ear drops. It cost almost $100 for a teenie tiny bottle. Definitely make sure you ask for a sample at the hospital/surgery center. DS would scream and squirm whenever we tried to put the drops in his ear. We had to hold him down. It was awful! We only did it for a couple of nights and then we just stopped.
DS turns 3 in July. I think he has had two minor ear infections since the surgery.He always took zithromax with his ear infections and the last time it didn't work for him so we had to get amoxicilan. Other than that he hasn't had any problems with the tubes. The surgery has helped a lot! Good luck with your daughter!View Thread
I thought about the bounce house at the park but the parks are always super busy and I was afraid a bunch of kids would want to play in it and I don't want to be responsible for random kids.
For Carter's 1st and 2nd parties there were probably 30 people at least (grandparents on both sides, great grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and my best friend and her triplets...) The more I think about it, the more I realize that the park is probably my only option! We might try a different park than the last two. There are so many parks to choose from anyway. I just hope the weather will be nice at the end of April!View Thread