My nephew will be 19 months on the 30th and his sleep schedule is rediculous!! Of course I am not his parent's but I wondered if anyone had any advice that I could offer his parents.
A lot of this is a lot of their fault in my opinion, but they deny it. They have been night owls for as long as I've known them (I am as well to a certain exstent... But I don't have kids so its not exactly the same) not going to bed until 3 or 4 AM or later. Also when he was younger they would sit up at a local convenient store (Its a sit down place, not dirty or anything but is 24 hrs) until late at night also. He still does a little because his mom works over nights there now so he's up there for a while.. But not AS late)
When they did attempt to change this habbit earlier they gave up and said he was too stubborn, or wouldn't do it, or wont self sooth if he went to sleep before 1 or 2 or later in the morning.
Now they are finally deciding to really work on regulating his sleep schedule sort of. They have been waking him up a lot earlier (usually about 9 am) because is mother now works overnights so she gets him up early to spend more time with him. But then after she goes to bed and its just him and his dad (he's a stay at home dad that does have pain problems so is one reason he is up late at night) he will put him down for a nap at about 12:30 until sometimes 2 or 3. After that he will put him down for ANOTHER nap at 8 to 830 and let him nap until 9 or so and then wont get him to bed until 1 or 2 Am
I do not have children so I know I can't completely understand.. But I my sister has a 6 and 2 year old, it was the same routine with both. They wake at about nine (or earlier) and then napped from 1 or 2 until the actually slept for alittle bit (sometimes they would play in their crip instead of nap) until about 3 and then would be put to bed at 9. It has worked well for them... I have TRIED to give this information to my in-laws (we do have a really good relationship) But apparently they wont try it. I have asked what happens when they just leave him asleep at 8 and they said he will nap for an hour or an hour and a half and then be up until 6 Am. But I guess I don't get why they can't just let him wear himself out. He's a screacher sometimes... But still.
I don't know what more to tell them. I love my nephew to death, but at over a year and a half he deserves a whole-some sleep schedule regardless of how late his parents perfer him to be up or whatever it is.
Please any information would be great! I know not every child is cookie-cutter but there MUST be something that is kind of universal.View Thread
We do have a good relationship. I'm not one to just say "your screwing your kid up, here do this" Honestly in the end I probably won't say anything at all. Sometimes especially my brother-in-law we will talk about his son and whats going on. Its more of a friendly "oh have you tried this? I've heard it works" kind of thing if anything. Oh well, its their child they will eventually learn I suppose.View Thread
Thank you. It just frustrates me to see him awake at 2, 3, or later in the morning... I get at first it was more convienent... But its I don't know it really bugs me now. I will try to convince my BIL (he's who is there at night) that he needs to just let him cry it out or entertain himself until he goes back to sleep. They don't have a set routine at night I know that for sure. *sighs* I don't know.. His dad really does do the "oh he's crying" thing a lot more than my SIL I think if it was her at night she'd stick to her guns a little better. Anyways thank you for your advice and sorry about my rambling!View Thread